How to endure postpartum depression?

I once had postpartum depression, but I didn't know it at the time. I just feel depressed and unsmiling, living in anxiety every day, unable to extricate myself from the pain, as if there is an inexplicable emotion pulling you deeper and deeper …

I am glad that I have a pair of good parents. Their selfless love for me gave me hope of rebirth. I want to deeply thank my dear parents, brother and sister-in-law, and my good friends, who helped me out step by step. No matter how bad my mood was, they never left me, understood me and accepted me.

It is my parents who take care of my son so healthy and lovely. When I saw my child smiling at me, I really found my own direction in life. I can slowly get out of depression.

I used to hate those who put pressure on me and made me deeply troubled by depression, and my filial husband, when I was most sensitive and vulnerable, not only failed to understand and tolerate, but also hit people when they were down. This is the biggest regret and pain point in my life.

Postpartum depression needs the companionship, care, understanding and tolerance of relatives, and it is possible to get rid of depression completely by staying away from those who are in a bad mood and depressed.

Postpartum depression must be relaxed. When you encounter unhappy things, you must talk to your husband or friends in time. Don't take your words to heart. Maybe if you say it, others will have a better solution, which can help you sort it out and put it in your heart. The more I think about it, the more angry I get. The more I think about it, the worse I feel.

My own mother has been taking care of me and my daughter during my confinement. My in-laws have always been cold, cold. At that time, I couldn't figure it out and secretly cried in the middle of the night. In fact, now that I think about it, that's all. Who is good to you, keep it in mind and work harder in the future.

When you get through this period, look back. Actually, it's all small things. I am very grateful to my mother and a group of good friends around me.

The baby is now 9 months old, allergic and prone to illness. A lot of things happened at home in the past few months. At one time, I felt that life was boring, I wanted to cry inexplicably, I was upset and I couldn't sleep. Later, I felt that I would be depressed if I continued like this, so I went to my most trusted sister to complain. She gave me a solution and took me out to play, which would make me feel better. I also talked with my husband for a long time, telling him my current mood and problems, and letting him and his family know that I am unhappy and considerate. Later, when my husband saw that I was bored, he would divert my attention and take me out for a walk, and it would be fine slowly.

So, if you feel uncomfortable, don't hold it back. You must find a way to vent. You are prone to emotional instability after childbirth. Don't embarrass yourself. I hope you will get better soon. Depression is still terrible.

My little Bao is over two years old, and now he is a little depressed. Sometimes he suddenly wants to see what's going on. At this time, I told myself to calm down. I want to be a good mother and wife, gentle and generous. When you calm down, go out for a walk and take care of nothing. Give yourself some privacy and think about it. Do some exercise properly, and you will feel better when you are in good shape. I get up at 5: 30 every morning to run. I talk about my troubles when I go out for a run with my running friends. An hour later, I broke out in a sweat, and trouble followed. The most important thing is to get a good figure, be healthier and make a group of good friends.

In short, go out more and don't always stay at home. You can go shopping and chat with friends and confidants. Just let nature take its course, there is no hurdle.

It's been more than two years since I gave birth to a child, and I still feel there. Think more about happy things. If you can't get over it, put yourself in others' shoes and you will get over it. Everyone has their own difficulties, like my parents can't help me, but I still have to raise them. Now that the baby is young and unemployed, my husband is the only one with financial pressure. He is under more pressure, so think more about happy things.

The word "forbearance" is used in the question, which shows how painful postpartum depression is for Xinbaoma.

Postpartum depression is like a sudden blow to a person, and no one expected it to happen; It will not only bring physical harm and mental torture to the new mother, but also implicate the relatives around her. Relatives really want to help the new mothers, but they feel that they can never satisfy the mothers, and they are all in a hurry.

Causes of postpartum depression

1 biological factor

(1) Endocrine factors During pregnancy, the female hormones estrogen and progesterone increased nearly tenfold; In the process of pregnancy and delivery, the endocrine environment of the body has changed greatly, especially within 24 hours after delivery, the hormone level drops rapidly, which is the biological basis of postpartum depression. Studies have found that the release of placental steroids reaches the highest value before labor, when the mother is in a happy mood; When the placental steroid secretion suddenly decreased after delivery, the parturient showed depression.

