Do men like women who "don't spend men's money on love"?

A woman who knows how to switch freely between an independent woman and a spoiled little woman is truly happy.

I have contacted some girls who have been "broken up", and more than 60% are unwilling to spend men's money; More than 95% girls don't know how to spend men's money.

Many girls have such a "good woman" standard in their hearts, that is, to remain independent economically, without spending men's money or relying on men's money. Therefore, when they are emotionally involved, there will be some ambivalence in the economy. On the one hand, they think it is appropriate for their boyfriends to spend money on themselves. On the other hand, I think I shouldn't spend men's money, thinking that it would make me look humble.

"Will falling in love cost men money?" On this question, I have asked many young ladies around me, and many of them think that falling in love naturally costs men's money; But there are also many girls who love their boyfriends dearly. Not only do they not spend his money, but they often spend money for him.

Those girls who don't spend men's money think that this can prove their sincerity to men, and they can feel it themselves, and then they will treat men better and cherish them more. Is that really the case? Let's listen to the men's opinions first.

27-year-old Li Sheng is in love.

An ex-girlfriend is an independent and capable girl who believes that "I can earn money by myself, as long as you give me love". Every time she goes out to spend money, she always grabs the bill, occasionally loses, and stubbornly transfers half of the expenses to me. At first, I especially appreciated her behavior and thought she was a simple and lovely girl.

However, since then, our relationship has become very close. She is still so distinct, and she is still secretly implementing the AA system. Even if I give her a gift, she must return it to me with almost the same value, or give me a red envelope, which makes me feel that our form of "reciprocity" is meaningless. She knows me so well that I always feel that she doesn't treat me as one of her own.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with her. There may be many men who want it. But I don't like it. I prefer a little woman who is dependent on me. Like my current girlfriend, it makes me feel needed. I took her out to spend money, and I gave her gifts. She looks like a spoiled little woman, which makes me feel a kind of manly pride involuntarily.

Mr. Zhang, 29, is engaged.

I hate women who can't get love, but I don't like women who are too strong and don't spend men's money.

A man who really loves a woman should be willing to spend money for his woman and make himself her dependence. I think women spend men's money to give men face. A woman who loves you but refuses to spend your money may be really independent, but she is also ostentatious and not cute at all.

Love is priceless, but it also needs material foundation to support it. I am willing to pay for my fiancee. Spend more if you have money, and spend less if you don't have money, so that she knows that I really want to be nice to her. Of course, if a woman is willing to accept the high price paid by a man when the relationship between two people is uncertain and she knows that the other person's conditions are average, it will also make people suspect that she likes money more than men.

I think the most lovely woman is not to refuse to spend a man's money, and not to care how much a man spends for her. In a word, women spend money on men, which depends on goodwill, relatives and friends, and the actual situation of men. They should spend money with peace of mind. Women should not always think about spending each other's money, and remember that "there is no such thing as a free lunch".

Mr. Li, aged 35, is married.

No matter how capable and independent a woman is and how much money she earns, she must learn to spend men's money. My wife said that it is a sense of accomplishment for women to spend men's money and their own money, and it is a sense of happiness to spend men's money. This should be the mentality that many women like to spend men's money.

My wife is also very independent, and her monthly income is not much worse than mine, but she still likes to spend my money. She said that she loved me and should spend my money. The more I give for her, neither of us will give up on each other easily. She feels guilty about it, but I don't want to. It's a joke, but it makes sense.

In a relationship, when women don't want to spend men's money, then men often pay little for women, and there won't be too much debt between two people, which will make it easier for men to give up women. For a woman who has never given herself anything, there is nothing to lose by leaving anyway, so she always chooses to leave easily. Selfish and stingy men will like women who don't spend his money, while reliable men will like girlfriends or wives who rely more on themselves.

Women who refuse to spend men's money have low emotional intelligence and are not cute. Besides, she doesn't spend men's money, and she shouldn't ask men to spend hers. This is actually selfish.

Conclusion:

It seems that most men still can't accept that women refuse to spend men's money.

Men do like financially independent women, but liking and "love" are two different things. I once heard a boy in love complain that his girlfriend never spent his money, and he was afraid to ask her out for dinner and entertainment, let alone shopping and traveling. Every time, my girlfriend is either rushing to pay the bill with him or AA with him. When she paid the bill, he felt like a gigolo eating soft rice; When he was in AA, he felt that two people were not like lovers. He doesn't think his girlfriend won't spend his money, but she is sensible. On the contrary, he thinks she may not be sure about this relationship.

In fact, for women, independence is true, but some things really don't need to be overcorrected. Being independent and being loved is not an either-or relationship.

In a relationship, women spend men's money for two reasons. First, the more men pay for women, the more they will treat her as their own, relatives and family. Second, the more he pays, the higher his "sunk cost". When he wants to break up with a woman, he will consider the price he has paid, so that he can leave more opportunities to repair his feelings.

So, woman, if you really love a man and want to marry him, let him get into the habit of spending money for you, keep his independent posture and let him spend money for you comfortably. Your happiness index will definitely go up a lot.