Experience of parent education in Peking University: step by step-I sent my "slow fever" daughter to Peking University.

Admitted to Peking University, 12 years ago, it was a fable, an unreachable dream, a great achievement that only other children could achieve, and a beautiful legend for my daughter and me. Being admitted to junior college, finding a stable job and living independently after graduation were our expectations for our daughter when she first entered junior high school six years ago. It was our wish three years ago for our children to enter a 985 college, compete with high-level children, increase their talents and engage in their favorite majors. Today, our children took the first place in science in Dongying City, Shandong Province, and were admitted to Yuanpei College of Peking University. We feel heartfelt pride and pride. She turned the legend into reality and made our dreams come true.

Looking back on the process of my daughter's growth, is it a bit? Slow heat? Someone is entangled. In high school, she took part in five Olympic Games: Mathematics, Physics, Chemistry, Biology and Informatics. Although they all won, none won the first prize at the provincial level. I entered the Summer School of Informatics of Peking University, but I failed in the selection of outstanding students. Participated in Peking University Boya enrollment plan, but ultimately lost. However, my daughter is still studying step by step, studying according to her own steps, preparing for the college entrance examination, not being arrogant or impatient, and not rushing for success. The goal she set for herself is to get into the top three grades and make her real achievements in the college entrance examination, regardless of her achievements, she is not young.

A flower and a world, a leaf and a bodhi. Looking back on 17' s parenting experience, teaching children to develop good habits, always be self-motivated, adjust their ideal goals in stages, and always consider problems from the perspective of children, which is my experience in educating children and sharing with you.

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First, take care of the children? Mouth? And then what? Legs? It helps children to develop good habits of life and study, thus benefiting them for life.

? Mouth? There are two main functions, one is to eat and the other is to talk. I mean, children must be taught to eat and tell the truth from an early age. In diet, we must start from children and primary schools to solve the bad habits of children's partial eclipse, overeating, walking (eating while walking), playing with food (eating while playing) and eating snacks without restraint. Eating at a fixed time will help children live a healthy life, be energetic in class and have strong physical activity, which will help children form a sunny personality. Dare to let children tell the truth, even if they find wrong problems, they are tepid and not angry, which is an essential quality of an excellent parent and also helps to understand the real situation of their children at school.

Children are mostly lively and active. Let them sit still within the specified time, that is, take care of the children? Legs? Cultivate children's strength on the stool. Only children who can sit still can keep their attention in class and ensure the learning efficiency in class. It is a good choice for children to learn painting in early childhood. On the one hand, it can improve children's attention in learning and let children sit on tables and chairs with peace of mind; On the other hand, most primary school homework is shown in the form of painting from the beginning, which helps to enhance children's self-confidence in learning.

Second, to be an enterprising person, even if you make a little progress every day and stick to it like a straw, success is in your hands.

I appreciate a sentence in the TV series Soldier Assault, which is the company commander Gao Cheng's evaluation of soldier Xu Sanduo. Every time he met a straw, he clung to it. One day, I looked back, wow! What he is holding is already the towering tree I look up to. ? I admire Miss Zhao, my daughter's head teacher in junior high school. He spent a whole semester watching the whole TV series "Soldiers Assault" with the children in class to teach them to understand the truth. Now I don't know if my daughter understood the truth at that time. Anyway, my goal at that time was to be a lady. My daughter and I further discussed how to be a lady.

? Daughter, why are you determined to be a lady?

? The teacher said that boys want gentlemen and girls want ladies. ?

? Being a lady is a good goal, but it is difficult. We need all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty, and we need long-term persistence and development to succeed! Can you do it?

? Let me try first! ?

To this end, the rules set by the daughter are: run around the playground four times a day to keep fit; Finish homework in class and maintain high efficiency; Communicate and learn with high-level children, find role models, and finally be a beautiful, elegant, healthy, kind and polite lady who understands books.

