How to let go of someone

Life is like this. When something happens, if you hide or go around, you will eventually have to face it. As the saying goes, "You can't escape the first grade of junior high school, but you can't escape the fifteenth grade." If you hide, you are actually wasting time. When something happens over and over again, you become upset and eventually your timidity gets the better of you.

Life is beautiful because of love, but also troubled by love. Some people have obviously let go, but they always think of it, just like a gust of autumn wind, coming out of nowhere. Then you turn on your phone and desperately search for the contact number you were once familiar with. Or maybe you still have his photo in your phone. You have said you want to delete it many times, but you are reluctant to let it go.

I think there are four best ways to let go of someone. Real letting go is not to let the memory return to zero, but to think about it again and feel calm.

1. The best way to let go of someone: When breaking up, don’t argue, don’t argue, and don’t get entangled.

Some people, when they break up, have already shown that they "can't let go". When the relationship slowly fades and breaks, there will always be one person who will say "let's let it go", and the person who is unwilling to let it go is the one who suffers more. You can say "let's let go" with tears in your eyes. In fact, you have been prepared for it. Even if you feel very bitter, it will not be too painful.

We are always caught off guard when we meet, but we are prepared for separation. I used to comfort others, "Since you let go, be generous. No one owes anyone anything in this life." But when it was my turn, I couldn't calm down, let alone be generous.

When reader Amin was chatting with me, he said that on the day he broke up, he first argued with his girlfriend for two hours, and then walked alone on the street for more than five hours, aimlessly. Tired of walking, I returned to the empty house and found tears falling down my face. A grown man has become so fragile in the face of love. If it were a woman, wouldn't it be even more embarrassing? I sympathize with what Amin is going through, because it's not him who's wrong. He already cherishes her and even quit his job for her. But love is not decided by one person, and Amin can only learn to "bear it silently".

I don’t know how many people, like Amin, always want to get entangled, but what’s the use of getting entangled. When you see the other person turn around, everything is over. The more entangled you are, the more entangled your heart becomes, like a rope, trapping your future. When you let go of someone, from the moment you break up, become a quiet person, watch the other person leave, and then slowly turn around, is the best choice.

2. The best way to let go of someone: after leaving, do not disturb or contact them.

No interruption or contact, no matter how good the relationship is, will slowly fade away. Many lovers are reluctant to delete each other's contact information after separation, and often even check each other's friends. As a result, the more they look at each other, the more they miss them, and they even feel as if their hearts are being cut.

Here, let’s talk about Amin. Because he can’t let go of the person in his past, he always finds out about the other person’s life in various ways. When he knows that the other person is married, he borrows alcohol all day long. Xiaochou, life is almost falling apart. But one day, he was drunk, fell asleep in a daze, and lost his cell phone. Now, all contact information is gone, and we can no longer follow each other quietly. At first, Amin tried his best to find the other party's contact information, but two months passed and it was in vain. His mood hit rock bottom, but at this moment, he found that when he thought about her again, it didn't feel so important.

Time is the best healer. All emotional trauma will become dull with time. Therefore, if you leave the person you once loved, never contact him again, and never keep anything. Everyone will "see things and miss people". If you can't see anything, you will slowly let it go.

3. The best way to let go of someone: Don’t do anything when you miss them.

The most stupid person in the world is when the other person leaves you, but you still keep trying to please the other person and treat the other person as your "treasure". For example, she asks you to do something, and you have to do it at all costs; her marriage is not good enough, but you still listen to her attentively, and even ask for leave to accompany her; her child is lost, and you She searched all over the world; her husband had a problem at work, and you secretly helped her... Anyway, you responded to her requests.

They all say, "Who did you dream about last night? When you wake up early the next morning, go find him."

"Actually, there is no need, because when we were together, love did not come to fruition. Looking for it later was just a joke. Maybe others have forgotten you and never want you to disturb them.

Also, “Those who miss you every day are destined to meet again. "In this case, you can believe it, but don't believe it completely, because when we meet again, it may be in the next life. When can we meet again? Everything is God's will. It is never because you miss me every day. If we can't be together in this life, it is actually God's will. , you don’t have to blame yourself.

Sometimes, you can’t let go because you are looking forward to seeing him again, or because you miss him so much that you take the initiative to pay attention to him. From now on, no matter how much you miss him, don’t go. Contact him and don't ask for news about him. If you get used to being so "indifferent", your memory will gradually become blurred and you will never be able to regain the original feeling.

4. It's best to let go of someone. Method: When no one loves you, always believe in love.

"If someone hurts you, someone will love you." Love is also a kind of "energy conservation". You have loved him for so long, but there is no result. , it’s not your fault, it’s that he is not lucky enough to get your love. Anyone who loses all the happiness in life because of one person is not wise enough.

Learn to turn around and meet the right person. This is the way to truly let go of someone. This is how happiness is. There is no happiness, only happiness. When greater happiness flows into your life, the happiness you once had becomes insignificant.

You want to be happy. Believe in love, no matter whether someone loves you or not. Even if you are a little older, it doesn't matter. If you still fall in love at dusk, you will still be full of happiness.

One day, you also have someone you can’t let go of, then try these methods and maybe you’ll let them go.