What is the biggest thing your parents have done to you?

What my parents hurt me the most should be that they habitually belittle me and don't understand my childhood ideas. I was cheerful when I was a child, but I don't know if it is because of the habitual modesty of China people. As long as someone praises me for my cheerful and lovely personality, my mother forces me to call me introverted everywhere.

Every time I meet my mother's friends, I greet people. My mother can't see me. Ask me why I don't call someone, call aunt quickly. This has cast a great shadow on me, and it is really embarrassing to go to college. I didn't say hello to my classmates on the way, so I was dissuaded by the whole class. This psychological disorder didn't get better until after working for many years, and every time the family came, the guests would repeat it.

Of course, there are more similar situations. Because my mother habitually belittles me, whenever someone praises my good grades, my mother will say that I don't work hard, and whenever someone praises my beauty, my mother will say that I am fat. I know that she actually loves me very much, agrees with me very much, and often tells me quietly that other children are not as good as me, but attacking me in front of outsiders is her conditioned reflex. Why is it so hard to be proud of your children aboveboard?

In addition, when I was a child, my mother would arrange other exercises besides homework, such as a test paper, and promised to play after finishing the paper. Go to my mother when you're done, and my mother will simply say, make another one. If I turn my back and get beaten, I have to make another one. Always like this. Until now, my mother still can't understand why I was so rebellious when I was a child, so I don't trust her, so I don't want to talk to her.