The power of words! My son is so heartwarming and comforting: I love you no matter what!

Author＼Snow Coffee

When I was taking a parenting class, there was a paragraph that said that if we want to deny, we should focus on the "behavior" of the child, not the "person" .

We must avoid personal attacks and words that directly deny "this person", such as "You are a bad boy!", "You are an idiot!" or threatening "You are not good, Mom" I don’t love you anymore!” This will make the child feel insecure, deny himself, and feel that he is really a bad kid or a fool. In this case, there is no need to work hard. I am a bad kid anyway. (On the contrary, praise can be more targeted. Personally)

So sometimes when I have to correct or punish Panda, I try to tell him,

"Your behavior is not good. Mommy has already said it. Right? So there must be punishment. " "But Mommy still loves you very much. You are still my sweetheart, but we will work together to change the bad behavior."

Usually when a child is accused, he will look aggrieved, and then I will give him a hug. Use actions to tell him, don't be afraid. Mommy will not abandon you just because you have done something wrong. What is wrong is that "behavior", not your "whole person".

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~~The end of the long preface, haha~~

Snow Coffee made a stupid mistake a few days ago, which cost my husband about 2,000 yuan more. Of course his boss was not very happy (because it was really stupid and it was my fault, I’m sorry~)

I secretly said to my son: "Can you be nicer to Dad later? Mommy accidentally made Dad angry. Dad likes you the most, so can you help me with this?" < /p>

As a result, my son looked at me feeling guilty, aggrieved, and pitiful. He actually came over and took my arm, rubbed it twice, and comforted me and said, "It's okay, Mommy, it doesn't matter what you do." No matter what, I still like you the same!"

I was really hit by a "boom" at that moment, just like you falling from a tall building, falling helplessly, and suddenly someone spread your wings gently. The earth catches you and supports you.

When the roles were reversed and we were treated in this way, I realized how important such words are. We are family members. Even if we occasionally make unintentional mistakes, we still love each other and support each other.

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If today, when I am already feeling guilty, my son would say: " Mommy, I don’t love you anymore!” How sad I should be!

I am silently glad that I have not treated him like this before, and I am also silently pleased that no matter how we teach our children, they will become that kind of person, and then treat others in the same way.

Then it was very uncomfortable for Dad to be around. Before the victim even expressed his opinion, his son rushed to help him and said "It doesn't matter"; he was obviously the one who spent the extra money, and then you mother and son were letting it go What a flash! !

I even joked that I would be even more angry after seeing it!

Reprinted with permission from Snow Coffee. Original source: Panda Daily: I love you no matter what!