Bullfrog Education: Don't ruin your child's childhood with your anxiety!

A 68-year-old retired professor in Shanghai suddenly became an elderly internet celebrity because his family's "bullfrog breeding plan" failed!

In Shanghai, children were admitted to four private primary schools in Shanghai, which was a "bullfrog war", all of which were bullfrogs. If they are not accepted, they are frogs.

Why?

Because only by being admitted to a famous private primary school can we realize the growth of a famous private junior high school-a famous public high school-Fudan, Tsinghua Peking University Jiaotong University, and an overseas ivy.

Because the chances of being admitted to a prestigious school like Fudan from a public school are basically monopolized by several key high schools. The places in these key high schools are basically reserved in advance by children in private junior high schools.

As a result, their little grandson has been studying ABC in various training institutions since he was 3 years old. Every day, he is filled with all kinds of cross-age knowledge, and even sets different KPI assessments for his children every day, week and month.

How crazy! As adults, we are all easily overwhelmed by KPI assessment at work! And a 3-year-old child is actually receiving KPI assessment education.

The end result: the little grandson cried nervously during the interview and suffered from "children's Tourette's disease"-involuntarily raising eyebrows, blinking and kicking.

This is another story:

A young couple in Sichuan has bought a house and settled in a big city. After the birth of the child, the father remembered the childhood fun when he was a child, rolling in the mud, running on the grass and playing by the river. I deeply feel that this childhood is much more interesting than the reinforced concrete and photoelectric toys in the city.

So, he and his wife began to look around and finally found a small farmhouse with 200 square meters of open space. They signed the lease of 10 year in one breath, and spent half a year renovating and renovating, transforming a small white courtyard surrounded by a fence, planting more than 100 kinds of flowers and plants in the yard, and planting a hundred herbs garden for their son.

Here, children can do many things: they can stare at a group of ants all morning; Riding a toy car with pigs to patrol the mountains; Rolling on the grass; Chase butterflies and dragonflies; Sitting in dad's arms, reading picture books together; Help flowers and plants to water and fertilize; Watching my mother conjure up bottle after bottle of beautiful flower arrangement like magic. ......

Mother's carefully arranged flower arrangements, simple wooden furniture and light and delicious meals can be seen everywhere at home. The whole family is surrounded by flowers and plants in the yard, watering, weeding or playing, smiling and happy.

When the two stories are compared, the anxiety from parents is so clear.

We all have a common fault: we want our children to do what we think is right and take a better road. I'm afraid that if I'm not careful, my children will not catch up with others. I forgot that children should have a happy and carefree childhood.

Children should strive for talents, specialties, achievements and schools from an early age, and parents should also strive for economic ability, school districts and contacts. What a lively scene!

The happiest thing is the merchants. As long as they play the concepts of winning at the starting line, intellectual development enlightenment, music/mathematics/English/talent enlightenment and China traditional culture enlightenment, a group of loyal parents and fans will flock to them.

Therefore, there is a saying that "mother's monthly salary is 30 thousand, and she can't afford her children to spend the summer vacation", because all the students have gone to study in the United States in the summer vacation, and there is no topic of * * * if your children don't go; To prepare for the piano exam, you have to attend more training classes in advance; Learn to swim and exercise by the way; Before school starts, you should relax and attend summer training courses in English, Olympiad and composition.

As a result, more and more 3-and 4-year-old children, whether they really like it or not, are bound to be overwhelmed by various training courses and talent classes. Euphemistically called: other children can do it, what would you do?

In childhood, it is extremely rare to roll on the grass, tread water in the rain and watch a butterfly. Eating an ice cream can make you jump for joy. I'm free. I, smile happily, can cry if I want to. I don't have to look at other people's faces. I am hungry, tired and scared, and I have the warm arms of my parents.

Yes, when he grows up, he will also start to learn ABC, and his mind will be full of knowledge of all ages, and he will also face high-pressure KPI assessment and fierce competition. However, that is the way of life in the future, not the cruelty that childhood should face.

What kind of things should be done at any age, and childhood should be wild.

Wu Zhihong put forward a point in Why Family Hurts People:

The baby is not a blank sheet of paper, not an empty bottle. Parents or adults can twist a child into a crooked tree, but they can't decide whether he will become an poplar or a willow.

Since he was 3 years old, he has arranged a life path for him, urging him to walk fast on this road and catch up with others quickly. You think this will help him succeed and make him what you want. I forgot, what children want to do in the future, what they like to do, and what kind of people they will become when they grow up are all up to them.

Mr. Z and I have agreed:

Every spring and autumn, I will take my baby back to my hometown and let her run freely in the fields.

Go to cities in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai together on weekends, and don't be bound by various training courses;

Comply with the baby's personality, let her choose her own hobbies, support her, encourage her and urge her when she chooses her own direction;

Give her a hand when she needs help, give her independence and freedom when she is full-fledged, and then quit gracefully.

May we never forget your active heart, don't be confused by anxiety, and may she grow into what she longs for.