What if you have a bad temper?

Question 1: What if you have a bad temper? First of all, we must understand that a person's temper is related to his personality, and his personality is related to his virtue. This cannot be faked, and virtue depends on his own cultivation.

Secondly, people with bad temper are generally impulsive people. In the face of many things, they often rely on their own perceptual knowledge to deal with problems, which is very bad. If you don't treat problems so impulsively and rationally, your temper will be much better.

For example, your wife or girlfriend lost 500 yuan. What will you do when you find out? Think about it. Touch your conscience and say what you would do if such a thing really happened. Your character will definitely say: Why are you so careless? 500 yuan was supposed to give it to you. Now you have lost something. What should you do? I think that's how most people with bad temper handle it! People with higher quality will handle it like this: they will calmly ask where and when they lost it, whether they went back to find it, whether they asked anyone, and so on. Then they will say that if you really can't get it back, forget it. If you lose it, you can earn it again, but you must be careful in the future! Remind the other party in a peaceful way, and the other party may accept it more easily.

In addition, people with bad temper will often talk and be aggressive when treating others, which will not only leave a bad impression on others, but also encourage your bad temper while others tolerate you.

For example, if someone asks you a question, which is quite simple for you, you will say: Why do you have to ask this question? Why do you have to ask a question that can be thought of with your knees? You're not retarded, are you? It seems like a joke, but it is full of arrogant offensive consciousness. People with high quality will talk about this problem in detail and then say that it is actually a simple problem. Do you understand after listening to me? This way of speaking gives others a follow-up and is easy to step down.

Finally, it is important that people with bad temper usually lack self-control. If this is done, it is possible to do three things in mind, otherwise. ...........

Self-control is actually a good exercise. When you are doing something that you find interesting, if you stop doing it and there is nothing to lose except unpleasant feelings, then force yourself to stop at once and not do it.

For example, when you watch TV, a movie is very interesting. You're watching. You really want to watch. Well, turn it off and do something else. Although you are still thinking in your heart, your subjective consciousness has begun to increase self-control. Gradually, you will find that your temper is not so bad, and people's virtue is also high. If you can do the above four points.

Finally, doing long-distance running every day is also a good way to exercise self-control ability, 2000 meters a day. Insist on it every day, and your self-control ability will certainly improve, but it is impossible to improve it after three days of fishing and two days of drying the net.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

Question 2: What should I do if I have a particularly bad temper? I should try to control my emotions, and don't be emotional all the time. Bad for your health! Easy to get old, remember!

Question 3: What is the reason why people lose their temper easily? Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena in daily life. Many young people are impatient and impulsive, especially when they are unhappy or don't like themselves. Sometimes they quarrel with others and say embarrassing things, or affect the unity between comrades or family harmony. People have good temper and bad temper. A good-natured person will be welcomed wherever he goes, and others like to cooperate with him and do things. People with bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others and make others find it difficult to get along with them. Some people have made a survey and found that most young men and women take asking each other to be good-tempered as one of the conditions when choosing a spouse. According to experience, we also know that if one or two people in a family or a small unit have a bad temper, it will often make the family or the collective disunited. Therefore, getting rid of bad temper is not only to eliminate personal distress, but also to promote family harmony and collective unity. A person's good temper has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives and works. Good temper, such as meekness, peace and patience, is often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad temper, such as grumpy, stubborn, eccentric, willful, etc., is often related to being spoiled, spoiled or unable to get the warmth of the family, and parents are too strict. The smooth or bumpy road of personal life will also have a great influence on people's temper and personality. "A leopard cannot change his spots" means that people's temper and personality are stable, but it doesn't mean they are fixed. As we all know, some people have a bad temper when they are young and are as stubborn as an unruly cow; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of bad temper, his temper gradually calmed down and he was less stubborn about things. So bad temper can be changed. Of course, some will not change, because he didn't ask to change his bad temper himself, or he didn't ask to change it seriously. So, how can we get rid of bad temper? First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the harm of bad temper. In social life, we always contact and associate with others, hoping to get their goodwill, friendship, appreciation and cooperation (of course, it is impossible for everyone to do so), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lifeless and unable to move. Human behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness. Knowing the harm of bad temper, you can get rid of it from your heart. Secondly, we should strengthen ideological cultivation. Only by always thinking of others and respecting their interests and needs can we be full of warmth, consideration and love for others. Only by putting the collective interests first at all times can we not be impulsive and opinionated, and we can be calm and think twice before acting. Finally, we should have determination and perseverance to get rid of bad temper. If you can't remember it today, be careful. Two days later, we are still the same. With determination and perseverance, bad temper is bound to get rid of.

