My mother-in-law bought a wedding room with 20 thousand and asked for a name. My daughter-in-law was amused, and you were added to the marriage certificate?

Human feelings are repeated, and the world is rugged. If you can't go anywhere, take a step back; If you can go where you want to go, you must give one-third of your trust. -"Caigen Tan"

The genius of getting along with others, which can not only maintain style and character, but also be criticized, lies in knowing the world without being secular. What do you mean? Is to be tactful and sincere. It's good for people and themselves to leave three points room for others in everything.

About the bride price of the wedding, the wedding room and so on, I said it over and over again. Whether a man or a woman is in charge, everyone wants to know the reason. The reason is that this kind of thing really reflects everyone's attitude towards interests, and people want to find their own * * * from other people's examples.

What I want to talk about today is the attitude of both men and women towards the wedding room. The topic of marriage room has been talked a lot, so everyone can express their opinions and have their own opinions. A netizen once told me with regret that she had a house bought by her parents before she got married, and her husband lived in her free house without spending a penny. She doesn't think this is to make men eat soft rice. However, after two years of marriage, her mood has completely changed.

My parents-in-law and two brothers-in-law have all moved into her 160 square meter house, and they can't get rid of it. Her husband also said that as long as his family left, he would divorce immediately. Her marriage is full of chickens and dogs. She not only quarrels with her parents-in-law, but also has many minor conflicts with her two brothers-in-law. The family not only involves money, but also many things that parents-in-law have a bowl of water.

Finally, female netizens concluded that men must have a house when they get married, or they should not marry their wives. Their whole family moved into my house without gratitude, but they held their heads high every day, as if I owed them in my last life.

So, does the man have to buy a house before marriage to be happy? Not exactly. There are also various ways, the man pays half of the money to buy a house, or the woman leaves the house and the man buys home appliances and furniture. In the end, the result of marriage is mixed. What kind of marriage life you can live depends not on the house, but on your ability to control the marriage.

The house is dead and people are alive. Not all women have to rely on men to be happy in marriage. Besides, no pains, no gains. Only when two people work together can marriage move in the right direction. A wedding room is a love nest built by two people. If this place that breeds love is regarded as the object of interest calculation from the beginning, then marriage has deviated from the direction from the beginning.

Wang Lifen, 28, really thinks she can handle it. Her mother-in-law depends on her as a widowed mother. Not only did I not give my in-laws a bride price before marriage, but I also saved the three gold necessary for being a wife. When she got married, she gave her new wife, 660 yuan, a change fee, and her mother-in-law and father-in-law each gave the groom a change fee of 2,000 yuan, which was originally agreed. As a result, my mother-in-law changed her mind temporarily, and no one could say anything.

After marriage, the demand for buying a house is imminent.

After marriage, they have been living in the old father-in-law's house, but their new husband Wan Bowen will not be able to stand it if he stays for a long time. Wan Bowen was spoiled by her mother-in-law since childhood. Although Wang Lifen had told his parents in advance to treat their newlywed husband Xiaowan well, Wanbowen proposed to buy a wedding room after living for two months.

When they met for the first time, the girl knew that Xiaowan's income level could not afford to buy a house in the city, and it was even more difficult for him with a monthly salary of only 10 thousand. Don't expect anything from my mother-in-law Although there is only one child, Wan Bowen put his words before he got married: you can afford it, but you can't afford to find your own way.

Reality is before us. They can't afford a house and want to get married. My mother-in-law's house is less than 50 square meters. It's too crowded for three people, and I have to stay at my mother-in-law's house. Wang Lifen persuaded to wait for the wedding room, but her husband Xiaowan didn't want to wait any longer. He clamored to buy a house, saying that he could discuss with his mother to borrow some money first.

The girl knows that according to her mother-in-law's poor character, asking for money is asking for trouble. However, her husband Xiaowan confidently borrowed money from his mother.

As expected, her husband's help was rejected by her mother-in-law.

Xiaowan intends to buy a second-hand house with the smallest apartment. It doesn't matter if it is long, and it doesn't matter if it is remote. He listened to his wife very well before he got married. He doesn't have to do housework and worry about anything when he lives in his mother-in-law's house. He didn't know how hard it was to rely on others until he got married. There is nothing better than having a nest of his own.

Unfortunately, Wan Bowen went in a hurry and came back with a red face. He came back and said to Wang Lifen, "My mother said that the wedding room is a big deal, and she really can't help us. The money left by my father must be left to her for retirement. "

In fact, Wang Lifen is waiting for her husband and mother-in-law to hit a wall, because according to her mother-in-law's stingy style, she will definitely not agree to give them some money to buy a house. It's not that she doesn't trust her son, but her daughter-in-law. She is still waiting for her husband to tell him that the money for buying a house has been settled.

