How to improve emotional intelligence?

At present, emotional intelligence is widely mentioned, especially in the workplace. It has been considered to be something that managers, ordinary employees and other people at all levels must possess. Some even say that work ability is one aspect. Emotional intelligence plays a decisive role in promotion and salary increase.

We have been talking about emotional intelligence, but what exactly does emotional intelligence mean? Many people can’t explain it at all!

In fact, emotional intelligence was proposed by psychologists in recent years, and it is a concept corresponding to human IQ. It refers to the qualities shown by people in terms of emotions, will, tolerance of frustration, etc. It includes two major aspects, on the one hand, one's own cognition and regulation; on the other hand, the empathy and social interaction shown by others. Skill. Generally speaking, EQ is different from IQ. There is no obvious innate difference in EQ between people, and it has more to do with acquired cultivation.

The level of emotional intelligence is mainly determined by the acquired environment and nurture, which provides us with more possibilities to improve our emotional intelligence.

1. Control your emotions and try to understand others

I once heard a saying: high emotional intelligence means speaking well. Many people write their emotions on their faces and talk about it on their lips. When they encounter any problem, they will be in a hurry. What they say is like a punch, hurting others and not benefiting themselves, and the gain is not worth the loss. This is a sign of low emotional intelligence. It is recommended that this kind of people, when they meet someone they don't like, they can put themselves in someone else's shoes and ask themselves, what would I do if I were him?

For example, when you are eating in a restaurant and the food is served slowly and you can’t bear it anymore, can you put yourself in someone else’s shoes and think about it? It’s the peak period of dining. Whether it’s the boss or the chef, it must be... They work overtime to prepare the dishes. Because the dishes are served early, customers eat early and clear tables early, they can receive more people and make more money. Who can live with money! So if you lose your temper, you must not eat in advance.

2. Strengthen your will and persist in doing one thing

In my opinion, habitually giving up halfway in doing anything, fishing for three days and drying the net for two days, is a sign of low emotional intelligence. They do not have strong willpower. When they encounter a little resistance or difficulty in doing anything, the first thing they think of is retreat and avoidance. This is a stumbling block on the road to success, and it is also the fault of many people with low emotional intelligence. Common problem.

A former classmate kept saying that he liked music, so he told his parents to learn guitar. After learning for a while, he felt that guitar was too difficult, and he planned to learn electronic keyboard, but the result was the same. There is no electronic keyboard yet. Learn to understand. Her parents sent her to vocal music lessons, but she felt bored. Think about it, for her with low emotional intelligence, if she can make up her mind and be cruel to herself, maybe now she can hold the guitar and express her passion.

3. Face setbacks proactively and look forward optimistically

The easiest time to show a person's emotional intelligence to everyone is when he suffers setbacks and is faced with a blow. . For example, when he is criticized by his boss at work, many people with high emotional intelligence will think about what the leader said. If they think the leader's criticism is reasonable, not only will they not be angry or frustrated, but they will be grateful to the leader and correct themselves in time. problem. On the contrary, people with low emotional intelligence must reject criticism from their leaders from the bottom of their hearts and take action. They may work with bad emotions or directly confront their leaders head-on. The results can be imagined.

So when you face some blows, you should discuss the matter as it is, not the person, think about the problem rationally, be grateful for other people's opinions and suggestions, and be optimistic about other people's criticism, and your life will be wonderful!

Improvement of emotional intelligence is easier said than done. It requires constant practice and repeated practice. I believe that we will all have high emotional intelligence and be able to do it with ease in life and work, like a fish in water!