What are the four requirements for telling jokes?

Telling jokes on appropriate occasions can enliven the atmosphere, relax the nerves and relieve fatigue, which is undoubtedly a very pleasant thing. However, it is not easy to make yourself happy and others happy with a decent humor and elegant humor joke. Of course, when someone opens his mouth, it makes people smile or laugh, which is admirable. But it is also true that even telling the same joke makes people feel boring and can't laugh; It's still like a thorn in my back, which is very uncomfortable.

Why is it the same joke, but the effect is completely different? This problem is directly related to the vulgarity, eloquence, time and occasion of jokes.

1. Consider each other's characteristics.

The most complicated thing in the world is people. People say that "he who knows the times is a hero". This kind of "current affairs" is the complex social relationship between people, and this relationship is largely realized through people's diverse languages. People should have not only serious language, but also flexible language. Part of this flexible language is joking. Joking is not entirely arbitrary, but related to the listener. People's personality is diverse, and everyone's feelings are changing rapidly. If you want to tell jokes with others, it is essential to do some research on their personality and feelings. Someone has a glib tongue and a quick mind. Don't you dare play a joke on him, he will have ten or a hundred sentences waiting there. Although some people look quiet and even a little pedantic, they can give you a few words of surprise and surprise you. Some people are "smiling tigers" who leave a good impression on the surface, but they are actually fooling you and profiting from it. But there is a kind of person, young, naive, thin-skinned, never joking; Or because of custom, he is unwilling or unwilling to joke about a certain problem, as if he can't fiddle with it casually in his nerve bundle. Anyone who dares to cross the line, you're welcome, immediately blushes and has a thick neck. Be careful with such people, and don't let one sentence affect interpersonal relationships.

There is another kind of person who, although not smart, does not shy away when you are joking, and is willing and able to join in the fun and say a few words. Such people are often defeated in less than three or five rounds, immediately stop and take an evasive attitude. Most of these people are easy-going, even if you make a few more jokes on impulse, you can't go wrong. However, you must "enough is enough". In particular, don't joke endlessly around a person, because even a person with a good temper has limited endurance. When people can't stand it, they may make a "half blush" and break up in discord.

Step 2 distinguish between time and place

The same joke, said at different times and places, has different effects. On one occasion, the other party can readily accept and cooperate with you tacitly, but on another occasion, you may be greatly embarrassed; Some people can accept your jokes at this time, but at that time, they "changed their faces" and made it impossible for you to step down. Why? Never blame the other party for being fickle and disloyal. Because there must be a reason. Or on this occasion, people are hiding something; During that time, people's mood changed, and you didn't even notice it. To this end, we must not joke regardless of time and occasion, so as not to affect interpersonal relationships.

Step 3 make jokes elegant

There is a wide range of jokes, but there is one joke that should not be told, that is, making fun of each other's parents, brothers, sisters, couples, children, especially others' physical defects. As the saying goes, don't hit others in the face, and don't expose your shortcomings when you speak. This is a fact. What do you think if the other party retorts, an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth? Moreover, people are lame, deaf, blind or dumb, which is already very painful. It will make people more miserable if you joke about other people's pain.

In social communication, the elegance and vulgarity of jokes used by jokers are a portrayal of their thinking, wisdom and accomplishment. If you always make vulgar jokes, it is tantamount to making fun of your identity. Therefore, jokes should not be told casually, but should be elegant, humorous and funny.

4. Be good at distinguishing authenticity.

Don't be half-true, half-false, and joke and deceive people. There are many such cases in life and social life. Some people like to vent their grievances with jokes, which is very unwise. Because when you talk big, you should believe that the other person is not a fool. People are generous, ignore them, and you take advantage. If the other person is as knowledgeable as you, you will have no good fruit to eat. Therefore, joking should pay attention to science, seize the opportunity and go straight to the point.

It's best to find information about telling jokes not from the interviewee, but from other aspects, such as joking about something, which doesn't involve people who get together at all. You can also joke about recent social anecdotes, or make up a joke out of nothing.

The content of telling jokes must vary from person to person. For people with status, status and knowledge, telling some vulgar jokes will make you mean. For ordinary people, if you tell some elegant jokes, they will not understand them and will not find them funny.

When telling jokes, we should also pay attention to whether there are women present. If there is, it is best not to tell some jokes between men and women, otherwise men will laugh and women will feel ashamed. Although they say nothing, they think you are frivolous and ignorant!

It's not easy to tell a good joke.