My mother-in-law and daughter-in-law sent porridge for a week, but the old lady next door couldn't see her tears. Why did her daughter-in-law do this?

I found that no matter what I wrote about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, whether it was good or bad, how it went and how it turned out, someone would always leave a message of hatred below. I will never forgive my mother-in-law for what she did. I will always remember that one day, she will definitely feel the taste I have tasted. I wrote an article the other day, expressing an opinion. In fact, most conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are caused by excessive suspicion. In fact, they may not be so serious, but more out of thin air, just thinking too much and thinking too much.

Actually, I'm talking about common phenomena, not some special cases. Most mother-in-law, even if they are not kind to their daughter-in-law, have absolutely no malice, and so is their daughter-in-law. This is true, but there are comments below. She doesn't believe that she will never understand each other, otherwise the evil spirit in her heart will be hard to swallow. I can understand that no one knows the pain that others have experienced. A woman must have been deeply hurt, and she will have this kind of revenge after she is completely desperate. Otherwise, who will always remember one thing and can always substitute it?

You know, it's not that person who hates this person, but yourself. But at the same time, I will feel a deep chill. Do you really want to do this before you give up? In this case, she has to wait, wait for decades, wait for a long time, and maybe she can't wait for her so-called opportunity.

Isn't it yourself who has been tortured for decades? This price is really meaningful. Is it really worth it? Maybe today's women will find it worthwhile and meaningful, but will you still think so that day? A woman told me that she didn't think it was worth it She did it when she arrived, and when she finished, she felt empty and bored. "I used to be full of anger, so I think we must wait until that day, and then let her know how bad what she did to me in those days, and she will never understand without personal experience.

But when I really did it, I felt carefree at first, but when I saw her appearance, I felt really bored, and suddenly I felt that my decades-long planning was a joke. After all, I tortured myself. I made her understand, but what did I get myself? My relationship with my husband has been cold for decades. I blame him for not protecting me in those years and think he should feel guilty about me. He always mentioned this matter over and over again, which affected the relationship between husband and wife and made me unhappy.

I can't let go of that emotion, which has changed my whole person. It seems that I have lived for this for 34 years. I've been waiting for this day. Now that I have finished writing, I feel that life has lost its most important meaning. I just found out that I am really stupid and pathetic. "Guo Yu was only 19 years old when she married her husband. That year, she was young and didn't know anything. Her parents said that Guo Yu was going to marry her in-laws, and her in-laws had a good personality in the surrounding neighborhood. The boss of their family, that is, the person I am going to marry, is also an honest, hardworking and willing person.

Guo Yuhe men have seen it several times, and the man's personality is a bit dull, but it's ok for her. After several meetings, she also brought back some strange gadgets as gifts from other places. Guo Yu thought the man was not bad, so he promised his parents and married a man. Guo Yu also has a brother-in-law and a sister-in-law, who are older than themselves and have become monks. My brother-in-law got married in the second year after Guo Yu took the door, built a house and moved out. Guo Yu's husband is the boss, and his in-laws should follow him. Therefore, even though he has the ability to go out and start his own business, Guo Yuhe's husband has not moved out of his in-laws' house, and has been living with them.

Guo Yu's husband used to work in other places. Later, after Guo Yu entered the door, the man went home and lived a down-to-earth life for a year. Later, after Guo Yu became pregnant, the man went out to work again. After all, there is one more child to raise at home, and there is no money to earn locally. For the sake of children, men have to go out and work hard. Although Guo Yu didn't want to give up, he couldn't stop it and finally had to compromise.

After all, I just got married. After I reluctantly sent my husband away, Guo Yu gave birth to a baby at home. At that time, mobile phones were not popular, and even fixed telephones were actually rare. I can talk to my husband once a month, but I can't say a few words to the time. As a wife, Guo Yu felt helpless and lonely for the first time.

The money sent back by her husband should have been collected by Guo Yu, but every time it was collected by her in-laws on the grounds that she was unwell. Guo Yu was still young at that time and didn't feel anything. When her husband is around, he is the pillar of the family, and everything is in his charge. But since her husband left, the economic power has fallen into the hands of her in-laws, and life in Guo Yu is not so good.

"When I was pregnant, I didn't work less. When I got the money, I thought about my health. I won't go to the post office in town, let me work at home. They never thought about it. Isn't it interesting? I can understand who told me to feed chickens and pigs. They also asked me to dig wells. Why didn't they think that I was inconvenient when I was pregnant and couldn't bend over? Why didn't they think of letting me wash clothes in the cold winter?

I was really young at that time, and I didn't know anything about pregnancy maintenance, and my mother-in-law didn't tell me. Fortunately, when I was young, my body was really good and my son was strong enough, so I could give birth to a baby safely. Maybe people nowadays can't believe it. My baby was born on the kang at home. At that time, I wanted to go to the health center. My mother-in-law said that she had three children, all of whom were born at home. She is very experienced and good, but she just won't let me go.

As I said, I am lucky, and the birth of a child is still smooth. If it is really bad, I am afraid that no one can say these words now. "After giving birth, her husband asked for leave to go home for a week. Guo Yu's resentment was all on her husband. She felt that her husband was too far away to protect her. She asked her husband to resign and go home, but he was in a dilemma and finally left. This buried the resentment in Guo Yu's heart.

