Why is it that a person's mentality determines his success rate in doing something?

On the basis of a certain social environment and personal ability, the relationship between mentality and fate is that mentality determines fate. Only by scientifically understanding mentality, correctly adjusting mentality and strictly managing mentality can we truly control our own destiny and create a successful life. First, mentality and destiny. Mentality and destiny are closely related. It can even be said that a person's mentality determines his fate. Whether your mentality is healthy or not can largely determine whether your body is healthy, whether your life is beautiful or not, and whether your career is successful. So what exactly is mentality? Mentality is the sum of all psychological activities and states of people, and it is the reflection and experience of people on the surrounding environment and social life. It has a decisive influence on a person's thoughts, emotions, needs and desires, and it determines a person's attitude towards work and life. In social life, people will always encounter all kinds of pains, misfortunes, hardships and setbacks, so they will also have different mentalities, and different mentalities will often affect a person's fate, especially in this increasingly competitive society, which often determines a person's fate. So what is fate? Einstein said, "Fate always depends on one's feelings, what one wants and what one does." From this perspective, fate is a combination of human qualities and opportunities. "Destiny" can be understood as the true meaning and quality of life, which comes from self; "Luck" can be interpreted as the probability of machine luck, which comes from the environment, and the combination of the two is fate. Fate represents an individual's ultimate pursuit of life and self-judgment of reality. To explore the relationship between mentality and fate, let's first look at a few examples: there is a person who failed to start a business at the age of 22; At the age of 23, he failed to run for parliament; Re-entering the business world at the age of 24 failed again, and he lost everything; Run for parliament again at the age of 39 and fail again; At the age of 46, he failed to run for the Senate; 47-year-old failed to run for vice president; At the age of 49, he ran for the Senate again and failed again. And his life belief is: never give up. He always believes that he will succeed one day. In the end, he successfully ran for president at the age of 5 1, and made great achievements in history, becoming the greatest president in American history, just like Washington, the founding head of state. Is he Abraham? Lincoln. There was a man who devoted his life to science and laboratory work. He tried thousands of times and failed thousands of times. After more than 20 years of unremitting exploration, he finally discovered radium and made an epoch-making contribution to mankind. Is she Iori Yagami? Madame Curie. There was a man who was so poor that his family could only eat porridge. He loves drinking but has no money to buy wine, so he has to "buy wine with his sword" or "buy wine on credit". But he buried himself in his works for ten years, adding and deleting them five times, and his life was always poor. Although his work was not finished when he died in tears, this unfinished masterpiece A Dream of Red Mansions. He is Cao Xueqin, who can stand side by side with world-class literary masters. German philosopher Nietzsche said, "If all the ladders fail you, you must learn to climb up on your own head"; Rousseau, a French thinker, said, "Faith is a passionate feeling that leads to great honor with unshakable hope and trust". Indeed, at all times and all over the world, all successful people always "hold unshakable hope and trust", never succumb to the bad luck of failure, face difficulties and setbacks calmly, bravely overcome difficulties and dangers with unshakable belief, "learn from their own heads and improve", and finally reach the other side of success. In fact, there is not much difference between people: the creator gave everyone the same mind and limbs, the same thinking ability and behavior ability, and the same 24-hour fairness. But some people can succeed, while others are losers. The difference in this result is first caused by different people's mentality. Successful people's mentality is always positive, they are always indomitable, always full of high-spirited enterprising and optimistic fighting spirit; The mentality of losers is negative, and their lives are guided and dominated by all kinds of failures and doubts in the past. In fact, 90% of the losers were not defeated, but were afraid before the war and gave up the hope of success. In class, some business management consultants often like to quote a story: a leather shoes company sent two groups of people to explore the African market, and a week later they received telegrams from two group leaders respectively. One said that the market is infinite because African aborigines have no shoes to wear; Another said, no, because African aborigines don't wear shoes. Since then, success and failure have opened a great distance. Successful people see hope, so they dare to explore and pay, and have achieved good results. Losers are the opposite. A person's world outlook and attitude towards life, that is, the mentality we often say, often determine the future and destiny of his life. Think about it, why some people can be more successful than others, earn more money, have good jobs, good interpersonal relationships and good health, and live a high-quality life happily all day, while others can only make a living by working all day? In fact, there is not much difference between people. But why can some people successfully overcome all difficulties and make contributions, while others cannot? Many psychologists have found that the secret lies in people's "mentality". A philosopher said, "Your mentality is your real master." About 40 