Will you be laughed at for giving your feelings, Zhihu?

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Feeling 1: The sky is falling.

The sky is falling, I don't want to live, life is meaningless, I eat tasteless, I sit uneasily, I walk uneasily, I have been lying in bed for several days without thinking about tea and rice, I can't accept the fact, I can't face the reality, my world outlook, outlook on life and love are ruined, I no longer believe in love, or I feel tired and don't love. This is the first stage.

Feeling 2: moody

Although the other party may have planned for a long time, for themselves, it is forgotten until the end. Because things come too suddenly, they can't accept it, so they become agitated, worry about other things, their eating habits and laws are completely disrupted, and they have no clue at work. This is the second stage.

Feeling 3: Utopianism

After the second stage, individuals gradually began to calm down, began to think in their minds, and found all kinds of strange reasons for various things (for example, the other party dragged himself down because he was terminally ill, and so on, well, in fact, I didn't watch many Qiong Yao dramas), and began to assume whether the other party began to change his mind, and began to reflect on his own shortcomings, thinking that the emotional foundation of both parties was unbreakable. As long as he made changes himself, the other party would change his mind. At the same time, they will do all kinds of self-righteous stupid things to keep each other. This is the third stage.

Feeling 4: External help

After the third stage of fantasy and part of practice, I still don't want to give up psychologically, but I have begun to feel inferior and unconfident in emotional issues and ask others for help, including family, friends and classmates. Hope for external forces. In fact, it is a sudden illness, and the result can be imagined.

Feeling 5: Silence of inferiority

At this stage, I began to accept the reality and adapt to life again, but I would deliberately avoid the memories of my past life. At the same time, I will try to find new exciting and interesting points, but I will give up easily. If conditions permit, I will choose a different environment, which varies from person to person, such as living environment, working environment or resignation travel. However, the psychological trauma at this stage has begun to gradually recover, which should belong to the period of bottoming out.

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The first few stages should belong to the psychological stage from peak to trough, which can be attributed to "negative energy", while the latter stages belong to "positive energy"

Feeling 6: Re-understanding

I began to re-examine and understand my life and experience. After casting a net in the fifth stage to find new exciting points and interesting points, I gradually began to recognize my real interests and abilities, found some goals or interesting points within my power, such as traveling and fitness, and began to stick to my work. In fact, one of the advantages of being single is that you have enough time to think about your life and work, and you will gradually gain achievements and satisfaction in your work to make up for your emotional emptiness.

Feeling 7: Great.

After regaining self-confidence through aspects other than feelings, because they don't want to lose this good feeling, they will consciously or unconsciously take measures to constantly maintain or stimulate themselves, thus creating an illusory or excessive sense of self, and at the same time causing actual losses, such as fearless venture capital or large expenditures, or emotional handling of events that should be handled or handled cautiously under normal circumstances. Personally, I belong to the category of sensibility but try my best to be rational, but after falling out of love, I was hit hard and my personality or money concept changed to some extent. At the same time, I began to look for all kinds of people to communicate with them online, trying to encourage each other to get out of misfortune through their own experiences, so as to gain inner comfort.

Feeling 8: Over and over again.

This stage should belong to the longest and most difficult stage. I haven't completely walked out of the reincarnation period, and I also thought about the so-called hidden repair by forcing myself to fall in love with others, but I found that it didn't work at all. Of course, this varies from person to person. If there really is a lover that makes you feel more unforgettable, then the subject deeply blesses you, but the subject belongs to the kind that you will only love one person the most in your life. Of course, life is long, and nothing is eternal.

Feeling 9: Inner peace.

This is a state that the subject can reach occasionally. I hope to be immersed all the time, but I haven't reached it yet. Reflection, memory, reluctance, reluctance of a relationship will make you unable to reach this state. Of course, if you can do it, you will do it. The subject wants to become a monk, but this is actually an escape and confuses the causal relationship. Later, I found that the best way is to read more books and exercise more, provided that you can do it.

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Some sequelae and countermeasures:

Sequela 1: sensitive.

Other people's words or actions will become particularly sensitive, especially in terms of feelings. I always feel that someone is talking about me behind my back, and I always feel that my affairs are well known all over the world, which makes me unable to stop worrying.

Countermeasures: In fact, even if the whole world knows, few people care. If you don't care, then few people care.

Sequela 2: Irregular work and rest

At least for a period of time, the routine of life will become unreasonable and irregular, and the number of overeating will increase. At the same time, it is common to stay awake in the middle of the night, or suddenly wake up with nightmares, with more white hair and people becoming haggard.

Countermeasures: this topic is not done well at present, otherwise this article will not be published, but knowing and willing to face the problem is an improvement. You can take certain measures to force yourself to take part in a certain sport regularly.

Sequela 3: luxury

Subjectively hope to find excitement. Objectively speaking, one person is naturally more comfortable spending money than two people, so there are more and more cases of profligacy and the amount is getting bigger and bigger.

Coping measures: set financial goals, money can be spent on positive things and avoid meaningless expenses.

This article is for myself. Please take a warning from friends who are destined to see it. For traditional people, this is a disaster and a test. If God is training you, you will get through it. If God makes it impossible for you to live, that's fine.