I am a 28-year-old boy. I am very enterprising. What should I do if I can't stand my wife fooling around?

From your description, you can feel the responsibility to the family as the head of the family, which makes you feel a sense of anxiety and uneasiness unintentionally. I hope both children can live a happy life in the future. But you have never tried to tell your wife what you really think, especially seeing your wife's behavior may be a bit reckless, and you have a strong anger and grievance because you have not been seen, understood and supported.

But you don't have the courage to try to express your true feelings directly to your wife. You choose to suppress and hide what you are worried about, such as being denied and rejected. What does this mean to you? Does it mean that you are not good enough and a good husband?

In fact, in many cases, the speech acts of the outside world make us feel uncomfortable and hurt, not because of what others have done or said, but more because of the way we interpret other people's speech acts, which makes us have different emotional experiences. When you define your wife's behavior as "doing nothing", it obviously reflects your inner disgust and disgust.

Especially when you are not well aware of your hidden emotional feelings, you may express them through your own words and actions, and your wife will certainly feel them. This is that she may instinctively defend herself to express her incomprehensible and unacceptable aggression, that is, she may be more madly immersed in her own behavior, don't you think?

Therefore, in the face of your wife's behavior, the best thing you can do is to tell your true feelings at that moment bravely and sincerely, and don't make any judgment on his behavior. It means to express your true feelings and expectations for your future life, so that she can feel respect and understanding. Your future life plan needs your joint efforts. At this time, she will try her best to give you understanding, acceptance and support.