Question 4: What if you have a bad temper? I'm depressed. Recently, I have a bad temper. First of all, I must understand one thing, that is, a person's temper is related to his character, and his character is related to his virtue, which is impossible to pretend. Virtue should be cultivated bit by bit by yourself. Secondly, people with bad temper are generally impulsive people. In the face of many things, it is very bad to deal with problems only by your own perceptual knowledge. If you don't look at problems so impulsively and rationally when dealing with them, your temper will be much better. Moreover, people with bad temper will often talk and be aggressive when they treat others, which will not only leave a bad impression on others, but also encourage your bad temper while others put up with you. Finally, it is important that people with bad temper usually lack self-control. If this is done well, it is possible to do well in three aspects. Otherwise, ...........'s self-control ability is actually very good. When you are doing something that you find interesting, if you stop doing it, there is nothing to lose except unpleasant feelings, and you will force yourself to stop immediately and not do it. You have begun to increase your self-control, and gradually you will find that your temper is not so hot and your virtue is high. If you can do the above four points, finally, it is also a good way to exercise self-control ability to insist on long-distance running every day, 2000 meters a day. If you insist on it every day, your self-control ability will definitely improve, but it is impossible to improve it after three days of fishing and two days of drying the net. 2. Find out the source of your anger. When did you start to feel that you have changed and are angry? Generally speaking, if it is not before, if it is now, it may be that there are some unsatisfactory places in your previous life that have been suppressed, which will lead you to feel that everything you see is not suitable for you. If something bad happens, you will be very angry. After finding out the reason, think for yourself whether it is worthwhile to do so now and discuss it with people close to you. You need someone to untie the bell and someone to tie it. After the one in my heart has not been untied. We should gradually get rid of this bad habit, that is, when things go wrong and we want to get angry, we must restrain ourselves and postpone the process. This is very important. You can also write down the reason for your anger, and you will feel better when you go to see it in a calm evening. It may take some time to get better. I think you are anxious for a certain reason. But here can only be a simple guess Some bad habits of people are generally rooted. Most of them were brought up from childhood. Generally speaking, people who get angry easily have a fire hidden in their hearts. You usually don't notice it. Under certain conditions, you will explode. At this time, you will have a feeling of losing your mind. Find a time to think about what made you feel particularly wronged and sad when you were growing up. You still can't forget it. Think about it ... and then think about why people do this to you. Make those things clear, and learn to analyze why others do it and why you do it. When you are angry, think carefully. This is not worth it. 4. Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena in daily life. Many young people are impatient and impulsive, especially when they are unhappy or don't like themselves. Sometimes they quarrel with others and say embarrassing things, or affect the unity between comrades or family harmony. People have good temper and bad temper. A good-natured person will be welcomed wherever he goes, and others like to cooperate with him and do things. People with bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others and make others find it difficult to get along with them. Some people have made a survey and found that most young men and women take asking each other to be good-tempered as one of the conditions when choosing a spouse. According to experience, we also know that if one or two people in a family or a small unit have a bad temper, it will often make the family or the collective disunited. Therefore, getting rid of bad temper is not only to eliminate personal distress, but also to promote family harmony and collective unity. A person's good temper has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives and works. Good temper, such as meekness, peace and patience, is often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad temper, such as grumpy, stubborn, eccentric, willful, etc., is often related to being spoiled, spoiled or unable to get the warmth of the family, and parents are too strict. The smooth or bumpy road of personal life will also have a great influence on people's temper and personality. "Jiang ... >>

Question 5: I often wonder how to lose my temper inexplicably. Being angry and losing your temper is actually a hostile and angry state of mind. When people's subjective desire is contrary to the objective reality, this negative emotional reaction will occur. Psychological research shows that bad temper and frequent anger not only strengthen the pathogenesis of heart disease, but also increase the possibility of suffering from other diseases. Therefore, in order to ensure your physical and mental health, you must learn to control yourself and overcome the bad habit of losing your temper.

Consciousness control

When anger is about to erupt, we should control ourselves with consciousness, remind ourselves to be rational, and hint to ourselves that "don't be angry, it will hurt our health, and people with self-restraint can generally control it."

Admit yourself

Dare to admit that you love to lose your temper in order to get help from others. If people around you constantly remind and supervise you, then your goal will be achieved.

Appropriate response

Any normal person will be angry when he is wronged, but no matter what happens, he should let the other party know what he borrowed from his words and deeds calmly and without prejudice, and should not react inappropriately quickly. Thus depriving the other party of the opportunity to admit their mistakes.

Put yourself in sb's shoes.

Everything should be honest and practical. If you can stand on the other side of the problem, then, many times, you have no reason to take it out on others, and your anger will naturally disappear.

easy

Don't haggle over every ounce, don't retaliate, when you learn to be tolerant, your tantrums will disappear on their own.

It's time to start.

