How to cultivate a popular boy? Five pictures tell you

A friend of mine has a pair of twin boys at home. Some time ago, he added another child, still a boy.

When I went to see her last weekend, she was so excited that she finally "unloaded". Then she changed the subject and sighed: Now boys are getting harder and harder to educate, and I still have three. ...

She said that she hopes her son will be gentle, but she is afraid that others will say that she is a mother; I hope my son will keep the ceremony, but I am worried that he will be stiff; I hope he will succeed, but I'm afraid he will be too tired.

Finally, I wish everyone around me love him.

How to raise a popular boy? What should an adult do to make his future as happy as his parents expect?

I read a group of cartoons the other day, and I can give you five suggestions.

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Housework is shared by the whole family.

A study by Canadian scholars shows that the secret of family happiness is that family members do housework together.

When the husband and wife are generally balanced in cooperation or housework, their marital happiness is stronger. Boys who grow up in a happy family are more likely to get happiness in the future.

Our culture advocates that "the woman is the master and the man is outside", and the housework is often done by the mother. However, this concept has long been unsuitable for today's society. Many studies show that boys are more responsible in families where their fathers share housework.

Psychologist Gerdi said: The appearance of father is a unique existence, which has a special power to cultivate children.

Dad's housework behavior will be imitated by his son, which can cultivate his sense of family responsibility and enhance his ability to cooperate with others.

I saw Sha Yi share a video at home earlier. He carefully prepared lunch in the kitchen, cut the vegetables neatly, and put the dishes in an orderly way. At first glance, he is an old hand.

He has revealed that he and Hook have a clear division of labor at home. Hook is responsible for cleaning the house and he is responsible for three meals a day.

Under his influence, the two sons became mother's intimate little cotton-padded jackets and often helped her share housework. It is not easy to understand parents since childhood, so that the two children have stored more sense of responsibility and self-motivation.

Professor Li Meijin once mentioned in China Family Happiness System that parents should instill the concept of sharing housework in their children from an early age.

Even if a child helps to take a pair of slippers and pour a glass of water, it can guide the child to become a person who will take care of his parents from an early age.

Once it is an established fact that children take care of their parents, it can help children to shoulder their due responsibilities bit by bit in the process of growing up.

This sense of responsibility will continue to his relationship with others, leaving him with a reliable, practical and caring impression.

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Allow boys to release "fragile" emotions.

We are always used to making boys strong. When a boy is wronged, he can only hold back his tears. When they are afraid, they can only pretend to be strong. When they are injured, they can only lick the wound in the corner.

But we forget that he is a boy, but also a child. His emotions need to be seen, his emotions need to be recognized, and his needs need to be met.

A boy who is not allowed to cry is like forcibly blocking his emotional outlet with a stone and forcibly interrupting his self-healing process.

In the long run, children's garbage emotions will accumulate in their hearts. One day, this mountain will crush him quietly.

I have seen a movie "Boys Don't Cry" before, in which the boys' emotions are restricted.

When preparing for exercise, he was warned, "Will you be brave?"

When he was sad, his mother scolded him, "why are you crying?" Would you please be a big boy? "

The boy who has been suppressing his emotions finally lost control one day. He raised his fist and waved it at his classmates.

In fact, boys in infancy have weak language expression and emotional control ability, more fragile emotions and stronger emotional needs. Crying is the most direct way for them to express their emotions.

If a boy is not allowed to cry, he will not become stronger, but will be full of junk emotions because his emotional needs are not met, which will be vented in different forms in his later life.

It will be everyone in his life in the future, a boy who is easily out of control, and it is difficult to find a person who is willing to treat each other sincerely.

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Let boys know the boundaries and respect.

I remember a star joked on the show before that my family was born with a boy anyway, so I won't suffer. This mentality is really quite common.

It seems like a joke, but in fact there is a subconscious tendency to agree with this idea.

If we follow this concept in the process of raising children, it will be difficult for children to respect women when they grow up, and even form a sense of superiority towards men, which is annoying.

Many parents know how to teach their daughters to love themselves, but forget to teach boys to respect girls. Finally, let boys turn disrespect for girls into habits and materialise women into values.

Boys who don't know how to respect, when they grow up, enter a relationship, and it is difficult to get real happiness and love.

Therefore, if there is a boy at home, we must start with small things and teach him to respect women.

When you want the other person to do something, you must first ask her permission; The girl said, from time to time, don't slap the past;

Let him see how his father treats his mother, and let him see the true meaning of tenderness and consideration. Pay attention to every time he gets along with the girl and correct every little deviation in his thought and behavior.

Respect for girls is the noblest accomplishment of boys. Let boys respect everyone and every girl as they respect themselves.

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Don't let boys form the habit of violence.

Nowadays, the social competition is fierce, the pace of life is fast, and everyone's attitude towards things is becoming more and more violent.

I heard a young mother educating her children in the park. If someone at school treats you badly, you should hit him. If you can't beat him, come back and tell her.

I was shocked. I taught children to solve problems with violence. They never know what tenderness is, and they will never have a chance to enjoy the tenderness given by others.

In fact, teaching boys to be gentle is more important than teaching girls. Women are born weak, so they can say that they have no power to fight back against male violence.

Gentleness is a compulsory course for a boy to become strong. Teaching him gentleness will be the most shining point in his character.

And we adults should control the devil with a grumpy heart and tell ourselves that gentle parents will never raise a grumpy boy.

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Boys should have good hygiene habits.

Many boys don't pay attention to neatness and don't like to tidy up. Adults may think it doesn't matter.

As everyone knows, the self-care ability in life will also migrate to children's study and work, which will affect the cultivation of children's sense of order and concentration.

Boys who do not pay attention to their own hygiene and do not like cleanliness will not be welcomed by everyone.

A clean and tidy environment can not only help children calm down and concentrate more quickly, but also be more conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind.

Boys with poor grooming habits are easily influenced in interpersonal relationships and work when they grow up. Therefore, the sooner you cultivate your child's hygiene habits, the better.

You can make a code of conduct, follow it with your children, and gradually form a habit. It's simple. Wash hands before and after meals, change socks, take a bath, manicure, etc.

Invite children to participate in housework, exercise the habit of diligent hands-on, put things back when they are used up and toys are ready, and teach children to learn life skills such as tidying up the room and folding clothes.

The most important thing is that parents should set an example in front of their children and learn from their own actions.

Write it at the end

A popular boy, he must be independent, responsible, gentle, humble and kind.

As parents, having such a son will be gratifying and satisfying. In the future, the family will be happy and stable because of such a head of the family.

The future society will be more sustainable, prosperous and peaceful because there are more such real men.

May every boy grow up happily, become a qualified male role and be accepted by the world.

Light up "watch" and welcome "share". Parents have foresight, and boys have responsibility.