(2) Obstetric factors The mentality of pregnant women before and after delivery is related to postpartum depression. Complications during and after delivery, dystocia, delayed delivery, use of assisted reproductive technology, long first stage of labor, vaginal delivery, surgery, etc. , will cause maternal tension and fear, enhance their physical and psychological stress response, induce postpartum depression.

(3) The family with genetic factors has a history of depression, and the incidence of postpartum depression is high.

(4) Maternal women with physical diseases or disabilities are prone to postpartum depression.

2. Social and psychological factors

Maternal personality characteristics, insufficient psychological preparation before delivery, postpartum maladjustment, early postpartum emotional disorder, lack of sleep, too tired to take care of the baby, young maternal age, disharmony between husband and wife and mother-in-law, lack of social system support, poor family economic situation, attitude of medical staff during delivery, gender and health status of the baby, and sudden major unfortunate events before and after delivery are all closely related to the occurrence of postpartum depression.

Writing here, I remembered the description of a parturient I read: I was locked in my mother-in-law's house. At that time, people came to my house every day, as well as Yueyue and relatives and friends who came to visit, just like holding lanterns. I want to rest quietly with my child, but people keep coming to hold the child, which is not convenient for breastfeeding. Nobody cares too much about my feelings. Most people are asking: Do you have any milk? Like I'm just a cow. Because of the lack of milk, I have to drink seven or eight bowls of soup of various names every day, and I am forced to take Chinese medicine by my family. They talked about how much soup their daughter drinks every day, how good the milk is and how fat the child is. The more I listen to it, the more I feel inferior. I can only swallow a few bowls of soup obediently, and I just want to drink milk as soon as possible from morning till night as if I were possessed. I feel that I have been stripped of my social coat alive, fully showing my physical side, and the gap in my heart can only be felt by myself. )

Clinical manifestations of postpartum depression

1. Emotional changes

Some pregnant women will be shrouded in sadness after giving birth. They can't control themselves with reason, and they have to be trapped by some emotions, just like a different person. The most prominent symptom of depressed women is persistent depression and feeling unhappy. It is characterized by gloomy expression, listlessness, lethargy, haggard face and crying. Often yelling for small things, emotional ups and downs like a roller coaster.

Patients often describe their feelings as "unhappy, sad, dull, empty, lonely, anxious, sensitive, not interested in many things, separated from others by a wall, like living in a secret room, feeling airtight, with an island inside" and so on. Patients are often depressed and depressed, and often lose their temper and get hysterical because of trivial matters. For a long time, most of the time, the mood is depressed. Even if the mood improves for a few days or a week or two, you will soon fall into depression. Despite this, the degree of depression of patients is generally not serious, emotional reactions still exist, and patients themselves can realize their emotional abnormalities, but they often think that their discomfort is caused by others or the environment.

2. Lack of confidence in life

Unwilling to breast-feed your baby; Feel that life is meaningless; The initiative is reduced and creative thinking is damaged; In severe cases, there are suicidal thoughts or behaviors that hurt babies.

3. Self-evaluation is reduced

Excessive anxiety about the baby's health; Self-blame, worried that you can't take care of your baby; I am hostile to the people around me, and sometimes I see that my elders are dissatisfied with the way they take care of their children, and their relationship with their families and husbands is not harmonious. Often fall into extreme inferiority, self-abandonment, guilt;

4. Physical symptoms are easy to fatigue; It is difficult to fall asleep and wake up early; Loss of appetite; Loss of libido or even complete loss.

How to "endure" postpartum depression?

"Cooking" is a cooking method, which means "putting vegetables in water for a long time" and "enduring and supporting in pain", implying passivity and helplessness. For Bao's mother who suffers from postpartum depression, she needs more initiative to get out of the predicament.

1. Pregnant women should improve their psychological awareness and give themselves confidence.

Maternal women should realize that pregnancy, childbirth and puerperium are normal physiological processes for women. From the beginning of pregnancy, they should pay attention to learning the common sense of pregnancy and childbirth through various channels, learning postpartum health care and how to take care of the baby, and carrying out corresponding prenatal and postpartum examination and consultation; Learning can relieve pregnant women's anxiety and fear about pregnancy and childbirth, and improve their self-care ability. Maternal women should always remind themselves to keep a happy mood; We should constantly give ourselves confidence and realize that we are great and have given birth to such a lovely life. Although we are faced with many problems such as not taking good care of the baby, everyone has to go through a process from unfamiliarity to familiarity, make psychological adjustments, adapt to the change of roles, and maintain positive energy psychologically.