The achievements in learning are not achieved overnight, but the result of years, decades or even decades of long-term persistence. Because of her daughter's persistence, her academic performance rose from more than 100 in junior high school to more than a dozen in the senior high school entrance examination. From 56 students in high school, they gradually entered the top 30, 20, 10, until the college entrance examination was the first.

As long as children are self-motivated and have the desire to make progress, our parents should fully support and care for them!

Third, as parents, we should continue to study, grow and progress with our children, so that we can have the right to have an equal dialogue with our children.

In middle school, some parents often complain that their children are too tired to study and don't want to talk when they get home, let alone communicate with adults. Moreover, they have a big temper and are prone to war at home, especially between mother and daughter or between father and son. I've been in this situation. I think it's because of our parents, because they don't understand the staged learning tasks of the school and don't care about the help that children need. The conversation is not on a cognitive level, is it? * * * The same language? .

Entering junior high school, children are in adolescence, lively and active, self-righteous but immature; I want to be independent in my heart, like to make my own decisions when things go wrong, but I am afraid to take responsibility; I hope to be recognized by my classmates and teachers, but I don't want to make more efforts. This is a common problem of most children. As parents, we must master the education and learning knowledge related to children in time, so as to actively participate in children's communication and have a normal dialogue.

Do you know what advantages and hobbies children have in their studies?

Do you know the purpose of children's activities at this stage?

Have you specifically analyzed the reasons for the decline of children's academic performance at a certain stage?

Do you know what influence some education systems and examination systems have on children?

Have you explored the policy of independent enrollment and comprehensive evaluation in colleges and universities?

These problems are sometimes intertwined, which requires our parents' patient analysis and research, so that we can go into the children's hearts and look at specific problems from the children's perspective and the teachers' perspective. This requires our parents to give up some unnecessary parties and dinners, actively understand the current education system and knowledge, and don't let children talk nonsense. Dad, you don't understand, don't talk nonsense! ? .

4. Facing the present situation of the college entrance examination calmly, we should look at the problem from the teacher's standpoint and take the initiative to accept it from the heart, instead of complaining about the quality of the teacher's lectures and avoiding the same child? A nostril? Vent one's emotions

I often receive small videos and jokes in my circle of friends. For example, Beijing, Shanghai, Shandong (or other provinces) have the same test results, and the endings are very different. Parents should never take it seriously, let alone complain in front of their children. This is just a way for some people to talk and express their comfort. Don't deliberately beautify, because it can only give children a reason not to face up to reality and give themselves a specious excuse not to work hard.

I often hear some parents or children say that the serious decline in academic performance is because they don't adapt to or like a teacher. I have a different opinion. It is common and normal for schools to change teachers. Therefore, it is not to speak for the teacher, nor to kiss up to the teacher, but to let the children maintain a good learning attitude. It is not up to our parents to decide which teacher to change, and the teacher's teaching method is not for any particular student. In other words, we can't solve the problem whether we like it or not. The only thing we have to do is to help children learn to adapt and face it correctly; Is it to give children positive guidance, stand firmly on the teacher's side, and agree from the heart? Teachers are all good teachers, and the teaching quality is great? . Assuming that our parents can't treat the above problems correctly, children will inevitably fall into a? Tired of learning-escaping-falling grades? In a vicious circle.

In the second semester of Senior Two, my daughter's math teacher was replaced by a warm and humorous male teacher and a serious and disciplined female teacher. To this end, my daughter often complains and even dozes off in class.

? We don't like the math teacher's lectures, which is far worse than the previous teachers. I don't want to take her class! ? The child said gloomily.

? Why do you say that? As far as I know, your current teacher is an excellent teacher in the whole school, and his grades in class have been very good. ?

I know this teacher is very responsible. This is a problem that children don't want to change their learning methods.

? The whole class is listless in class, all talking about the basics, and their voices are still very small. ? The child kept repeating.

