What if you can't marry a bachelor with a daughter-in-law in the countryside?

It is becoming more and more difficult for rural people to marry wives now, and it is also difficult for some young people with good conditions to find a partner. There are many older young men in our rural hometown who can't find a partner. In fact, their family conditions are quite good.

I have a neighbor whose son is 25 years old and works in a restaurant. The family built a house and bought a car, but because the young man is very introverted at ordinary times, he has been unable to find a partner, and his parents are very worried.

Nowadays, most young women in rural areas not only ask each other to have money, a car and a house, but also to be beautiful. If they don't look alike at all, or are lovers, the woman will disagree. Some girls have dozens of blind dates a day, which is why they are so picky.

It is conceivable that at this rate, it will become more and more difficult for rural young men to find wives in the future.

So, for these bachelors who can't find a partner, what should they do in their future life?

First, try to change your own conditions, work hard and earn more money. If you have a lot of money, it is relatively easy to find someone. Even if you can't find a young woman who has never been married, you can just find a divorced one.

Second, for older young men who really can't find a partner, make more money and buy some insurance while they are young. In this way, you will have a sense of security and a little savings when you get old.

Third, for young men who can't find a partner in the future, they will have all the five guarantees when they are old and concentrate on providing for the elderly, so that they can have no worries.

Fourthly, it is the most fundamental thing to alleviate the ratio of male to female and change the unhealthy trend of some rural young women looking for partners.

I use a cousin (father is brother) as an example, which can be used as a reference to reflect the complementary resources.

My uncle has two sons. The eldest son is capable and married his daughter-in-law early. The youngest son is straightforward and a little paranoid, mainly because his family is poor, he can't earn money, his ability is weak, sometimes he doesn't pay attention to his discretion and his health is not very good, so he is still single in his thirties.

My parents are in a hurry. what can I do? Going out to work, working outside, a year later, I actually brought back a daughter-in-law. It turns out that this woman is also from another village in our hometown. She is married and has a child, but her husband keeps hitting her. She can't stand it. She went out to work with her fellow villagers, and her children were abandoned. She hasn't been back for two years.

My cousin met her in the factory and spent some time with her. Women took a fancy to him and thought he was honest. Although he is weak and can't make money, he is more reliable. Women who have experienced domestic violence value money less, family less and men's character more, so they follow my cousin.

They got back and immediately got married. My cousin finally solved the problem of being single before he was 40 years old. This woman is four or five years younger than him. Now, ten years later, they all have their own children, all seven or eight years old. The young couple are very affectionate.

Our village is located in the mountainous area, and my cousin's family is poor. Coupled with his defects and abilities, if he hadn't gone out to work, lowered his profile and got a second marriage, he would have had children (and his husband) long ago. It is estimated that he will really be single all his life.

My other uncle (his father and my grandfather are brothers) has been single all his life, thinking that he will never find a wife. The year before last, he got married at the age of 55. It turned out that in another village, a woman in her fifties lost her husband, so it was difficult for her to get married again. Besides, the family business is very big, and the two sons are in their twenties and thirties, and they don't come back outside. Therefore, the woman hopes to find a suitable man. Finally, after being introduced by others, my uncle came to the door, and our family sent him to the door, which finally solved his single problem.

Using my cousin's example, I want to say that if you are really single and have no hope of finding a woman, then you really have to put a low profile and find a second married woman, either marry back or marry yourself.

There are many reasons why rural men are single. There are more than a dozen in our village and seven or eight in our stockade. The main reason is that the village is too remote and the traffic is inconvenient. For example, our village is 0/5 kilometers away from the township/kloc-and it takes an hour and a half to drive, so we need to climb several mountains, 50 kilometers away from the county seat and it takes 2.5 hours to drive. Girls outside are unwilling to marry, so a large number of local girls are unwilling to marry in the village.

What's more, older men in rural areas have no skills, and the main reason for making money is that they don't have skills. Therefore, the local needs to vigorously cultivate the skills of bachelors and learn to decorate and weld. Learning fast and earning money requires all kinds of training.

The last one is to organize more villagers to go out to work instead of staying in the village for them to study. Many bachelors, all honest people, don't go out and don't know a few people, which leads to finding a wife.

In addition, to put it bluntly, the family is poor, and we should vigorously develop local characteristic agriculture, such as sightseeing agriculture, characteristic fruit industry and aquaculture. Increase the income of local farmers. With money, local tourism is convenient, the village becomes beautiful, and naturally there are girls willing to marry.

What if you can't marry a bachelor with a daughter-in-law in the countryside? The author believes that there are two major problems in rural areas now, one is the problem of providing for the aged by old farmers, and the other is the problem of rural bachelors. Although the elderly farmers have a certain amount of pensions, it has been reported in the news recently that pensions in some areas have been unable to make ends meet, and subsequent pension payment will also be a problem. It may even be that even the hundred yuan over the age of 60 is gone, and it can only be received after the age of 70.

Now the problem of rural bachelors is being solved. The first is to increase farmers' income. The main reason why many rural bachelors can't find a daughter-in-law is the word "poor", because there is no money to give a bride price or buy a house or car. Nowadays, women are more realistic. The first sentence that popped up during the blind date was "Do you have a car?" Do you have a room? How much money do you have? Therefore, the most effective way to solve the problem of rural bachelors is to increase their income.

But this is not an easy thing. Anyone who knows the countryside knows that these old bachelors in the countryside now have a reason. Most of them are lazy when they are young and don't work hard to make money. They loaf about every day. When they are poor to a certain extent, they have a minimum living standard and a basic living guarantee, and they are even more unscrupulous. They don't do anything, not even plant basic land. For this kind of bachelor, no matter how many ways farmers increase their income, it is not easy to use. Whether they should be poor or poor, even village cadres can't help it.