2. Create a suitable postpartum recovery environment and ensure adequate sleep.

When the puerpera is weak after delivery, when coming home from the hospital, try to limit the number of visitors, turn off the phone and create a quiet, comfortable and hygienic rest environment for themselves. Don't be overworked, pay attention to ensuring adequate sleep, and the baby will sleep and the mother will sleep.

3. Exercise more appropriately.

Proper exercise can produce dopamine, which can improve people's bad mood. Mothers can do some exercise every day, such as walking, meditation, deep breathing, yoga and so on. Exercise can activate human vitality. Yoga can not only regulate Ma Bao's endocrine system, but also relax the body and achieve the effect of regulating emotions. At the same time, going out in the sun is conducive to the decomposition and absorption of antidepressants in the body. When you are free, watch movies, go shopping and take a short trip with your family, which can avoid the mood and emotional overdraft.

4. Communicate with people more and get support.

A perfect support system is a shield to effectively prevent postpartum depression. Maternal women should share their worries and needs with others, especially with their husbands and girlfriends, so as to gain the understanding and support of family and friends.

5. Reading more books can open your heart.

There are many related psychological articles and books in books or online. Learning indirect experience can open your heart.

6. Music therapy

The limbic system of the brain and the reticular structure of the brain stem play a major role in regulating the internal organs and body functions of the human body, and music can directly or indirectly affect these neural structures. Choose more music that is conducive to improving positive emotions.

7. Seek professional treatment If postpartum depression is serious, seek professional treatment.

According to statistics, about 50-70% primiparas become depressed after delivery, prone to crying and anxiety, forgetfulness, sadness, insomnia, and worry too much about their babies. 、

As we know, the whole process from conception in October to delivery of the baby is a nirvana of life for Ma Bao, and the physical and mental pain and changes she experienced can be imagined. As a result, many treasure mothers can't help suffering from "depression" after giving birth to their children.

In fact, since pregnancy, due to the drastic changes in hormones in the body, not only physical discomfort, but also psychological fluctuations will occur. At this time, some pregnant women are easily depressed. There are always some inexplicable worries, such as "falling out of favor" in front of her husband, worrying that she will lose her beautiful figure before pregnancy after giving birth, and worrying that all her original advantages will no longer exist. Moreover, because women of childbearing age are prone to mental illness, women with poor adjustment ability can't get proper care at this time, and their psychological pressure is too great, so it is often difficult to change from "fashionable girl role" to "ordinary mother role". In this way, many pregnant women will become empty, and it is inevitable that they will think in their hearts, fearing that giving birth will bring a very bad life. It is conceivable that all the troubles and tiredness brought by the baby after birth are the main reasons for postpartum depression.

But the harm of postpartum depression to the mother is obvious, and it will also endanger the baby's health and intelligence.

You know, mom is the baby's world and mom's smile is the baby's bright sky. However, in the postpartum stage, new mothers often have mixed feelings, worry about various problems and even suffer from depression. This kind of postpartum depression appears within six weeks after delivery. I am busy taking care of the baby. My life is monotonous and my troubles are increasing. Worried that the baby can't eat well, worried about being out of shape, worried about work delays and so on. In addition, Baoding's crying every day will cause lack of sleep and make the new mother's mood worse and worse.

If you suffer from postpartum depression, you will often neglect to take care of your baby, and you will be less concerned and cared for, and you will not be able to communicate with your baby emotionally, which will cause obstacles to emotional communication between mother and child after childbirth. What's more, this behavior of the new mother will lead to behavioral difficulties, emotional tension and poor motor development in the first three months after birth. Moreover, in the late infancy, it will also lead to the formation of baby's cognitive ability and personality, and there will be obstacles to development, which will make the baby form a sensitive, anxious and withdrawn personality, and there will also be some bad consequences such as poor interpersonal skills and poor social adaptability.

