Highlights in Civil Service Interviews: How to Answer Sky-high Prices of Betrothal Gifts

The reference answer is as follows:

Marriage should be united by sincere feelings. However, the popularity of sky-high betrothal gifts in recent years has made love and marriage more like a transaction. , lost sincerity. In some economically underdeveloped rural areas, betrothal gifts of more than 100,000 yuan put many families under great pressure.

On the one hand, for rural families, a reporter's investigation found that the poorer the area, the higher the price of betrothal gifts. In some cases, the price of betrothal gifts is so high that a family can live without food or water for about 10 years. Behind this shocking number is the unspeakable sadness of rural families. Once they are asked for high-priced betrothal gifts, the newlyweds will begin to repay the heavy debts borne by their families due to the betrothal gifts. Old people who could have lived out their old lives have once again left their hometowns to work hard. The betrothal gifts can be said to change the quality of life of the family. and happiness index.

Secondly, in ancient times, there were six wedding rituals, one of which was receiving color. A reasonable betrothal gift is a kind of ritual communication, which is conducive to emotional expression, but a sky-high betrothal gift clearly marks the price of marriage, which can easily arouse a comparison mentality and corrupt the social atmosphere. "When you are about to marry a woman, ask first how much money you have. When you are about to marry a girl, ask first how much money you have." Such an approach was once ridiculed as "corruption" by the ancients. When a man marries a woman, if one party focuses on the bride price and the other on the dowry, it will inevitably violate good customs, distort people's hearts, and corrupt folk customs.

The 19th National Congress of the Communist Party of China proposed the implementation of the rural revitalization strategy, of which rural civilization is an important aspect. The "Opinions of the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China and the State Council on Implementing the Rural Revitalization Strategy" emphasizes that "rural revitalization is guaranteed by rural civilization" and requires "carrying out actions to change customs." The new era requires a new atmosphere, and it is urgent for people to abandon stereotypes and carry forward the new trends of the times in the countryside.

On the one hand, local governments must innovate ways to guide rural civilization. They cannot just rely on "one-note bans". They must adapt to local conditions and the times, and do a good job in educational guidance, practical cultivation, and institutional development in innovation. Assure. For example, some places send valuable gift packages to newlyweds attending "zero-betrothal" weddings to provide support and assistance in employment and entrepreneurship, which is of great reference significance.

On the other hand, we should think of more ways and provide guidance in aspects such as poverty alleviation, elderly care, and childbirth, so as to effectively solve problems. Gradually get rid of the problem of high-priced betrothal gifts caused by imbalanced gender ratio and marrying off daughters to support the elderly.