How to comfort girlfriend's depression?

The first is trust. The first time I heard that she was ill, I didn't believe it. That time I went to see her from far away. We broke up after meeting, and the next day I looked up a lot of information before I realized this mistake. This problem is very serious, very serious. The next day, I sincerely apologized to her. There should be nothing to apologize for our relationship, but I feel I must apologize from the bottom of my heart. I shouldn't have the same opinion as others, which not only betrayed her trust (she won't tell everyone about it, so many people don't know it yet, and there is nothing wrong with her appearance), but also was not my intention. My reaction was poor and sudden, so I chose to apologize and got her forgiveness. Next, I looked up many treatments on the Internet. It's a pity that psychotherapy in China is still very poor (maybe I'm ignorant, but it's not high abroad, which should be a world problem), at least online evaluation is like this. More useful drug treatment, the side effects are relatively large, and it is very painful to eat, and it is very painful to stop taking medicine, which may make the disease relapse. However, I found a good way. There are many great gods on the Internet. I introduced the methods of exercise therapy to transfer negative emotions, make the body happy and drive the mood happy. The process is very difficult, very difficult, sometimes she doesn't want to move, I can understand, so I exercise myself, all kinds of exercises, share with her, and tell her the feelings and thoughts of exercising bit by bit. She exercised my timely encouragement, and when she was unhappy, I didn't try to make her happy and stay with her. Companionship, this is very important, can be said to be a very important part. There were a lot of bad things to do before, and sometimes I didn't accompany them well. Time and space, or saying the wrong thing, but I never doubted anything she said. I chose to believe it completely. I'm sure she needed trust more at that time. Even if it sounds hard to understand, I can fully understand it (this is definitely not a lie, I have already figured it out, if you don't believe that something you don't like will happen, someone will like it). The process of companionship is very long, and we are not in the same city. Every time I see the movement of my mobile phone, I will stop what I am doing and immediately respond seriously. If I can't accompany her, I will definitely tell her (I sometimes neglect, but rarely). In fact, companionship is not to put in a good word for her, nor to make her happy, but if you want to accompany her, let her know that you always care about her and are always by her side. If she wants to talk, you must answer seriously and don't perfunctory. If she doesn't want to talk about it, you should also know that you haven't given up on her and are still waiting for her information, where you have been and what you have done. Sometimes we are silent together, sometimes we talk about ideals, life, literature and sports together. Even during the lunch break, we sang Jay Chou's Simple Love. She has many depressed periods, she will think of suicide, she will hurt herself, and she said sorry to me when she hurt herself for the first time. I cried with my mobile phone in a far place (writing here, tears came down again, and there are more behind). That sense of powerlessness is more desperate than physical pain. I can understand this, so I can understand her feelings, which may be different, but I have been trying to understand. Later, I cried twice. Once, when we met later, she showed me the scar on her arm. At that time, I immediately lost my temper. More than one, and then she stopped telling me. I'm thinking that it's really more painful for her to treat herself like this on so many nights than for me. I'm afraid, afraid, afraid that she will go so far. I begged her not to do this (I'm from Dont Ask For Help, and I'm Dont Ask For Help in my life, so I can't say beg), but I begged her, but she didn't promise me. At that time, she understood that I was very important and it was hard for me to do that, but I still couldn't help myself, because she was more uncomfortable than me. She clearly knew that this would not solve the problem, but she had to divert her attention like this. When I wrote these words, I hesitated to say them, for fear of negative influence. But I also want to tell you the true story, hoping it will be useful to more people. Once she told me when she was in a good mood that she would never hurt herself again. I was in tears, too. I should say I cried with joy. I never asked her if she was all right, not once. I'm waiting for her to tell me. In the process of waiting, I have been studying, learning how to get along with her (it should be her at that time), learning how to exercise together and share happiness and sadness together. Speaking of which, don't be afraid to share your sadness with her. Be sure to tell her when you are sad. On the contrary, it is very useful. She will take the initiative to comfort you (smile). Everyone will be sad sometimes, so you can show her not only the positive side, but also the negative emotions. Let her know that she is very important and useful to you. Sometimes she knows that I am sad when she is in a bad mood, and comforting me can relieve or transfer her negative emotions to a great extent. Of course, I'm not pretending to be sad to lie to her. It's totally unnecessary. Everyone is sad sometimes, and there is no need to pretend to be strong. Just tell her the truth. Last September, she told me that I was ill. In May of this year, she told me that I was fine and didn't take any medicine. The journey was difficult, but it was not in vain. In the most difficult time, we all know that one day when we look back on this paragraph, we will be filled with emotion. Now, our life has become more positive and should be better than before, and we have developed many good habits, personal cultivation and career progress. There is a very important point here. She has been trying to go out, so she will take my advice, go running, read books and try something. Don't be afraid if you are ill. You are not alone. Ask for help and accept. Maybe the person who helped you is unprofessional. Sometimes he (she) can't speak well or do well. As long as he or she is sincere, try to accept it. It was under her influence that I came into contact with it. She doesn't use much now, but she should still see it. I didn't ask her for advice beforehand. She didn't agree, so I deleted it. It's the first time to write so many things here. I don't ask for praise. I write so much in the hope that these things will be useful to some people. If you want to accompany her or are accompanying her, trust, exercise and complete understanding are essential. Don't be blind and confident, read more materials. After reading many posts from patients, it is still very useful. I sincerely hope everyone is well, the dark clouds are not very thick, and there will be a rainbow when they disperse! Love You!