What does the article "Be kind to you" mean?

The reasons explained in this article are as follows:

This article is full of humor, and the author criticizes the philosophy of "treating the small as the big" with his tax-sensitive observation and sharp words.

The author hates the custom of excessive hospitality, but his prescription of "China can return to the original" is just a wish, because these "hypocritical behaviors" still have an impact on people's lives to some extent, both yesterday and today.

The author believes that most people (ordinary people) treat guests not as an end but as a means; Not generosity, but Machiavellian. Miser's treat is a means, besides tactics, there are means.

On the whole, this article is written easily and calmly, full of jokes and abuse. Humor contains philosophy, and smart people will smile when they read it.

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China people are a people who like to entertain guests most. From robbing to pay the fare, robbing the money? There is nothing enough to show that China is a comical country. My money is your money, your money is my money, and everyone is equal; You can eat mine and use mine, because we are family. This situation is very strange to westerners.

In fact, China people's entertainment is to take advantage of people's psychology. Free rides, free meals, free play, and so on, the beneficiaries should be happy. One, two, three, the more times you have fun, the better the impression of the invited people on the guests. If the invited person has a higher status than me, he can be "responsive" and help me get promoted and make a fortune; If the invited person is lower than me, I can brag about it everywhere and chat with everyone to increase my reputation, which is indirectly beneficial to me. People in China have always advocated that "people can get rich and eliminate disasters with others", so they can take the bus, eat and go to the theatre for free without spending money, which is equivalent to getting rich. If they don't eliminate disasters with others, they will benefit others. From this point of view, treating guests is a kind of "small and broad policy", and the money for treating guests is not wasted. Knowing this truth, we can understand why people who care about their brothers and sisters, even those who are married and refuse to be "communist", spend a lot of money to treat guests, and there is no stingy color; I also understand why there are no stones at home, and I still have spare money to treat people who cry. It turns out that most people's hospitality is not an end, but a means; Not generosity, but Machiavellian!

Green dragonfly? It's heartbreaking to fly out of the purse, but the prospect of "growing up" is very attractive. In this extremely contradictory mood, stingy people can suffer. When grabbing the bus fare, banknotes or theater tickets, I am embarrassed not to "grab" for face, but I dare not insist on "grabbing" for the purse. As a result, it's time to stop, my face is taken care of, and my wallet is still not empty The worst thing is to meet fellow travelers and relax as soon as you grab them. As a result, although you are a "benevolent", you have become a mute and have unspeakable pain in your heart. However, stingy people don't treat; Sometimes, they treat people more than ordinary people, because misers are greedy, and greedy people can't resist the temptation of "seeing the big from the small". So they want to get the maximum profit at the lowest price; Every time you treat someone to dinner, you should choose the cheapest one, and the less the weight, the better. It is best to make guests feel full and tired easily, and the host doesn't spend much. Even for a few days, the leftovers from last night can still be eaten today. Although it is disrespectful to let guests eat other people's leftovers, it is a treat after all. After eating the leftovers, they are still not afraid of him not saying "thank you". There are means in this means, and there are tactics besides tactics!

On the other hand, is it really a good atmosphere to treat guests? Can you really connect with feelings? I once heard with my own ears that the man who robbed money told the concession man not to insist on robbing, saying that he was stingy. I once heard with my own ears that people who eat other people's wine and rice criticize their hosts as soon as they leave the gate: the streaky fish is only half eaten, the stewed chicken is only half eaten, the smoke stinks like water, the wine is as light as water, the cook is incompetent, and the host is not well served! It can be seen that China has the custom of robbing money, but not robbing money seems to be the loss of personal virtue and friendship; Over-inviting guests has become popular again. People who come uninvited are of course considered unsociable. If we don't invite them soon, the money will only be wasted. Don't say that the kitchen is disturbing, just do your best; It is necessary to prevent the golden bowl from tilting, but it is difficult to be full of virtue. If you are not satisfied, you will sell it half! The philosophy of "growing up" is really harmful!

The invitee is sometimes bitter: knowing that the recipient will have to deal with the disaster, he has no courage to refuse and intends to "return the seat" or "return the guest". After receiving the benefits of others, I will return some of the benefits to others, so that even if the two are offset, I will no longer be responsible for repayment. In fact, this idea is asking for trouble. The easiest way is to neither invite people nor be afraid of being invited. If someone tries to pay the fare or cash on my behalf, I will let my Qingfei "return to the dragon" without saying anything. If someone invites me to eat a big dish, I will take a bite on each shoulder, eat it, and then leave, saying thank you impatiently and ignoring what rice is. If everyone does this, China can return to nature, and there will be a lot of hypocrisy in society, and the government will no longer need to promote thrift and ban banquets.