Another way is to cancel family planning and encourage the birth of a second child, because another reason for the large number of rural bachelors is the imbalance between men and women. There will always be men who can't find a wife to marry. Therefore, the government has liberalized the second child policy and actively encouraged farmers to have a second child. Only when the proportion of men and women is rebalanced can the problem of rural bachelors be solved to some extent.

But these are only at the national level. Whether you can find a wife or not depends on yourself. Although women are very realistic, you have no money at the moment, but you are positive, study hard and earn money to support your family. I believe you will still find a wife. It's just that I always take it one day at a time. I haven't eaten this meal myself. What woman dares to marry such a man?

The rural "bachelor" is a long-standing problem. There are several bachelors in every village. Some men are also diligent and enterprising, but they just can't get a wife. This phenomenon is very common.

It doesn't matter if you are single, as long as you work hard, you can easily carry it in cold weather and hot weather, and your daughter-in-law can enter the door. Singles should not give up on themselves, but live and work hard with a positive attitude.

Li Ermao of our village, because of his short stature, naturally became a bachelor. In fact, he is also engaged, and the object is not tall, similar to her, from a neighboring village. I didn't cherish the twenty cents, so I hooked up with a girl from his family and went to the hospital to have a baby with that girl. There is no windtight wall. After knowing this, Ermao flatly divorced Ermao.

I have also seen Ermao and the girls in this family spend a lot of time together, but I think they are brother and sister, and it is normal to spend a lot of time together. Can't think wrong. However, when the "abortion" incident came out, the whole village was in an uproar. I really don't understand what they are thinking. After that, no girl wanted to marry him. Year after year, 38-year-old Brother Ermao rode his motorcycle to work in the county seat. On the way, he ran into a carriage pulling corn stalks and was unconscious on the spot. When his family came to take him to the hospital, after several days of rescue, he still failed to save his life and died after being rescued. Leaving two young sons and a wife in her forties.

Half a year later, Ermao married his sister-in-law. Sister-in-law thinks that at is the children's uncle and will really love them. Yang Liang also took his two nephews as his own and became his wife's sister-in-law. The mistakes you made when you were young don't represent the present. Ermao and his sister-in-law and nephew have formed a family, and they are also very happy, which also makes eldest brother feel at ease in heaven.

Rural bachelors have many opportunities to get married twice. If they work hard, they will be attracted by second-married women and rebuild their new homes. Those bachelors who never get married again. Don't lose heart, work hard to make money and let yourself rely on when you are old. Don't wait until you're old and there's nothing left.

It is true that it is difficult for rural men to get a wife. But not all rural areas, there are few rural areas in developed areas, and girls are vying to marry. It is the rural areas in poor areas that really can't get married.

Rural men who are single all their lives, even in rural areas in poor areas, are an individual phenomenon. In a village of several hundred people, there are no more than ten bachelors over 40 who have never married a wife.

Some of these bachelors are severely disabled or mentally retarded, some are lazy and idle, and no woman wants to marry him.

Rural bachelors are under 40 years old, most of whom are between 20 and 35 years old. Most of them are unable to buy houses in towns or build houses in rural areas because their families are temporarily poor.

Most people who can't get married are poor, but this should be temporary. As long as they are willing to work hard and find ways to change their poverty, most people who get rich through hard work can still get married.

Even if you still can't get a wife after 40, you can still earn your own living before 60. If you are disabled and have disability allowance, you can also become a low-income household. After the age of 60, you will become a five-guarantee household, and the state will provide full support.

Thank you for your attention and look forward to your comments!

It's sad to see this problem. My uncle's three sons are all in their thirties, and none of them is married. Their unanimous reason for not getting married is that there is no decent house at home.

My three cousins live in the countryside and went to work after graduating from junior high school. The youngest of the three brothers is 32 and the oldest is 37. So far, they are not married. How old are their cousins and children? It's really pathetic to think about it.

My uncle is worried about their marriage. I can't find a wife in the countryside, and I can't find a job in Guangdong. It's no use urging them all day. I wonder how many matchmakers have been invited to introduce the three of them to each other. Maybe rural girls will only marry if they have a house in the county. There is no way. My uncle can only try to buy a house in the county to see who can get a wife first.

There are many houses in the county, but the down payment is a problem. Three people have worked for so many years, and even the down payment of 200 thousand is not enough. My uncle and the old couple took out all their savings and borrowed 50 thousand from their married daughter A few talents raised 200,000 yuan, but the three brothers couldn't even raise 200,000 yuan after working for more than ten years. This is also sad. It's all the fault of gambling.

I found that the poorer the countryside, the more backward it is, but gambling is very popular, so the poorer it is, the more backward it is. The point is that they don't realize it. It's really sad There are many reasons why rural bachelors can't get married.

It will take another two years to hand over the house after the family has collected enough down payment. At such a big age, I am also infected with gambling. It is estimated that they are single all their lives and have so many children. In the end, they are not worried. What a poor uncle.

Three unmarried rural brothers, two went to Guangdong to work and one worked as a coolie at home. Rural people can't get married, mostly because of their own reasons, but if they work hard, they won't be as single as they are now.

After 60, there are several five-guarantee households in our village. The township government gives 600 to 700 yuan a month for living expenses, which is better than those with wives and sons. More than 60 old bachelors in rural areas play cards every day, and many of them with children in their 60s are still working on the construction site. Last time I went home, people told my dad, can your son give you 600 yuan a month for living expenses? To tell the truth, I haven't given my dad money for a month.

Last May, when I bought a house, I took 50,000 yuan from my father. My wife asked me to return my father's 50 thousand yuan during the Chinese New Year. I think I'd better not give it back to him.