What's the difference between strictly disciplining children brought up and directly stocking them?

What is the difference between a child who has been strictly disciplined since childhood and a child who has been directly raised? What kind of way should we choose to raise the next generation? What are their essential differences?

Are we protecting children's growth, or are we annihilating their personality and development? When the social violence came, what saved the children who grew up in two environments from the fragmented life!

First, the lower limit will increase and the upper limit will keep that upper limit.

It is true that childhood with parents is happy. You can rely on your parents at home and the teachers at school. As long as you are obedient, you can grow step by step. Some children with less outstanding qualifications and talents grow up, graduate, work, get married and have children in such an environment, and naturally reproduce.

They always follow their parents' wishes when making important decisions in life. Parents are their natural mentors. Even if they are not so outstanding, thanks to the careful cultivation of their parents, their original lower limit has been raised step by step, and they can always mix with others in the crowd and live a simple and happy life.

For those who are not so lucky and whose parents are intelligent by nature, it is naive to ask them to discipline their children. If the qualification is average, it is purely your own in our nature. If you don't take detours, you will have a guarantee when you reach their lower limit. If you want to live a better life in by going up one flight of stairs, just look at how lucky the hidden attributes are.

This type is very common in rural areas, and there are many cities. Parents are too busy to survive to pay too much attention to the growth of the next generation.

Gifted and savvy children are not included. They often live to break the conventional understanding.

Second, personality differences are great.

Children who grow up under strict discipline will inevitably lose their personality when they grow up. He has no room to form his own personality, and his parents interrupted him in the process of forming. He can only run step by step on the route planned by his parents. Until he has the right to say no when he grows up.

When he began to have the right to say no, the occasional phenomenon was extremely extreme. This is the root cause of the vicious incident in the rebellious period of youth. The accumulation of old grievances is not caused by a day or two. Parents did not find out in time that their children had grown up, and they needed equal dialogue and communication to achieve unity and consistency of understanding. Still stubbornly believe that their authority is enough to sweep away everything, and children are still babies in their eyes.

This is a rather regrettable thing. It violates the objective law of the development of things. Everything is changing.

As a child who grew up alone, he has long been used to making his own decisions, and his parents' opinions are not important in his eyes. For affection or something, it is also a state of being at arm's length, and he does not depend on them. Between him and them, more is a state of equal dialogue.

He was neglected when he was young. When he grows up, he can selectively ignore it. Heaven has reincarnation. His personality has long been formed in the process of growing up and thinking by himself day by day, and it has its own logic and value recognition. So such a child is full of personality.

Third, the counterattack in the rebellious period.

The rebellious period of a good baby will come very hard, as if the tide came at once, but the river bank is still the same river bank. Timely dredging is much more effective than constantly improving the river embankment. Rebellion is called treason because there are opponents.

He is as free as the wind for those children who have no discipline since childhood. He doesn't have to fight anything. He has long been used to a person's self. There's nothing rebellious. It's really unnecessary. Who's rebellious, right?

4. Early-maturing fruits and late-maturing flowers

In the greenhouse, warm growth and flowering bear fruit. Once the greenhouse collapses, the result is very simple, that is, it dies under the beating of society and can never be recovered. They may have had a glorious journey before, but they haven't experienced so many storms, and their parents have borne it.

Weak endurance will be a fatal core weakness. This is why the word depression has been mentioned frequently in recent years. Obviously, some people who look good have fallen into depression because of such setbacks. The length of this repression is the process of improving their immunity to social beatings.

In the eyes of others, it is too hypocritical to fall into depression on such a trivial matter. These people may have experienced a long period of social beatings. Although the surface looks crooked and cracked under the constant social beating, in fact, the roots have been deeply rooted in the bottom of the social soil.

This is the biggest difference between early-maturing fruits and late-maturing flowers. People in the Jianghu always have to pay back. Parents can't cover for life, times are changing.

Fifth, all roads lead to the same goal.

No matter how disciplined and nagging they are in family education, it is better to let them go to the society to touch and eat the beatings of the society. It is not easy to experience this experience before they know how to cherish it. Instead of dismissing or even holding a grudge every time you face care or cheap nagging.

Education pays attention to strategies, methods and means, not just preaching. It is better to teach by example than by example, and it is better to experience by example. It is said that children are the future, but before giving them a future, they fold themselves in. This is a joke in education.

Whether it is strict discipline or natural stocking, it still needs to be matched. You can't just copy hard copies. The cultivation and guidance of interest is the key. The establishment of values should be pragmatic. The biggest reality is that no matter how to teach, how to raise and not teach, society will give him as much as he lacks, and no one can fall behind.