At the wedding scene, the bride refused her mother-in-law to "establish family rules" and was reprimanded by her husband. What should the bride do?

In recent years, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, and one of the reasons that cannot be ignored is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Although it can't be said to be the root cause of marriage breakdown, it is also the fuse.

This is a profound experience for women. Whether married or unmarried, they are always afraid of their mother-in-law, afraid of meeting their incompatible mother-in-law, but the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems inevitable. After all, they are two unrelated women, and there are still misunderstandings and contradictions between mother and daughter, let alone between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The difference between the two is that there is a blood relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there is only one same man between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so when there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the man's attitude is very important!

But in real life, many men stay out of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and feel that it has nothing to do with themselves, or even distinguish between right and wrong. It is difficult for a woman to be happy when she marries such a family, but it is easy for a woman in love to ignore the family background of the man before marriage. She always thinks that marriage is a matter for two people, as long as men are good to themselves.

However, the influence of family background on a person is indelible. Even though he has been out of that environment for a long time, as long as he is in it, he can't help but be affected unless he can face it correctly instead of running away.

In choosing a partner, women are used to perceptual knowledge. As long as this man can meet her immediate emotional needs, she will be deeply involved. If nothing else, the consequences of women blindly trusting men are often regrettable.

Although a good marriage needs mutual complementarity and running-in, if a man is unable to cope with the test of life and solve problems, then such a man cannot be entrusted for life. After all, marriage needs two people to face the test of life together, not one person to fight alone.

When you are in love, a man can say all kinds of nice words and do many things for you, but you can't be sure that the other person is a person worthy of trust, because the test of marriage life is far more realistic than the test of love. Whether men's attitudes towards marriage and love are consistent often determines the quality of married life.

Therefore, when a woman chooses the other half, she can't ignore the other person's family background. She should study more and observe how the other's parents, father and son, and mother get along. The truest side of a person is often revealed only in front of the closest people, and it is the true side in front of family.

Chen Shan is a typical woman who blindly believes in love. Fortunately, she can stop loss in time.

Chen Shan was born in a single-parent family. When she was 6 years old, her father died unexpectedly. Her mother brought her up. Under the education of her mother, she is still confident, lively and strong-willed. She seldom worried about her mother since she was a child. After graduating from college, she chose to work in a first-tier city, thinking about earning more money and going home to be filial to her mother. If she can, she will buy a house outside and live with her mother. So at work, she.

Chen Shan and Xu Hai met at work. Xu Hai fell in love with Chen Shan at first sight. She thinks Chen Shan is excellent, talented and beautiful, so she pursues Chen Shan. Chen Shan had no intention of Xu Hai, but was overwhelmed by Xu Hai's indecision and finally agreed to each other.

At first, Xu Hai tried to please Chen Shan, but in less than half a year, Xu Hai's attitude changed. He felt that Chen Shan was clingy and made him lose his freedom. They often had a cold war, during which Chen Shan found out that Xu Hai was having an affair with another woman. Xu Hai argued that he was just an ordinary friend, but Chen Shan thought too much and vowed that he only loved Chen Shan. Chen Shan paid a lot for this relationship and didn't want to lose each other, so she chose to forgive him.

When Chen Shan's mother learned that Chen Shan was in love, she urged her to take it home to meet her. Xu Hai met her mother-in-law for the first time, and she did very well. She won the heart of her mother-in-law, both as a gift and in words and deeds. Chen Shan's mother is an honest person, and she is naturally happy to see her daughter find such a good home. Speaking of bride price, Chen Shan's mother said it was just a formality, and she didn't care too much, as long as her daughter was happy, Xu Hai.

However, Xu Hai's parents seem dissatisfied with Chen Shan. When they first met, they didn't have a good look at Chen Shan. When they learned that Chen Shan was raised by a single-parent family, they were even more dissatisfied and outspoken. Chen Shan never felt inferior to Xu Hai. Now, listening to the parents of the other party, she is naturally unhappy.

But Xu Hai comforted Chen Shan privately, and her parents' opinions didn't count. Marriage belongs to two people, and he will not live with them in the future. Chen Shan think about it, too, so don't rest assured. But she didn't expect that Xu Hai's parents arranged Xu Hai's blind date privately. In the face of Chen Shan's doubts, Xu Hai said that he did it for the future of two people, just to deal with his parents' expediency. Chen Shan had doubts about their future, but he didn't expect it.

