Jokers have low EQ.

IQ determines the opponent, and EQ determines the result.

First, five manifestations of a person's low emotional intelligence

1. Love gossips behind my back.

Have you ever met such a person, talking to you about the right or wrong of A, and arguing with A? He thinks he has everything, but all the employees don't like him. There is no windtight wall in the world, and what you say will reach the ears of the parties one day. Such a person, he also likes to tell others about you.

Step 2 be mean and straightforward

"I speak straight, you don't understand." Generally, when you hear this sentence, you must cheer up and don't be PUA by the other party. I like to expose your scars and make fun of you in front of others in the name of "good friends". When I am unhappy, I will be labeled as "I can't take a joke". I think I am humorous, but my emotional intelligence is just low.

3. treat quarrels as erudition

They are used to refuting all topics. In order to show his erudition, he will also quote classics. Whoever refutes is incompetent. For such a person, there is no need to be serious, just smile and join "Yes, Yes, Yes" and continue watching the play.

4. No sense of boundaries

In the process of getting along with others, the most feared thing is that there is no sense of boundary. Touch your personal belongings casually, which is too big to interfere with your private life. Pulling you to chat and eat all day is a headache. The most important thing in interpersonal communication is proper social distance. Parents, friends and colleagues, different relationships require different social distances.

5. Abuse of human feelings

No matter what the relationship is, the favor is gone once. If it is not saved in time, it will run out sooner or later. Some people don't understand this truth, take others' kindness for granted, take advantage of others' petty advantages at ordinary times, and ask others for help in big and small matters. It was not until the critical moment that they discovered that the human relationship between them had been exhausted.

Second, develop five small habits to improve emotional intelligence

1. Develop the habit of independent thinking

The key to improving EQ lies in the ability to think and judge people and things independently. Don't follow the trend, don't go with the flow.

The ability to think independently cannot be cultivated overnight. Usually, you should study more, watch more nutritious content and reduce the time of brushing short videos. When a person accumulates enough knowledge, he can form a more independent three views and positions, and naturally he can judge right and wrong more clearly.

Keep a low profile and don't show off.

Showing off at will not improve your position in others' hearts, but will become a joke in others' eyes. Low key is the most elegant social rule. Don't you work hard silently at ordinary times, and then show yourself at the critical moment, and hit it with one blow, which is more dazzling? In interpersonal relationships, we should also know the truth that the first move is the strongest, which is usually too ostentatious and can easily become the target of others.

Step 3 praise others more

Praise can quickly close the distance with others. When two people meet for the first time, they can get each other's favor by saying "I like your style today"; If you can't shut up and express yourself strongly, you can learn to praise others more. Praise can bring friends closer together.

Learn to shut up.

There is a saying that "many words make many mistakes". If you don't know what to say and what not to say, you might as well use another skill-shut up. In the face of some people and things, shut up is the wisdom to see through; In the face of other people's complaints, to shut up is to replace comfort with listening; In the face of unnecessary quarrels, use silence instead of hurtful words ... play dumb appropriately, and shut up when appropriate. Adults sometimes communicate without words.

5. Pay attention to and take care of other people's small details

Although it is tiring to take care of all the details of people around you, don't be so nervous that you step on thunder everywhere. Paying more attention to each other's small details, such as likes and dislikes, will make each other more comfortable and easier to get closer to others.

People with high emotional intelligence have warm words; People with low emotional intelligence speak like ice; It is the basic principle for adults to socialize without embarrassing others or adding chaos to themselves.