Men who haven't talked about love for more than 20 years say they don't want to talk about it, but they are not qualified. Why?

"Love" is a very common thing for many people, especially under the premise that young people's minds are gradually open. Love is as simple as everyday life. When people reach a certain age, feelings will arise, they will start to care about the people they like, and even confess on the spot. In addition, the trend of falling in love is relatively simple now, so it is even more difficult to fall in love.

If a man says to you, "I haven't been in love for more than 20 years, and I haven't even held a girl's hand once, I will blush when I talk to a girl." So will you believe what he said? For most people, when a man says this to himself, he will laugh it off and think it is a joke. After all, how can such a person appear now?

But Lin Jun wants to say that men who have not talked about love for more than 20 years exist, not only exist, but also exist in large numbers. Under the impact of the internet and the media, many people will inadvertently ignore such people who have never been in love. Moreover, the limited time to pay attention to them is more like a waste, and they are also willing to be ignored.

They know that not falling in love for more than 20 years is a joke in the eyes of others and the deepest thorn in their hearts. When someone touches you, the pain will spread all over your body. They will never resist. After all, the facts are in front of them, and they will only gradually get away from those who laugh at him and ridicule him, and become withdrawn and autistic.

It's not that they don't want to talk. They are often more eager for a vigorous love than ordinary people. But due to the combination of various factors and reasons, they have to stay away from this matter. However, love needs to be actively sought, constantly avoided and constantly comforted, which will only make you farther and farther away from society and trends.

Zhang Junjie laughed at himself on Singles Day: "This is the 24th Singles Day I have spent." Although it was very cold at night, he bought a bundle of beer from the canteen to celebrate, but only a full moon hung in the sky accompanied him. "Come on, cheers, I am lucky compared with you, because you have been lonely for hundreds of millions of years. No, you have stars with you, and the stars have been with you for hundreds of millions of years. " Zhang Junjie giggled and said to the moon.

People who care about him have also asked him why he doesn't fall in love. He avoided talking about it. In the eyes of people around him, this is that Zhang Junjie is too shy and shy, but Zhang Junjie already has the answer in his heart. "It's not that I don't want to talk about it, but that I'm not qualified." Zhang Junjie always answers them in his mind like this.

Qualification? What qualifications do you need to fall in love? When you see a girl you like, go after her boldly and actively, and give her full enthusiasm. Even if she is rejected by that girl, you can find another suitable girl. Besides, failure is the mother of success. Even if you keep failing in love, you will succeed one day. Everyone is entitled to find love, which is also human instinct.

Zhang Junjie said, "You don't understand. People like me, who have no money and no talent at home, don't say whether a girl can have a crush on me. Even if she does, what can I do to support her? " If she is willing to marry me, I can't afford the wedding room and the bride price. In the end, we may not get together, so we won't delay others. "

Zhang Junjie is right. After all, it is a reality, but his words are one-sided. A man who has never talked about love will never know the girl's mind or the power of love. Lin Jun has seen it more than once. A penniless poor boy is always followed by a dead-set woman who has no regrets about suffering.

And love will gradually become concise and stable in the bitter experience of sharing happiness with others, and will not be easily overwhelmed by difficulties and pains. With such a large population base in the world, not all people are born with good material conditions, and men like Zhang Junjie account for the vast majority. Haven't they ever been in love? You can't afford a woman who loves you?

No, true love suddenly appeared in a forest full of thorns. This kind of love is precious, but in the greenhouse, the love gained in the red flowers and green grass is even more fragile. When encountering a big storm, it will start to wither and go to nothingness. This kind of love lacks the most important step, that is, physical and mental "tempering."

Zhang Junjie naively believes that as long as he is rich enough and earns a lot of money, he will have some sense of security and can pursue his love with peace of mind. Zhang Junjie's sense of security is real. In some cases, money can really make people feel at ease, but love may not be what Zhang Junjie thought. The love he thinks will become even more out of reach when he has money. After all, things that are easy to get are often not cherished.

Hypothesis is a hypothesis after all. People should pay attention to the present and solve whatever they encounter. Zhang Junjie understood this truth, but he didn't take the first step, so it was difficult to communicate with girls face to face. In the eyes of outsiders, Zhang Junjie is an indifferent and unsmiling person, but he knows that this kind of indifference and deliberate indifference is to keep girls away and not approach him actively, so as not to make them blush and be laughed at by girls.

His worry will not exist, because no girl will laugh at a blushing man. Blushing is a physiological reaction and also represents simplicity. No matter how good the acting is, the actor can't explain the reaction of "blushing", which is a certain honesty in people's hearts.

Zhang Junjie is afraid of a girl talking to him, and he is eager for a girl to talk to him. He hopes that a girl can clearly see his heart and all his embarrassment and anxiety at the moment she sees him, but such a girl will not exist. Zhang Junjie's idea itself is an illusion.

Strangers always get to know each other through communication. There is no "mind-reading" in the world, but Zhang Junjie always hopes for it and expects miracles. At this moment, he became more withdrawn and quiet, thinking that everyone in this world should take the initiative to understand him, not others.

In Lin Jun's view, it makes sense for Zhang Junjie to be single for twenty-four years, which stems from his thoughts, his inner cry for injustice in the world and his self-degradation, so that he hasn't even taken the initiative to take a step for twenty-four years. He thought it was personal accomplishment, but in fact he didn't want to face the truth and kept staring at his true self in the corner. Human beings are afraid to face the reality, so they are better at whitewashing and anesthetizing themselves, and they are constantly in their minds outside the reality.

We can look forward to the future of Zhang Junjie. If we don't make changes, he will be the one in the future. You know, everyone's understanding of love is different, but these understandings are all obtained by failure and success, and these understandings can only be obtained by taking the lead in setting an example and constantly improving, and Zhang Junjie has put on fetters for himself.

Everyone has the right to find love, but not everyone can take the first step bravely. If one step behind others, then Zhang Junjie has fallen behind too much, which also makes him not have much say in love.

Love itself is not a simple matter. The first few steps are difficult. Everything is the starting point. Everything needs to be explored and discovered slowly by yourself. Finally, those who have been waiting for him will have a certain understanding and understanding of love after the initial difficulties. With the tempering of reality and the accompanying experience, he will be handy in love, and he will gradually become confident and let love begin to be really simple.