The woman's parents made a down payment, and the husband was ashamed and grateful.

The girl's parents can't bear to see her daughter embarrassed, and have prepared a down payment for them to buy a wedding room. They got married in such a hurry that they didn't even have a place to live. They have complained a lot about their mother-in-law, but they can't stop their daughter from being loyal to her son-in-law. Now that we have become a family, we don't want to care. They just want their daughter not to be wronged again.

There is no house before marriage, which is what Wang Lifen meant. She doesn't want her parents to tell her plans in advance. First, she doesn't want Wan Bowen to get all this too easily. Second, she is selfish and reluctant to leave her parents. But after marriage, she also saw her husband's humble life under his father-in-law's eyes, understood his difficulties, and gradually moved the idea of buying a house. It is said that her daughter is extroverted, and she is no exception.

Wan Bowen was naturally grateful and ashamed when he learned about his father-in-law's plans. Although all this is for nothing, it is too easy, but it also shows that the wife and her parents value this marriage, and he should be better to his wife. He is very aware of his father-in-law's good intentions.

However, my mother-in-law was unhappy when she learned about it. Originally penniless, she jumped out and put forward her own different opinions when her son and daughter-in-law were ready to buy a house happily.

My mother-in-law stepped in and asked to participate in buying a house.

My mother-in-law thinks that how can my in-laws stand by and watch when they buy a wedding room for their son and daughter-in-law? She said that she would also pay a share of the money, 20 thousand yuan, and she had the right to participate in the stock market. But on one condition, you must add her name to the house.

What my mother-in-law said is so grandiose, in fact, it is nothing more than taking advantage. The woman's parents mean to help them buy a wedding room, but the house should be written with her daughter's name, with a down payment of 300 thousand, and the couple will try to repay the mortgage together.

Wan Bowen agrees with this method. As a man, he has been ashamed to stay at his father-in-law's house because he can't afford a house. It is reasonable for them to consider giving money to buy a house for their daughter. Even if the wedding room doesn't write its own name, it's nothing. It's a pity that this sensible son has a mother who is good at calculation.

My mother-in-law is very cunning. She knows that this house doesn't have her son's name, so there is a possibility that her son won't get a penny from the house in the future. So she offered only 20 thousand, plus her name, to win some benefits for her son. But what she doesn't know is that Wan Bowen has made all the promises in front of her parents-in-law.

Daughter-in-law was amused and added you to the marriage certificate?

For this request, the daughter-in-law naturally refused. She was even amused by her mother-in-law's words and replied: Your name is added to the real estate license, so shall we add your name to our marriage certificate? There is nothing so cheap in this world.

In fact, the girl's banter is also thought-provoking. I don't mean to argue everything clearly. In fact, my mother-in-law has 200,000 to 300,000 private money, but she doesn't want to take it out, just to take advantage of her in-laws and see if they will take care of her only daughter. This calculation of other people's ideas, others are also discerning, just don't want to dispute with her.

When the girl's parents are willing to take out their own pension money to buy a house, her mother-in-law will intervene again. Obviously, she wants to take advantage. What can she do with 20 thousand yuan? Because of her words, Wan Bowen is ashamed of his mother.

But isn't there a popular saying? As long as you are not embarrassed yourself, others will be embarrassed. Seeing that the name could not be added, the mother-in-law turned and begged to live with her son when the house was decorated. What she didn't expect was that her son refused even this request without waiting for her daughter-in-law to express her opinion.

Step back and add three points.

Wan Bowen is a little angry with his mother. He was adamant when he refused to borrow money. My father-in-law promised to pay for a house, so he wanted to take advantage. Isn't this a joke about his wife and father-in-law? He already knew his mother's occupation and flatly refused to let her live in and have another affair with his wife.

The most generous person in this matter belongs to his wife Wang Lifen. Concession and tolerance can not be simply attributed to her love for her husband, but more shows that she is a very sensible girl. As explained earlier, when she got married, her mother-in-law even paid less than her in-laws, indicating that she was a very calculating person, but as a daughter-in-law, the girl didn't care too much.

Buying a wedding room, in the final analysis, is to live your own small life. If you are too obsessed with "I am a girl, and the man has to pay for marriage, why do my parents have to pay for a house?" Her marriage with her husband will definitely be bad, and even hurt her feelings because of this.

How to live after marriage depends on your own control. After all, if you marry a person, you have to put up with his family. Things that you can't even think about, such as the wedding room, will inevitably involve the opinions of your family. How to deal with it depends on one's wisdom and determination.

Step back and add three points. Both husband and wife have an open mind, which will make the marriage stronger. Perhaps, people who know how to comfort each other know the true meaning of marriage.