What does it mean if your lover doesn’t reply to WeChat? A person will no longer reply to you on WeChat.

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I don’t know if you have had this experience:

When chatting with the person you like, there is always endless things to talk about. You want to share it with him, but after you type a long conversation, all you receive is a cold monosyllable: "um", "oh", and then nothing more. At this time, all your The desire to talk is like being splashed with cold water.

After experiencing situations like this several times, we will naturally learn to be good and no longer want to share everything with each other.

Even though sometimes you can't help but want to share it with him, but when you finish typing and prepare to send it, you suddenly think of his previous reply. At this time, naturally you will not send it. , but will delete all the typed words one by one.

Gradually, your desire to take the initiative to share with him becomes smaller and smaller, until finally you no longer share.

I believe that many people have experienced scenes like this in their lives.

In the relationship between two people, once the desire to share is gone, the relationship will almost come to an end.

Because many relationships in life are like this. Once someone has accumulated enough disappointment and no longer takes the initiative to send messages to the other party, the other party will also tacitly agree not to send messages again. From then on, the two people We will never see each other again.

Maybe you are still a member of each other’s friend list, but you are no longer in contact.

When a person stops replying to your WeChat messages, it is mostly because of the following reasons.

Everyone will get tired after taking the initiative in a relationship for a long time

Beauvoir once wrote in "Love Letters from Overseas": "I long to see you, but please remember, I will not ask to see you. This is not because of pride, you know that I have no pride in front of you, but because our meeting is meaningful only if you also want to see me.

Indeed, a good relationship requires both sides to be meaningful.

In a relationship, love will naturally take the initiative. However, if in a relationship, you are the only one who takes the initiative from beginning to end, then, There is no doubt that in this love competition, it is destined to be a one-man show for you.

Just like a debater in "Qi Pa Shuo" said: "I believe that there is no one in this world. What cannot be obtained through hard work and struggle. Except people, except that, except you. ”

I deeply agree.

When it comes to feelings, you are not rewarded for your efforts. Many times, even you have moved yourself, but what you have Everything you put in is nothing in the eyes of someone who doesn't love you.

And when a person takes the initiative for too long in a relationship and doesn't get a response, it's natural. I will realize that the other person doesn't like me.

In the beginning, I will firmly tell myself that it's his problem, as long as I like him. However, with the accumulation of disappointments one after another, when the pain is deep, you will naturally choose to let go.

All departures are planned for a long time

Cai Kangyong in the show. Zhong once said this: "There is an emotional account between people. Every time you make the other person happy, the deposit will be more. Every time you make the other party sad, the deposit will be less." ”

In layman’s terms, it is: “In a relationship, love is accumulated, and the same is true for non-love.”

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Freezing does not happen overnight, the sun does not set suddenly, and people’s hearts do not suddenly become cold.

The departure of many people, in fact, It was already doomed from the beginning.

In relationships, we will tolerate, tolerate, and understand each other because of love. However, if we compromise again and again, we will get nothing in return. It's the other person's fault, and they don't regret it.

Then, the small disappointments will be accumulated little by little, and finally the feelings will explode in small things. Often, grief is greater than heartbreak, and most of the reasons for heartbreak are because we have accumulated enough disappointment in relationships, are tired, want to let go, and don’t want to continue to torture ourselves.

Just like that. As people say: "All high-profile departures are temptations; real departures are silent. ”

In a relationship, when a woman is disappointed with a man, she will not cry or argue with the man, asking why the man does not know how to cherish herself, but will quietly let him go. She disappears into a man's life.

At this time, not only will she not reply to your messages immediately, she will even ignore you if she sees it. She will start to be very indifferent to you. You are completely expelled from her life

All efforts are eager to receive a response

Young writer Lu Sihao once wrote in the book: "The so-called sincerity, no hesitation, and perseverance. The so-called unreserved concern can only reflect its value when used on the right person. Otherwise, it is useless and disgusting. Only when used on the right person can it be a kind of liking and persistence. It is a feeling, otherwise, it will only increase the trouble. ”

I deeply believe that only when love is given to the right person can you get the response you want.

There are many examples like this in life.

Many people fall in love and then break up, not because they don’t love anymore, but because they have put in too much in a relationship but received no response. After a long time, they will naturally become tired. Love It doesn’t move.

Indeed, relationships can never be maintained by one person’s efforts, nor can they reach the end by one person’s hard work.

News. You have to send it to the other person so that you can receive a timely reply. You have to make the call to the right person so that the call can be answered immediately after ringing. Only when you give it to the right person can your feelings be cherished.

The kind of love that is solitary and never looks back will only turn into a joke in the end, because all your bravery, all your efforts, all your desperate efforts are just your wishful thinking

In relationships, the most fearful thing is to be moved by yourself

So, when you love someone until you are physically and mentally exhausted, you will naturally understand that the passion that can be reciprocated is called mutuality. If you like it, at this time, you will naturally choose to let go decisively and will not continue to love stupidly.

Emotional message:

I like this sentence very much: "Love is useless." , it’s useless to love too much, only loving each other is useful. "

Haruki Murakami once said: "Not all fish live in the same sea. ”

On the train of life, we all have to accept some active or passive partings, but I hope we will not doubt ourselves because of this.

Milk may fail Your wallet may be carelessly lost, your friendship may fade due to time and money, and your love may eventually be consumed because of trivial matters.

Don’t wait for the right person to appear. You will find that the best part of you has already been used up. Don’t look back again and again for the scenery you missed. There are mountains, flowing water, vastness and gentle wind ahead of you. Wrong People, please stop entangled and disturbed. Only by saying goodbye to the wrong person can you meet the right person again.