During her husband's week, her mother-in-law was very kind to Guo Yu, probably because she was afraid that her son would work outside. After all, it is dangerous for Guo Yu's husband to do manual labor outside. Mother-in-law did a good job on the surface, and finally her husband could go with peace of mind. However, after her husband left, Guo Yu's life began to plummet, and her mother-in-law cooked corn porridge for a week. The reason is simple: "if you can't finish eating corn flour at home, you will grow bugs." Our family is not rich. It's not normal to eat whatever we want. That's how I ate when I was pregnant. In case something happens, the milk is enough, and the child I gave birth to is not very strong. "

Guo Yu didn't refute, and she couldn't find a reason to refute, so she could only keep it in mind. These things, one by one, fermented in her heart: "No matter how good she is to me, I understand that she is deliberately bad to me. How can I swallow this tone in my heart? After giving birth to the child, I finally realized that my mother-in-law was no longer so stupid. I'll do whatever she tells me to do. What's the use of meekly pleasing her? People don't take you seriously at all.

She quarreled with me and I quarreled with her. When she quarreled with me, I quarreled louder than her, which made people watch. I'm not afraid of making a fool of myself. My husband is out of town. He doesn't care about me. I can't let others bully me, can I? I told my mother-in-law at that time, and I said that she would give it back to herself one day! She doesn't believe it. She said that she has a daughter and a son, and there will be a son to support her in the future. What is she afraid of?

Not two years later. I forced my husband to divorce. I asked him to build a house and told him that if he didn't leave home, he would get a divorce. If he doesn't leave home, I'll have a falling out at your house. Later, my husband couldn't help it, and our family moved out. At that time, my mother-in-law and I were completely out of touch. On holidays, I went home and asked my husband to take the children back. My father-in-law died in recent years, and I went back to see one.

My relatives at the other end of their family said I was cold-blooded, and my husband once told me about me. I told him directly. You don't know how much I have suffered in your home these years, partly because of his parents and partly because of him. These things have made me unforgivable all my life. Because of this, my husband and I quarreled many times, but he couldn't beat me, so he said, leave me alone. He still thinks that I care too much, and I am getting colder and colder. I only think about my children and never tear my face.

The old man is gone, but I still can't forgive my mother-in-law. She's old, and I'm old, but some things can't pass after all, and I have to pay them back. I am waiting for that day. "It was some time ago that my mother-in-law was old and chronic appendicitis turned into an acute attack. Old and in poor health, she still chose conservative treatment, and now she can only take risks and be hospitalized. My mother-in-law is in hospital, but my sister-in-law has just given birth to a second child, so I can't take care of both. This job naturally falls on Guo Yu. Her husband thought that Guo Yu would not go, and Guo Yu readily agreed.

"Go, why not? She took care of me when she was confined. I should repay this kindness. " Guo Yu plays stick porridge and steamed bread and pickles in the hospital cafeteria every day, which takes a week to deliver, so that the aunt in the next bed can't stand it anymore. She argued with Guo Yu: "Your mother-in-law is in hospital, not to practice medicine. Why do you make these for her all day? You have to drink more stew to make up for it. " Guo Yu didn't respond, and her mother-in-law just waved to the clinic: "Sister, don't say it. I ate well and my daughter-in-law was very kind to me. My niece didn't come She takes care of me every day. "

Guo Yu felt as if he had been pricked by a needle and didn't speak. Later, when she left, she stood outside for a while, also wanting to hear if her mother-in-law would speak ill of herself behind her back. On the surface, she said she was so nice, but in her heart, she didn't say exactly what she thought. She thought so, but she heard an unexpected conversation. "Elder sister, you this daughter-in-law, and you don't deal with? How could I do this to you? You'd better speak for her. "

My mother-in-law wiped her tears and said, "No, I owe her. She just blamed me in her heart. I am old, and the past can make me forget. She can't forget it, don't blame her, don't blame her ... "Her mother-in-law repeated a sentence, which made Guo Yu feel very complicated. The next day, she thought about it and stewed a pot of fish soup for her mother-in-law. She left without seeing her mother-in-law

"I remember for so long, complain for so long, I'm going crazy. Finally, I couldn't bear it. I'm not that kind of vicious woman. There are some things I really can't do. I'm just thinking. All these years, I'm just embarrassing myself. It's really stupid Might as well put it down early. Now I am relaxed. "

Guo Yu's self-report deserves our deep thought. During the confinement, she was really not treated well by her mother-in-law. Her husband was not in front of her at that time, so she couldn't take care of her. She really had a very depressed day and suffered a lot of grievances. She thought she would be happy after taking revenge, but after doing it, she didn't feel as happy as expected. Instead, she became more confused and began to doubt the significance of these plans over the years, and even her life began to doubt.

I don't want to persuade everyone to "repay evil with good". As I said, I can't feel anyone's pain, others can't feel it, and only the parties can feel it. But I also want to say, really don't use your precious life. There is really no need to engage in a long-term front to get back at someone. What if you miss it and you can't accept this situation, even if you wait? Are you happy? Life has many meanings. You shouldn't let hatred blind you. If the present thing is solved at this moment, you will let go of the unresolved thing. Don't let it become a heart disease for you and affect your life.