Envy other children who speak early and have strong expressive skills? If you do these things well, your children can too

I was playing basketball with Hengheng downstairs a few days ago. A little boy ran over, pointed at the ball in my hand and said: "Ball, ball." The ancestors from behind came over and asked him to call me aunt, but the child couldn't. I guessed that the child was not very good at talking yet, so Hengheng wanted to play something else, so I handed the basketball to the child. The boy was about one meter tall and could not speak very well. I was surprised. The child's grandmother told me that the child will be two years old soon.

I recall that when Hengheng was this age, he could already speak simple sentences.

"I want to eat."

"I'm hungry."

"I'm thirsty."

"Want to play that Toys."

Short sentences like this have become his daily vocabulary. When most two-year-old children in the community could only pronounce one word or repeated refrains, Hengheng started speaking relatively early.

I remember Hengheng started calling him "Dad" when he was six months old, but he didn't mean it at that time. It can be said that he didn't know what he was talking about, it was just as common as saying "babble ya ya". So at that time, I couldn't be considered to be able to speak.

He began to express himself when he was one year and ten months old. He began to speak single words or repeated words such as "rice rice" from his mouth. Later on, he started to speak short sentences out of control, and by the age of two and a half, he was already able to speak long sentences. When he entered kindergarten, he was already able to complete basic communication.

When many parents are worried that their children will be wronged due to language restrictions when they go to kindergarten, I have become much calmer. Because he comes back from school every day and tells me in detail everything that happened on that day in kindergarten, as long as I want to know. In addition, I can also tell from his words whether he is happy or not. In this way, I have always felt relieved when he went to kindergarten.

Let Hengheng learn to speak early. I am very happy that I have done a few things right in the past few years when I took care of my baby.

1. In daily life, communicate frequently with children

The day Hengheng started talking, the mothers in the community were surprised and asked me how I did it. I said that since I was born and took over the responsibility of taking care of him, I treat him as an independent individual and talk to him normally every day. Some mothers laughed at me: "He won't even reply. It feels so silly to communicate like this, like talking to myself." I know many mothers have this idea.

In fact, I once had this idea, during the prenatal education period. I took a bedtime story and read it there. The story was too simple and boring for me to read. The worst part was that the baby in my belly couldn't respond to me. But my feelings changed after he was born, because at this time, children can laugh, cry, make noises, give us looks, babbling, and learn to speak, and later they can use their fingers, kicks, and Mouth kisses...these are the languages ??he uses to communicate with us. I understand his needs through these expressions, actions and words, so I always communicate with him in normal language, just like I communicate with his dad.

2. Start parent-child reading at ten months old and continue until now

Research shows that a child’s brain development can complete 80% of an adult’s before the age of three. When children are young, the earlier they are enlightened in a certain aspect, the more complete the development of the brain will be in this aspect, especially language.

The development of children's language ability is first through a lot of listening. After a certain amount of accumulation, they slowly speak single words, then speak repeated words, such as dad, mom, and later The process of being able to speak simple sentences and finally being able to speak long sentences. If we want children to start talking early, we need to give them enough language input. Parent-child reading is one of the most important ways for children to acquire more language skills.

Speaking of parent-child reading, when I had this idea, my child was only five months old. I bought three sets of color cards and more than ten small books about vegetables, fruits and animals.

Occasionally I would watch it with him, but he wasn't very interested, so I didn't insist anymore.

When Hengheng was ten months old, I bought him a set of "Peppa Pig" picture books, with ten copies in one volume. I started reading with him, but he didn't listen at first, crawling around on the bed by himself, just playing with himself. Later, I read it to him in a very exaggerated tone, and curiously talked to myself about the pictures in the book. He was quickly drawn to it. A month later, he developed the habit of reading before going to bed. Even when I occasionally wanted to be lazy one night and didn't want to read, he would move the book he wanted to read to the bed early and wait for me. In this way, he forced me to persist in parent-child reading until now.

I am very lucky that we persisted at the beginning. It allows us to turn reading into a habit, and allows Hengheng to learn to speak early.

3. Take your children out to play often

After all, our daily communication is still limited, but it is different outside. Everyone we meet will let us hear different languages, and children's language accumulation can increase a lot. Especially playing with some talking brothers and sisters. It is easier to communicate with peers, and it is easier to become the target of their language imitation.

So in our daily life, as long as it is not cold winter or rainy weather, we basically play outside. In the summer, I would play outside for four or five hours every day.

Of course, most children will speak normally, but it will take time.

However, some children cannot speak even after they are over two years old. In this case, there are basically two possibilities:

1. There is violence in the family, and the parents have neglected to communicate with them. Children's communication.

This situation is very scary, because it is likely to cause the child to have autism and be unwilling to speak. I once met a mother in the community. Her child was diagnosed with autism when he was three years old. She said that she was very busy at work and her mother-in-law took care of her children. My mother-in-law is a very strong person and treats her children very harshly and often scolds them.

Her husband is very unsatisfactory and makes little money. He is addicted to games when he gets home from get off work every day. She can't stand it. There are often endless disputes at home. She drags her tired body every day, facing the garbage in the house, and has no energy to take care of her children. But later she discovered that other people's children around two years old were starting to talk, but her son couldn't yet. She heard others say that it takes time for children to start talking, so she didn't pay attention.

Later, when the child was three years old and could not speak, she became anxious. After going to the hospital for examination, she found out that the child had autism. Only then did she realize that the child often hid in the corner and played alone, not because he was good, but because he did not feel the love of his family. She blamed herself very much. In order to help her child treat his illness, she had to quit her job and spend time with her child every day.

If a child is in a tense environment for a long time, lacking care and communication, the child will be unable to speak or unwilling to speak. Emerson said: "Family is the kingdom of the father, the world of the mother, and the paradise of children." If we want our children to be happy, we must give them enough love and strive to give them a warm family.

2. Parents have too strong emotional ability.

There was a three-year-old child who could not speak yet. The stay-at-home mother was very surprised. She took the child to the hospital for examination. The doctor looked at the child for a long time and found nothing wrong with the child. The doctor thought he had encountered a difficult disease. After observing her at home, he found that the problem was that the mother's sexual ability was too strong.

Every time the child needs something, the mother has already put it in the child's hands before the child can say it, and the child has no chance to express it. The doctor advised the mother to play dumb appropriately, and the child started talking after three months.

I really like what someone said about education:

Education is to turn oneself into a child, and to turn the child into oneself; education is to say something boldly in one's heart; education is to say something boldly in one's heart; Just listen to your children.

This shows how important it is for parents to learn to be fools and give their children the opportunity to speak on the road to parenting.

Hengheng often describes a thing or his point of view to me in detail, and uses words like 'because, so, but'. I often think of myself as a The ignorant boy then asked a series of questions such as "Why did this happen?" "What happened next?" "No, what should I do?", which made him always have endless desires to express. Not only that, his good communication skills also gave him full confidence.

Letting children talk early and talk well is a matter of course. Coupled with a little wisdom from us, children can make better use of their language skills. Give your children enough love, communicate more with them in daily life, insist on parent-child reading, take your children out to make friends more often, treat yourself as a child who knows nothing, and ask your children why... As long as we can do these things well, children's language Ability will bring us unexpected surprises.

May we all be silly mothers who love our children, and may our children have a childhood where they can express themselves happily.

#0-6 years old parenting experience#