Rural blind date has been commercialized, and the matchmaker has become a professional intermediary.

On the second day of every year, my family goes to my grandmother's house, which is an annual family gathering. Every year, my father takes one more thing to grandma's village to see another family. This man introduced my father to my mother, which is my parents' matchmaker.

This trip lasted for 30 years, and we are already relatives. Dad had a car accident last year. The matchmaker listened to my uncle's words and came to see my father specially.

I used to hear people around me say that I was going to see the matchmaker, so I want to know what the blind date market is like in the countryside now. As it happens, two cousins are looking for someone on a blind date, and I have heard a lot of interesting things.

Now, the matchmaker has become a profession, even if it is introduced by relatives, how much it costs. The matchmaker took his cousin on a blind date and met a little girl. Don't worry. Give it to her, 20 yuan.

After seeing the girl, the matchmaker will take the initiative to say, "Little friend, give me some phone bills." In this way, in the 1 month of the Chinese New Year, a matchmaker will meet seven or eight girls at least one day, and his income will be close to that of 200 yuan, so there will be almost 5,000 yuan a month.

If two people are engaged successfully and give gifts, they will get a commission of 10%. At present, the gifts are 66,000 and 88,000, so the commission is 6600,8800. If you divorce and remarry, this is a big media, and the money for matchmaking is less than 1 10,000.

There are many bachelors who can't find a wife in the countryside now. If the children are not good-looking, the family conditions are not good, and there is basically no wife.

A distant relative of my family is particularly optimistic about this market, which is to find a divorced girl for such a single man. In order to get a wife, the man will basically agree to the conditions.

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, she introduced four pairs of success and earned 40,000 yuan. During the Chinese New Year, she successfully introduced the 10 pair and earned 654.38+million. Her income this year is more than the young and middle-aged coolies in our hometown.

In addition to taking money, after the engagement, the man will entertain the matchmaker in his own home and send some candy, wine, meat and so on. In any case, we should treat them well.

I don't know what kind of person can do such a thing as matchmaker.

I took the opportunity to meet several matchmakers, who were dressed in fashion, carrying bags and perming their hair. They are talkative and have no stage fright at all.

When I heard them calling me, I was extremely happy: "Elder sister, this child is very good-looking, 1.85 meters tall, and his family is very rich. He just bought a car. " My parents are very young and capable. "

This is aimed at the parents of the woman and the parents of the man. "This girl is very handsome, very white, and has no pockmarked face, one meter six or five."

In fact, the boy with 175cm is said to be 18 1cm. In order to marry a wife, he had to buy a car. Now who rides an electric car on a date and doesn't drive, the matchmaker won't let him. Girl, wearing high heels 160cm, her face is really clean. Her face and neck are not the same color because of too much powder.

There are many such jokes. In the eyes of the matchmaker, the advantages of the other party will be infinitely exaggerated. The man is handsome and the woman is beautiful. A person with ordinary conditions will be praised as a flower. So that after meeting a real person, I have some doubts about life.

This is just the description of the matchmaker before meeting. After meeting, there will be more wonderful things waiting for you.

If a girl is really good-looking, she is not satisfied with knowing many boys. At this time, the matchmaker will find a boy with particularly good conditions, who is handsome, has a good family condition and is especially good at talking. Then, the matchmaker takes the boy to the woman's house, and the woman usually agrees, but the man may not necessarily agree.

At this time, the matchmaker began to talk about girls. "Don't you think you have good conditions? The somebody else also despises you ... "

If a boy is unhappy when he sees an ugly girl, the matchmaker will say, "It's almost enough for you to choose like this. How difficult it is to get a wife now. In a few years, you won't find it ... "

Before meeting, let the two sides meet by praising each other; After meeting, it will hit both sides and let the other side lower their standards. Basically, in this process, most people will compromise and lower their standards.

The matchmaker has a high level, and basically his emotional intelligence and eloquence are the best in the village.

And the matchmakers in each village have formed a circle.

Each village has 1-2 matchmakers. These matchmakers have their own circles and often call and say, "I have a girl here, do you have a boy there?"

Our home is in the north of the county, and Mr. Liu's hometown is in the southwest of the county, about 40 kilometers. The matchmakers in the village all know each other.

Now, they cooperate with each other to promote a media together, and the commission is half and half. I was very surprised when I heard the news. This kind of resource integration is great.

Each of them will list the single men and women in the village, and the conditions of each family are very clear, such as how much money they have at home, what their parents do and how many brothers and sisters they have. .......

They will also adopt different strategies according to different people. For example, if there are two boys at home, the matchmaker will definitely encourage the girls to meet more, so that her commission will be higher.

I really doubt that they have studied marketing and psychology, and they are really folk experts!

After the engagement, both men and women will agree (matchmaker)

Our neighbor's girl found a partner, two sisters and a boy, and basically all the property in the family belongs to the boy.

The boy said to the woman, "I will give you less as a gift." I will supply you when I get married. " Save thousands of bride price and buy you some clothes. "

The woman must agree. The matchmaker went with the money, and he was very happy, because the meeting gift was 88,000 at the beginning, but only 36,000 at that time, so the commission was only 3,600, and the two were divided equally.

When the matchmaker saw this scene, he immediately called the man's parents: "Why are there so few? What about the woman?"

The families of both sides have confirmed their rhetoric: "Xiao Jing (girl's name) thinks that we are just boys, and we don't want that much and don't make a decision."

At this moment, the girl came out and said that she was serious. The matchmaker has no choice but to get 3600 yuan. It's a one-time deal anyway. There is basically no contact after marriage.

This situation is inevitable, but on the whole, it is not many. Because the matchmaker will also encourage the woman's parents, "You don't want money to get married now. What should I do if I don't give my daughter after marriage? "

In addition, the media that is easy to say, the matchmaker receives less money. For example, as I mentioned just now, there is a boy with two sisters at home, both of whom are in good conditions, and the woman usually gives the opportunity to meet.

If we hear that there are three boys in the family who go on blind dates and don't give the girls a chance to meet, the matchmaker will spend more time and energy on the woman's work, and the cost will be much higher.

In recent years, the decrease of rural girls has led to a sharp increase in the number of single boys. There is an imbalance between supply and demand in this market, and there is a tradition of "having three sons without filial piety and no great future" in rural areas. Parents are very persistent about this matter, so the profession of matchmaker is becoming more and more professional.

The market is a magical thing, it has its own adjustment ability, and we can't intervene. As a member of the market, only through our own efforts can we become a popular member of the market. Or overtaking in a corner, there is no traditional blind date, just like parents now, encouraging their sons from junior high school: "The grades can be bad, but you must find a girlfriend."

How is your family's blind date market? Do I want to be a matchmaker?