Therefore, when postpartum depression occurs, we should pay due attention to it. Ma Bao must understand relevant psychological knowledge, establish emotional channels, and learn to channel emotions correctly. We should also be able to control emotions with emotions and coordinate bad emotions with other emotions; In addition, you should do more relaxation training at ordinary times.

If Ma Bao can't adjust her depression well, she can talk to her relatives and friends. Especially husbands should pay more attention to their wives and babies. It's best to know some scientific skills and methods to help Ma Bao adjust her body and mind, change her traditional parenting attitude, and make her mental health catch up with the times, so as to untie the knot of depression.

Postpartum depression is caused by physiological and psychological factors after giving birth to a child. Symptoms of postpartum depression include nervousness, anxiety, fear, guilt, irritability, loss of appetite, negative pessimism and so on. In severe cases, there will be thoughts and behaviors of despair, running away from home, hurting children or committing suicide.

Therefore, how to overcome postpartum depression and become a qualified mother and a healthy and happy woman requires the joint efforts of myself and my family.

1. Accept yourself and face yourself squarely. If you don't know how to deal with some situations, ask your elders, doctors or experienced friends in time, from which you can not only get help, but also get encouragement and understanding. It's normal for new mothers not to understand a lot of things. Don't be too hard on yourself. Tell yourself that I will soon master the basic knowledge of parenting. That's how everyone comes, and it's getting easier.

My baby is taken good care of by me now. When he falls asleep, I will take a rest and recharge my batteries, so that I can be full of energy and take care of the baby.

Ask your husband or family to help share the care of children and housework. Don't do everything yourself You are not only tired, but also easily emotional.

4. As a husband, pay more attention to his wife's psychological state, chat with her more, talk about happy topics more, be patient with his wife, cook some meals that she likes to eat, and let her feel your concern. You can't concentrate on taking care of the children, but your wife needs your care more. Take the initiative to take care of the children, do housework, let the wife have more rest and relax.

5, the family should understand the wife, the baby has some problems, don't blame the wife, question the wife, the child is not her alone, both sides have responsibilities and obligations. If so, it will only make depression worse.

6, you can listen to soothing music, I suggest light music, which can calm people's hearts in a few minutes.

7. Do some simple exercises, such as taking a walk after dinner or doing yoga. Have a light diet and eat more fruits and vegetables.

8. Reading some books that interest you can not only learn knowledge but also distract your attention, or read some jokes and the like.

9. Create a harmonious and warm family environment. Don't quarrel between family members, or because the children are unhappy, the family members are all smiling.

10. If you have worked hard and feel that the situation has not improved, go to the hospital in time and listen to the doctor's advice.

Don't give yourself too much psychological pressure, relax and wish you a speedy recovery!

Postpartum depression is a disease that puzzles postpartum female friends very much. It is mild and unhappy, and has no motivation to live. It is a heavy responsibility to choose extremes and give up life.

As family members, we should always pay attention to the emotional changes of pregnant women, and give timely care and guidance when we find that pregnant women are depressed.

Family members can help postpartum mothers share the responsibility of taking care of their babies, and usually chat with them more.

Remember not to focus on the baby and neglect the care for the mother. Let them feel the love and care from their families and have confidence in life.

1. convince yourself to accept the life after giving birth to the baby, look forward to the baby's growth and future, and don't be bothered by the fatigue in front of you.

2. Constantly communicate your thoughts and opinions with your family, express your thoughts, don't take them to heart, and digest them alone.

3. Pay attention to rest, and when you are tired, give your baby to your family. The children are husband and wife, and they are responsible for raising the children together.

4. think less and see more. If you have nothing to do, you should think less about trivial matters of 7788 and read more books, positive energy books and parenting books.

5. convince yourself to be broad-minded. Everything is easy to end. Nothing is good for yourself and important for children. Let him go with the rest.

Postpartum depression can be big or small Facing it, you need the understanding and help of your family, and you need the adjustment of your own mentality and self-salvation.

If it reaches a certain severity, seek the help of a psychologist in time to avoid adverse consequences.

Postpartum depression should first calm down and do some relaxation exercises, such as deep breathing and relaxation exercises. By telling others how bad your mood is and expressing your worries, you should do your best, let nature take its course, face the results, and have a good attitude towards things that you may not be able to grasp; Secondly, it is the help of family. Family members, especially husbands, must give enough care and understanding!