In real life, some people often say: I used to get angry easily, but it was not until I got a heart attack that I realized that nothing was worth getting angry about. Please don't wait for a heart attack to stop being angry. If you want to overcome the bad habit of blonde temper, start today.

My temper is not very good, I think, first of all, we must learn to be tolerant.

Check first, do you have the following characteristics:

(1) When you get angry, you curse, smash things and even hit people.

(2) The emotional response is simple, lacking a sense of humor, not joking, keeping silent about the things that are satisfactory, and the things that are dissatisfied are often solved by quarreling and losing their temper.

(3) In the face of setbacks in life, there is only one way of psychological defense, and that is to vent.

I can't stand it at all.

He is quick-tempered and can do anything. He couldn't control himself at that time, and he especially regretted it afterwards.

(6) I can't listen to anyone's persuasion, especially when I am emotional.

These are typical characteristics of irritable people.

Anger can be controlled and temper can be changed. The key is to master the method.

(1) Situation transfer method: When anger suddenly comes out, people have five ways to deal with it. One is to suppress anger into your heart and sulk; The second is to lose your temper and punish yourself; The third is unconscious revenge and venting; The fourth is to lose your temper and vent your anger in a very strong form; The fifth is to divert attention to offset anger. Among them, transfer is the most active treatment. When you are angry, you will get more and more angry with people and things you don't like. At this time, you might as well use a "36-step plan" to quickly leave the situation that makes you angry. It's best to listen to music and take a walk with friends you can talk to, and then you will calm down slowly.

(2) Rational control method: When you are angry, you'd better let your own rationality take the lead. You can give yourself a hint and say to yourself: don't be angry. It's not worth getting angry about. Being angry is stupid and won't solve any problems. You can also give yourself an order when you are about to get angry: don't get angry! Hold on for a minute! Hold on for a minute! Good job! Hold on for another three minutes! Hold on for two minutes. I started to control myself. I might as well hold on for another minute. Three minutes have passed, why not insist? So, use reason to overcome emotions.

(3) Evaluation postponement method: Anger comes from the evaluation of "* * *", which may be a look of others, a sarcasm or even a misunderstanding of others. You were "furious" at that time, but if you comment after an hour, a week or even a month, you may think it's "not worth it".

(4) Sublimation of goals: Anger is a powerful psychological energy. If used improperly, it will hurt others, sublimate them and become a powerful driving force for success. We should cultivate lofty goals in life, change the habit of calculating gains and losses in trivial matters, and consider everything from the overall situation and the long term. Only by setting up lofty ideals in life can one tolerate others ... >>

Question 6: What should I do if I am too grumpy? Usually, people with bad temper have strong self-esteem and vanity, which often makes the "master" self-centered or too self-centered and unwilling to belittle others in words. Often there will be a nameless fire before the outbreak, and then suddenly there will be a feeling of not paying much attention to the present. If you meet someone who is calm and doesn't like quarreling, maybe the other person will be humble to you. Then after a long time, there will be a depressed feeling in my heart, so that I can't always be cheerful. Note that there are two methods for reference:

1, try to make yourself cheerful, get in touch with new things and people, and then subtly divert your attention. After a long time, the depressed gas in your heart will be reduced, and it is not easy to cause heart fire. I just learn foreign languages, communicate with people more, and usually learn pronunciation loudly. I have lost all my anger and my mood is cheerful. I seldom lose my temper now. Ha ~ ~

2, analyze other factors, do you quarrel with others for material benefits, mental defense or both! ? If the former is harmless, it is absolutely necessary to avoid quarreling. Why not? The latter has no reason. No matter what he did to you, it made you suffer. After all, they are all empty. Why are you angry with your body? Even if he insults your personality, you can imagine it in another way, which can only reflect his low quality. What good is it for me to argue with such a person?

Above, I hope I can help you!

Finally, attach a motto to enlighten you: never be incited by any speech or emotion, it will be difficult to explore the essence of things.

