What if you have a boyfriend but like someone else?

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Some time ago, the popularity of the "Heartbeat Signal" program caused a frenzy of countless young people chasing variety shows.

After relaxing, many people said that watching their little brothers and sisters fall in love sweetly on the show suddenly made them feel excited when they were young.

However, one of my little sisters, Sisi, is a little uncomfortable. After the talk, she stammered out the reason.

It turns out that Sisi's long-distance boyfriend is coming back from studying in Japan.

"But, I was wondering whether to break up with him ..."

Sisi said that when her boyfriend is away, although they often open videos, make phone calls and ask each other questions, however, that untouchable barrier is quietly emerging.

Moreover, there is a boy in Sisi's life who is excellent, handsome and positive. Most importantly, there are many girls chasing him, but he is especially thinking.

He always cares about her life, buys her all kinds of small gifts, takes her to her favorite shopping malls, accompanies her to the streets and tells jokes to make her happy. In short, with him, her life seems to be lit up again.

She told me in dismay that she seemed really attracted to this boy, and couldn't help but want to chat with him, share interesting things with him, care about every comment he made, and even sneak through his social account in the middle of the night to see every praise message he left. ...

However, on the one hand, you have to endure the suffering that you can't get inside, on the other hand, you can't help but fall into self-condemnation and chagrin for betraying your boyfriend.

Want to restrain desire, but also worry about missing true love, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, in a dilemma, like a swing that swings up and down.

I want to ask my friends in love: Have you ever felt the feeling of thinking?

In the case of having a boyfriend, I secretly love another boy and want to get out, but I can't extricate myself.

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In my opinion, heartbeat is human nature.

Having a crush on someone is like shopping and seeing a beautiful new dress. I don't know if I should buy it. In fact, you know that you don't have that much money at all, and there is even a similar one, but the feeling of giving up is still very painful.

However, have you ever wondered if you felt the same way when you bought this dress?

The novelty will fade away, and so will love. When love loses its fresh shell and is put aside in trivial matters of life, you will find that the ending is the same.

"Don't trust the opposition party, even after taking office."

Zhang Ailing once said: Married with a red rose, over time, the red rose has become a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white rose is still so bright at the foot of my bed; Married a white rose, white rose is rice residue on clothes, and red rose is Zhu Shazhi in my heart.

What you can't get is always the best, but that's just an illusion.

There is a story in the Buddhist scriptures. There is a spider in the temple. She looks at the believers who come to worship Buddha every day and gradually becomes spiritual. One day, she asked the Buddha, which is the best, what you can't get or what you have?

Buddha said nothing, let her go to earth.

The spider became a female spider and fell in love with Ganlu's son, but Ganlu's son loved Princess Changfeng alone. Prince Cao Zhi likes spiders very much, and she was confused about it, so she went to the Buddha to judge.

The Buddha smiled and replied, "A thousand years ago, it was the Changfeng that brought manna to the cobweb and took it away. It was just an episode in your life. The grass in front of the door admired you for a thousand years, but you never saw it. "

The spider realized that the most precious moment in the world is not the moment that can't be obtained, but the moment that can be possessed.

According to the "seven deadly sins of human nature", people have many desires, including sense of superiority and conquest. To tell the truth, the degree of liking is difficult to define. Many times, we can't judge whether we really like someone.

So, don't jump to conclusions yet, the risk is too great.

To say the least, is it necessarily love to give up this person now and be with another person?

There are many levels of love, and the joy of love at first sight is at the bottom. Not cheap, but not advanced.

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Another thing that must be considered is, do you have enough trial and error costs?

In other words, can you guarantee that if this person becomes a boyfriend, love will be happier than now?

These answers seem difficult to answer, so it is better to think and analyze from another angle:

Being with your current boyfriend means that there must be something you like about him, but as you get to know him more and more, he reveals all his shortcomings and his true side.

However, no one is perfect, he is just an ordinary person.

The man who let your deer crash is not a god.

Of course, love is different from marriage. If marriage is a cabin at the end of the forest, love is one jungle adventure after another, and people who travel halfway still have a chance to change.

To the extreme, there are so many girls in love rat. Why can't better people love them?

In the movie Leap Year, Anna waited for her boyfriend Jeremy for four years, but never waited for his proposal, so she decided to fly to Berlin to propose to her boyfriend on the day of the leap year.

On the way, she met Declan, the owner of the hotel. They made a lot of jokes in their disputes and cooperation, but they also fell in love with each other.

However, when she arrived in Berlin, she found that her boyfriend Jeremy's proposal was actually for the house. Disappointed, Anna began to examine her feelings again: is her stubborn and blindly pursued marriage really what she wants?

Actually, love is very simple. Anna finally realized that although she missed so many scenery along the way, she also saw a truly beautiful soul, that is Declan.

Therefore, having a boyfriend can't be a rope that binds girls. If it's not true love, why fight him to the end and miss the chance of true love?

However, it is gratifying to meet Anna in love in the film, but the reality is often not so simple and pure.

It is not ruled out that there is still a way out for divorce after marriage, and it is normal to break up in love. However, everything has a price, and you need to be careful when trying and making mistakes. It doesn't matter if it's not that much.

When the cost is extremely high, think twice before you act.

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I have always felt that truly deep and beautiful love is not a trivial matter, nor is it a cursory tour. Can stand the test of reality and time, and will not be defeated by a temporary crush.

No matter what choice you make, there is no right or wrong. Emotion is a complex and uncontrollable thing, and no one is qualified to judge right or wrong on the moral scale.

However, there are eight words I particularly appreciate:

There is beauty in the heart and regret in the action.

If you really have a perfect and suitable love around you, you must cherish it, and don't wait until you lose it to regret it.

Emotion is a very private matter. Love or not, only you know, whether it hurts or not, only you know.

Sakyamuni once said: "No matter who you meet, he is the person who should appear in your life, with a reason and a mission. It is no accident that he will teach you something. "

So, at any time, please respect your heart and make a choice that pleases you without regret.

And for all the girls who deserve to be loved, I still have a beautiful wish, that is, I hope you will never experience those cruel moments of hesitation, and hope to win a heart and never give up.

As Gu Man's novel "Why Shengxiao Mo" said:

"If that person has appeared in the world, then everyone else will make up, and I don't want to make up."

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