years ago, two brothers lived in a poor village in Fujian. Unable to stand the harsh environment, they decided to leave their hometown and seek development overseas. The eldest brother seems to be lucky, being sold to the rich San Francisco as a slave, and the younger brother being sold to the Philippines, which is poorer than China. Forty years later, the two brothers were lucky to get together again. They are not who they used to be. As an overseas Chinese leader in San Francisco, my brother owns two restaurants, two laundries and a grocery store, and his descendants are full. Some of them inherited the mantle, while others became outstanding engineers and other scientific and technological professionals. Where's the younger brother? In fact, he has become a world-famous banker, with a considerable number of forests, rubber plantations and banks in Southeast Asia. Although after decades of efforts, they have all succeeded. But why are there such differences in the career achievements of the two brothers? When brothers get together, it is inevitable that they will talk about what happened after separation. My brother said that we China people have no special talents in white society. We can only cook for white people and wash their clothes with one hand. In a word, as long as white people refuse to do the work, China people will take the top job, and life will be fine, but they dare not expect anything from their careers. For example, my children and grandchildren, although they have read a lot of books, dare not dream. They can only quietly undertake some middle-level technical work to make a living. As for the white society that wants to enter the upper class, it is very difficult to do so. Seeing his brother's success, a brother can't help but envy his happiness. The younger brother said there was no luck. When I first came to the Philippines, I did some rough work, but I found that some locals were stupid and lazy, so I gave up my career, gradually acquired and expanded, and my business gradually expanded. This story reflects the struggle history of overseas Chinese. From this story, people can see that it is not only the environment that affects our lives, but also the mentality that controls your actions and thoughts. At the same time, mentality also determines a person's vision, career and achievements. There are two 70-year-old ladies. One thought that this age could be regarded as the end of life, so she began to take care of things. Another view is that what a person can do is not his age, but how he thinks and plans. So, at the age of 70, she began to learn to climb mountains, several of which are world-famous. Just recently, he climbed Mount Fuji in Japan at the age of 95, breaking the record of the oldest person to climb this mountain. She is the famous Hu Da? Mrs. cruise. It is a miracle that a person began to learn to climb mountains at the age of 70. But miracles are created by people. The first sign of a successful person is his way of thinking. If a person is a positive thinker, practices positive thinking and likes to accept challenges and deal with troubles, then he is half successful. Huda? The feat of the old lady Cruise just proves this point. In Shanghai in the 1930s, there was a beggar who lived by begging. He begged around with a broken bamboo basket on his arm all day. He is fed up with his face and eyes, and his life is very miserable. It happened that the Kuomintang government issued space lottery tickets, each with a silver dollar and a first prize of 500 silver dollars. Beggars think that once they win the first prize, they will never get it again. So he accumulated the begging copper coins one by one; It took a long time to save it for a silver dollar to buy a lottery ticket. In rags, he didn't have a leak-proof pocket, so he put the lottery ticket under the broken bamboo basket. A month later, the lottery was held, and this beggar won the first prize! He is ecstatic, and he will be rich in the future, and he will never have to ask for a copper coin again! When he passed the Waibaidu Bridge on the way to the bank to receive the prize, he looked at the mighty Suzhou River under the bridge and couldn't help but straighten up and hold his head high: "Ah, it's really thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi. Who would have thought that a poor beggar would make a fortune one day! What else does this broken bamboo basket need? Begging now is a joke to me! " As soon as he raised his hand, he threw the broken bamboo basket into Suzhou River, which was quickly washed away by the rushing river. He swaggered to the bank to get the bonus. The clerk in charge asked him for the lottery ticket, but he looked all over for it but couldn't find it. This reminds me that the lottery ticket was put in a broken bamboo basket, but he threw it into Suzhou River. He squatted on the floor of the bank hall, crying. Some people say that this is destiny takes a hand, he is a beggar's life, and nothing can change his life. In fact, his fate is determined by his own mentality. If he was not too complacent, his fate would really be different from now on. The old saying "don't be shocked by honor or disgrace" means that no matter in good times or bad times, people should keep a correct attitude. Don't be arrogant in prosperity, and don't despair in adversity. With this beggar mentality, even if the pie falling from the sky falls on his mouth, it is destined to be eaten. There are always people who like to say that my present situation is entirely caused by others. These people often say that I can't change my mind. However, our situation is not caused by the surrounding environment. In the final analysis, how to look at life and how to grasp it depends on ourselves. There is a short story: half a glass of water, a kind of person thinks that the glass is half full, so he insists on pouring a drop of water into the glass every day, and finally one day the water overflows; Another person thinks the glass is half