When Xu Hai learned the news, he couldn't wait to tell his parents. The old man let go and agreed to their marriage. Chen Shan, who had doubts, suddenly lost her mind because of pregnancy. Her mother is a conservative person. She advised Chen Shan not to think for herself, but also for the baby in her belly. Chen Shan just put on her wedding dress.

Although Xu Hai's parents agreed to their marriage, the bride price was 80,000 yuan, and the return was 80,000 yuan, which was already very generous to others. Actually, 80,000 yuan agreed to return the goods. Although the in-laws paid for the wedding banquet, the money was also given to the in-laws. Mother-in-law also said that she did this, enough to give Chen Shan face, but also enough to give consideration to the children in Chen Shan's belly.

Chen Shan is unwilling, but now she is "imminent". If she makes trouble again, she will have to make jokes by herself. She didn't want the money, so she had to put up with it.

But people's patience has a bottom line, even the weakest people can't stand it.

Chen Shan didn't expect her wedding to be ruined after all. When they changed their minds to offer tea to their in-laws, Chen Shan was taught to be a man by her mother-in-law before she could call. Her mother-in-law said, "Wait, you have to behave yourself when you marry my son." Before Chen Shan could react, her mother-in-law went on to say:

"First: you can't disobey your in-laws, you should be filial to your in-laws.

Second: you must go home to cook immediately after work every day and do your wife's duty.

Third: you can't use your husband's money to subsidize your family.

Fourth: It is my duty to have a baby, and I can't refuse it under any excuse.

Fifth: When there are contradictions between husband and wife, women should learn to give in and tolerate, and be a good wife. "

After five o'clock, everyone around was quiet. Chen Shan felt as if someone was holding a knife rest around her neck. She looked at Xu Hai helplessly, but Xu Hai still looked innocent and urged her to promise quickly. At that moment, Chen Shan suddenly felt that she should not marry, turned around and took off her veil to express her disagreement. My mother-in-law didn't expect Chen Shan to refuse, and the whole person panicked. Xu Hai became angry from embarrassment and rebuked Chen Shan in public.

Xu Hai saw Chen Shan's tough attitude and reminded Chen Shan in a low voice: "Don't forget the baby in your belly, don't be impulsive!" Hearing this, Chen Shan instantly gave up on Xu Hai and said, "Don't worry, I won't want him!" Say that finish, Chen Shan left the scene.

Later, Xu Hai came to ask Chen Shan, and Chen Shan was very firm. I didn't expect Xu Hai to finally say that it's okay to break up and the children should stay. Chen Shan sneered: "I wanted it for the sake of my children." Xu Hai was speechless. Chen Shan said they didn't get a marriage certificate. Even if the baby is born, it has nothing to do with Xu Hai. Let Xu Hai go, and their relationship will be over.

I asked Chen Shan if it was a pity. Chen Shan shook her head and said that she only blamed herself for loving the wrong person. She admitted that Xu Hai didn't know what the responsibility was. Whether in the relationship between men and women, or on the issue of mother-in-law, Xu Hai's attitude has always been vague. A man who has no principles can't get married, only blaming himself for being confused.

What women fear most is to marry an ambiguous man. Many men like to play the role of "dutiful son" in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also kidnap their wives morally, asking them to completely ignore their responsibilities as husbands like themselves. A wife can't treat her in-laws, and she doesn't have to treat her in-laws like a husband. After all, they have no kindness to have children.

The reason why men have such requirements is often to reduce their burden and pass on filial piety to their wives. This behavior is selfish. On the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, blindly helping parents and playing the role of "dutiful son" is only to fulfill their image, so many times, even if they know that their parents are wrong, men still help to blame their wives.

The family rules put forward by Xu Hai's mother seem reasonable, but each one reveals a message, that is, disrespect for daughter-in-law. Marriage is a small family of husband and wife. As parents, we should not interfere too much in the marriage of our younger generation. Even the elders, the friendship between people is based on mutual respect. In any case, Xu Hai's parents should not "make family rules" in public to embarrass their daughter-in-law, so as to establish dignity.

Parents' words and deeds can often lead by example. Parents should set an example, otherwise it will be bad for their children. As a child, you should be a responsible person, otherwise you can only watch happiness slip away.

Finally, marriage advice to all unmarried women: When you think this man is very kind to you, don't be moved in a hurry, first look at how the other's parents get along and how parents and sons get along.