? Did your grades drop? I think it's because you are not used to this teacher for the time being. You should keep up with the teacher's rhythm to study in time, so as to ensure the learning efficiency in class, adjust your own learning ideas and methods, and follow the teacher! ?

That day, I did an hour of ideological work.

In the end, the children's math scores in the college entrance examination 150, full marks, and class math scores are also among the best in the school.

Fifth, while affirming children, don't blindly pursue scores, and you can't use a certain achievement as a reason to celebrate or be sad. This will put the score pressure on the child's shoulders prematurely, and the burden will be heavy, which will affect the normal learning state.

To tell the truth, in high school, teachers, parents and children attach great importance to the scores of each exam, and children are the concrete carriers of the score burden. As a parent, you should learn to be patient. Don't ask as soon as you meet after the exam: How was the exam? How many points? In this case, in the eyes of the child, he or she is just a tool to solve the problem. There are many reasons for good exam results. Probably during this time, I worked very hard and studied very hard, but the exam questions did not reflect the direction of my efforts, so my grades did not pay off accordingly.

Children's achievements are not achieved overnight, but a process of gradual accumulation. As long as children are making progress and know how to strengthen the weak, they will be sure!

There can't be repeated questions in the college entrance examination over the years. Our current questions are based on the titles of the college entrance examination over the years. Therefore, we must not use one or two grades to say things, so that children will lose their way and parents will be confused.

As long as the child does well in the exam, he is naturally willing to tell you the results and share the happiness; If you don't do well in the exam, it's no use talking more.

Sixth, teach children to learn? Give up? And stick to it, properly cultivate and exercise the ability of psychological stability.

After entering the second year of senior high school, children may face such problems as whether to participate in the Olympic Games and which Olympic Games to participate in. How to choose and master various English competitions, composition competitions and elective courses in universities will affect your usual grades? Wait, in the face of these temptations and tests, as parents, we should teach our children to learn to give up. Everything can't be comprehensive, let alone perfect. Some children must take part in the competition in order to inspire their fighting spirit and even achieve their expected goals; Some children can take part in English and composition competitions in order to improve their grades in corresponding subjects; And some children can only guarantee the firmness of basic knowledge by giving up. As a parent, as long as the child makes a choice, he will resolutely support it and cannot be a swingman, right? Give up? Only? Get? .

Enter the next semester of senior three, especially? Exactly the same? 、? Ermo？ 、? San Mao? Even? Six models? Waiting for an important exam is the best opportunity to cultivate and exercise children's mental ability. For these exams, because of the need of self-enrollment materials, I only asked the teacher the results of the first and second models, and asked nothing else. I did one thing, that is, to teach children to exercise their test mentality. Only said one sentence to the child before the exam? Think of the model test as the college entrance examination, and remember the psychological state of the test psychologically when the results are satisfactory? . Through many model tests, I believe that children will take out their good feelings at that time and regard the college entrance examination as a model test, and the test status will naturally come out.

Seven, about the relationship between the setting of college entrance examination goals and competitions.

Child 16- 18 years old. Most of them are thoughtless about their future and destiny, and our parents have no ideas. Which university can their children go to? Whether you can enter 985, 2 1 1 colleges and universities is uncertain, and the policy of one exam for life has also been criticized. As parents, we can constantly adjust the goal of college entrance examination according to the constant changes of children's grades in different periods. It is best to set a broader goal, and it is best to set a lower goal and gradually improve it, which is beneficial to the establishment of children's self-confidence.

Educate children to correctly view the relationship between learning competition and classmates. Candidates are selected in each province. It is your blessing to have students with good grades in your class, which is your learning goal and development direction. Only by forming a good competitive relationship can we really improve our learning ability and level.

There is no such thing as failure on the road of children's growth. All failures are preparation for success. Remember not to complain and be discouraged, only hard work can bring hope. Real gold, as long as you don't bury yourself, as long as your heart is up, there will always be a flash!

Author: The only father (WeChat official account: Yuan Pei's parents' experience)

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