empty. He always frowns at the glass every day and has a lot on his mind. Finally, one day the water was evaporated. The same is half a glass of water, why is there such a different result? Everyone has been struggling for his ideal all his life, and there will always be all kinds of disappointments in the process of struggle and struggle. Whether he can overcome these disappointments is influenced by many factors, one of which is his mentality: only when he bravely says "no" to a difficulty and overcomes it with a positive and optimistic attitude can he become a real strong man. It is with this positive attitude that successful people face setbacks with the tenacity of "never giving in in the face of any difficulties". On the other hand, losers are always disappointed, confused and at a loss about the future. Facing the half glass of water, the first kind of people firmly believe that "as long as I persist and work hard, I will succeed!" " "It is precisely because he is full of self-confidence and actively faces difficulties that he finally becomes a success; The second person thinks that "a cup in the air, no matter how hard I try, will only be in vain." "So he lost his fighting spirit and confidence, and his original spirit gradually wore off. In the end, he became a loser. Muhammad Ali is one of the greatest athletes in the world. In Ali's boxing career, there have been countless honors and glories. Ali has an interesting habit. Whenever he wants to take part in a big boxing match, he always drives a convertible to the bustling market in the city center. Facing the cheering crowd, Ali stood in the car and shouted all the way: "I am the champion, and Ali will win!" "Then, countless citizens will shout with their champions, as if supporting their heads of state. For an athlete who is about to participate in a major competition, it does have the effect of enhancing self-confidence. This practice is actually a kind of confidence cultivation and strengthening before the game. As the saying goes, "When two armies meet, the brave wins. "No matter when, no matter what kind of game, whoever has a good mentality will win and succeed. For example, the senior high school entrance examination, in the case of equal strength, psychological state will play a strong or even decisive role in it. Some students always get the first and second place in the mock exam before the exam, while those who rank behind them in the mock exam become top students in the formal exam. This phenomenon is not uncommon. Why? Their strength and their level of achievement are basically in the same echelon, which is roughly the same. And who can excel in the formal exam and who can become the top scholar depends on who has a good attitude and who plays well in the exam. There is no despair in the world, only desperate people. The difference between a successful person and a failed person is that a successful person always dominates and controls his life with the most positive attitude and optimistic spirit, while a failed person is just the opposite. During the Warring States Period, Guan Zhong once said: "Trees are more frost and snow than listening to the sky; Those who can manage themselves are not from saints. "Han Fei said," The difficulty of ambition lies not in winning others, but in winning yourself. "What they say is that we should rise to the challenge and be the masters of our destiny. Sow a state of mind and reap an idea; Sow an idea and reap an action; Sow an action and reap a habit; Sow a habit and reap a character; Sow a character and reap a destiny. How many facts have proved that there must be a positive and healthy mentality behind a good fate. Man's life is like a ship, sailing in the ocean of time. When our ship is about to be built, we will sail to the sea in the golden sun; When the first sail on our ship is about to rise, it will hunt against the cold sea breeze; When the boat of our life is full of good hopes of parents, new people and friends for the first time, do you understand that the meaning of life lies in overcoming one difficulty after another, sailing through another dangerous beach and finally reaching the other side of victory? Marx once said: "In order not to waste this life, come on, let's go to a bumpy journey together. "The most important factor that determines the success or failure of your life journey is your factor. Indeed, your mentality is your real master, and only your mentality can determine who is a mount and who is a jockey. A positive attitude makes you full of strength to gain wealth, success, happiness and health, and climb the peak of your life; The negative attitude deprives you of everything that makes your life meaningful, leaving you in a state of "seasickness" during the whole voyage of your life and always disappointed with the future. In fact, the differences between people are reflected in the way of thinking. The most important thing is to face life with a positive or negative attitude. Nine times out of ten, the losers actually gave up the hope of success, rather than being defeated by others. Their lives are guided and dominated by all kinds of failures and doubts in the past. If they prepare for the worst, they will indeed get what they want. On the contrary, successful people are full of optimism and positive ways of doing things, which enables them to overcome all difficulties. In ray? In Chloe's view, there are hardships everywhere in life, and the key lies in whether one's psychology can bear them. Failure is a temporary detour, not a dead end. It is precisely because of this view of failure that he can overcome himself, surpass himself, move towards the glory of life and become a "burger king" who is a late bloomer. Therefore, under certain social environment conditions and certain personal abilities, the relationship between mentality and fate or mentality determines fate. Mentality determines fate: you control fate, you will succeed; If you let fate control you, you will only fail forever.