I am a fresh graduate, and I am about to go to work. Although it joined the state-owned enterprises, it belongs to the nature of labor dispatch. How should I get along with my colleagues and leaders?

How do introverts (fresh graduates) become communication experts?

It is generally believed that introverts are not good at communication, while extroverts are good at communication. Actually, this is a misunderstanding. Introversion and extroversion refer to the extroversion of people's psychological activities, which simply means showing the tendency of psychological activities. For example, extroverts often show certain emotions in their hearts, such as communicating with others. Introverts tend to hide and choose to bear and digest themselves.

Communication refers to the effective and accurate transmission of information between two people or from me. Many people are extroverted, but their communication skills are actually not strong. For example, there are people around us who like to talk, but they haven't expressed clearly for a long time, and they are often anxious with others. And some people don't talk much, but they can express their meaning accurately in one sentence. This refers to the sending of information. Another aspect of effective communication is information reception. It is often found that many extroverts interrupt each other before they finish, thinking that they have understood each other's meaning, but it turns out that they misunderstood. Introverts, on the other hand, are not in a hurry to wait for the other person to finish, so they understand the information more completely and accurately.

As mentioned above, there is no direct and absolute relationship between communication and personality from the aspects of sending and receiving information.

In fact, interpersonal skills, or communication skills, are related to personality, that is to say, extroverts are more inclined to interpersonal communication, while introverts are not strong in their desire for interpersonal communication.

In addition to the accuracy of information transmission and communication, what is more important is the emotional correspondence and atmosphere in the communication process. In this sense, introverts do suffer some losses in interpersonal communication and communication. However, this ability can be cultivated. My own experience and my observation show that introverts can really communicate better with others through the adjustment of ideas and the training of skills.

First of all, if you hate interpersonal communication, it will be more troublesome. It would be much easier if I didn't hate it. We must realize that we live in an interpersonal environment. It's like we all want to have good air and sunshine and live in a healthy environment. Similarly, the interpersonal environment is equally important to us. Good interpersonal environment, like sunshine and fresh air, not only makes our life healthier, but also brings good opportunities for our growth. In fact, I believe that most people are eager to have good interpersonal relationships.

However, many people lack interpersonal communication skills and are afraid of communication, which further affects their desire for interpersonal communication. This will form a vicious circle, which may eventually lead to disgust or fear of interpersonal communication.

This is indeed a very good opportunity to cultivate interpersonal skills in the university.

Second, master certain effective communication skills.

Initiative and enthusiasm are the first elements of effective communication, which is actually very simple. A sincere smiling face is enough. When communicating important information, you must use the method of repeated confirmation. When the other person has finished speaking, make a brief summary and ask the other person to confirm whether you understand what the other person wants to express. After expressing your meaning, ask the other person, "Did I make myself clear?" . At the beginning of the conversation, prepare some light jokes, humorous greetings, or recent hot reports or events of concern to arouse discussion and establish the basis of psychological induction. In conversation, if you think what the other person said is particularly good or enlightening, you must express your feelings and comments. Remember that comments must be made from your point of view, such as "I think what you said is very novel". In your comments, you must indicate that this is your evaluation. Secondly, you must point out what it refers to, otherwise it will give people the suspicion of PMP. If you don't agree with the other person, it depends on the type of problem. If it's not a matter of principle, it's just a general problem. You can keep silent and remember that there are always differences of opinion between people. The most important thing in good communication is to accept each other's differences. However, if it is a matter of principle that affects the final result of your discussion, you must express your views, positions and attitudes. If you don't show it, the other person will think you agree, but it's not good. You can express your views tactfully or directly. Of course, when expressing your attitude, you should add the following sentence: "Obviously, there is a certain distance between our views on this issue, but it doesn't mean that we can't reach similar views, or this difference will affect our final result." At the end of communication, no matter how the conversation goes, we should express our respect for each other, moderate praise, feelings about this conversation, and expectations and wishes for the next communication.

The above is more general, but these are the basic elements. Communication skills are really exercised. You can also find some relevant materials to study, or you can observe your classmates with good communication skills and see how they do it, which may also inspire you. (The level of workers dispatched by state-owned enterprises is very low, and employees dispatched by * * employers to state-owned enterprises should be diligent. )