Question 7: What should I do if I have a bad temper and a big temper? Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena in daily life. Many young people are impatient and impulsive, especially when they are unhappy or don't like themselves. Sometimes they quarrel with others and say embarrassing things, or affect the unity between comrades or family harmony. People have good temper and bad temper. A good-natured person will be welcomed wherever he goes, and others like to cooperate with him and do things. People with bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others and make others find it difficult to get along with them. Some people have made a survey and found that most young men and women take asking each other to be good-tempered as one of the conditions when choosing a spouse. According to experience, we also know that if one or two people in a family or a small unit have a bad temper, it will often make the family or the collective disunited. Therefore, getting rid of bad temper is not only to eliminate personal distress, but also to promote family harmony and collective unity. A person's good temper has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives and works. Good temper, such as meekness, peace and patience, is often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad temper, such as grumpy, stubborn, eccentric, willful, etc., is often related to being spoiled, spoiled or unable to get the warmth of the family, and parents are too strict. The smooth or bumpy road of personal life will also have a great influence on people's temper and personality. "A leopard cannot change his spots" means that people's temper and personality are stable, but it doesn't mean they are fixed. As we all know, some people have a bad temper when they are young and are as stubborn as an unruly cow; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of bad temper, his temper gradually calmed down and he was less stubborn about things. So bad temper can be changed. Of course, some will not change, because he didn't ask to change his bad temper himself, or he didn't ask to change it seriously. So, how can we get rid of bad temper? First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the harm of bad temper. In social life, we always contact and associate with others, hoping to get their goodwill, friendship, appreciation and cooperation (of course, it is impossible for everyone to do so), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lifeless and unable to move. Human behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness. Knowing the harm of bad temper, you can get rid of it from your heart. Secondly, we should strengthen ideological cultivation. Only by always thinking of others and respecting their interests and needs can we be full of warmth, consideration and love for others. Only by putting the collective interests first at all times can we not be impulsive and opinionated, and we can be calm and think twice before acting. Finally, we should have determination and perseverance to get rid of bad temper. If you can't remember it today, be careful. Two days later, we are still the same. With determination and perseverance, bad temper is bound to get rid of.

Question 8: What is the reason of bad temper? What can I do to avoid losing my temper easily? A fan can always stay calm.

Question 9: I often have a bad temper. What's wrong with being angry with people? Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena in daily life. Many young people are impatient and impulsive, especially when they are unhappy or don't like themselves. Sometimes they quarrel with others and say embarrassing things, or affect the unity between comrades or family harmony. People have good temper and bad temper. A good-natured person will be welcomed wherever he goes, and others like to cooperate with him and do things. People with bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others and make others find it difficult to get along with them. Some people have made a survey and found that most young men and women take asking each other to be good-tempered as one of the conditions when choosing a spouse. According to experience, we also know that if one or two people in a family or a small unit have a bad temper, it will often make the family or the collective disunited. Therefore, getting rid of bad temper is not only to eliminate personal distress, but also to promote family harmony and collective unity. A person's good temper has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives and works. Good temper, such as meekness, peace and patience, is often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad temper, such as grumpy, stubborn, eccentric, willful, etc., is often related to being spoiled, spoiled or unable to get the warmth of the family, and parents are too strict. The smooth or bumpy road of personal life will also have a great influence on people's temper and personality. "A leopard cannot change his spots" means that people's temper and personality are stable, but it doesn't mean they are fixed. As we all know, some people have a bad temper when they are young and are as stubborn as an unruly cow; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of bad temper, his temper gradually calmed down and he was less stubborn about things. So bad temper can be changed. Of course, some will not change, because he didn't ask to change his bad temper himself, or he didn't ask to change it seriously. So, how can we get rid of bad temper? First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the harm of bad temper. In social life, we always contact and associate with others, hoping to get their goodwill, friendship, appreciation and cooperation (of course, it is impossible for everyone to do so), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lifeless and unable to move. Human behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness. Knowing the harm of bad temper, you can get rid of it from your heart. Secondly, we should strengthen ideological cultivation. Only by always thinking of others and respecting their interests and needs can we be full of warmth, consideration and love for others. Only by putting the collective interests first at all times can we not be impulsive and opinionated, and we can be calm and think twice before acting. Finally, we should have determination and perseverance to get rid of bad temper. If you can't remember it today, be careful. Two days later, we are still the same. With determination and perseverance, bad temper is bound to get rid of.

Question 10: What should I do if my temper is easily out of control? Happiness will not wait for you all the time, and those who love you and those you love will not appear at any time. Please learn to cherish.

When a person who loves you deeply changes for you, it is because he loves you. When you meet someone, he puts away his stubborn temper for you. Because he loves you, when he turns your interest into his interest, ... or because he loves you.

There is no reason to like someone, and there is no regret to pay.

Everyone thinks it's worth it, as long as you can be with the person you love.

In fact, there are some such people around us, but (you, me and him) haven't found out that the person who knows you best will always be by your side and won't make you feel a little wronged; People who really love you may not say much about loving you, but they will do a lot of things that love you.

If you find such people around you, please cherish them.

Please remember! The star that can't be picked is always the brightest, and the small fish that slips away is always the most beautiful. Missed movies are always the best, and lost lovers always know you best.

In this world, everyone has someone they want to find. Once you miss it, you will never come back.

If you fall in love, don't give up easily. Very embarrassed, maybe you will regret it for a while; But if you give up, you may regret it for a lifetime. Life that has experienced love is beautiful, and love that cannot stand the test is not profound. Good love enriches life, and tested love is perfect. .........