Building a marriage myth through mutual compliments

Lu Yi and Bao Lei: Two people who "support each other" built a marriage myth together.

"Wife's Romantic Travel" has been filmed for its sixth season, and this season welcomes Lu Yi and Bao Lei. In this era where flash marriages, divorces, cheating and breakups are commonplace, the life of Lu Yi and Bao Lei from campus love to 26 years of marriage is like a love myth.

How is this myth constructed? Two words "support each other".

In the show, Lu Yi and Bao Lei made Russian matryoshka dolls together. They first painted each other's portraits on the dolls. Lu Yi's painting of Bao Lei was not only unsightly, but also a bit scary, but Bao Lei praised her with all her heart. Got Lu Yi.

"I think your painting is quite good." After hearing this, Lu Yi immediately showed an expression of disbelief.

In order to make Lu Yi believe her words, Bao Lei also pointed out the good points of Guowei in details, "This necklace pendant is particularly painted, and it has a sense of light and is three-dimensional."

Hearing Bao Lei’s sincere praise, Lu Yi smiled happily.

But are Lu Yi’s paintings really so brilliant?

Bao Lei talked about Lu Yi's "paintings" in a private interview: "In his heart, I am a "devil", and the whites of his eyes are almost shining."

It can be seen that Bao Lei's previous praise was not about beauty being in the eye of the beholder, but to make Lu Yi happy.

Many people in this show commented on Bao Lei that she is too emotional, knows too much about positive feedback, has too high emotional intelligence, and is too good at talking.

But in fact, Bao Lei is not the only one who does this. Lu Yi also treats Bao Lei with a "praising" attitude. Bao Lei talked about her first impression of Lu Yi. She said: "I feel that you are tolerant of me most of the time. No matter how ordinary or ordinary things I do, you always praise me to the sky and make me feel that I am doing the best I can." Very good."

Perhaps it is because Lu Yi always gives Bao Lei generous recognition, which makes Bao Lei, who is good at discovering the bright spots of others, want to repay Lu Yi with the same tenderness.

The so-called husband and wife are actually like mirrors to each other. The process of getting along with each other is also a process of learning from each other. However, some couples learn to ridicule each other, while others learn to cherish each other.

After rewatching "Love Apartment" countless times, I consciously noticed that the relationship between Yoyo and Sekiya also has such a mutually supportive relationship.

Guan Gu was tricked by Qiao into getting an instant noodle perm. When he returned to the love apartment, everyone was laughing at his hairstyle. Guangu himself wanted to find a hole to get in, and was even more afraid of what Yoyo would do after seeing it. It would humiliate him, but even though Youyou was startled when he came in, she said, "I feel a little shocked, but I have to say it's quite sexy."

As she said that, she walked over and touched Guanyu's. Hair, "Really, it feels great, Guan Guan, let's go to your room and let me study how they stand up, okay?" It's like a child who was being laughed at and humiliated just now has been rescued, Hearing what Youyou said, Guangu immediately felt relieved and nodded obediently.

“Because I am your girlfriend, no matter what you do or what you become, I should be the one to support you, instead of making fun of you and embarrassing you like others. "This is love. There are many similar examples.

If we say the most worry-free couple in the love apartment, it must be Yoyo and Sekiya.

But perhaps in this era where everyone is pursuing excitement, we will feel that emotional dramas like theirs that support each other and support each other are not very interesting. Hu Yifei and Zeng Xiaoxian kept fighting, and it was only in the fourth season that they started to break the window paper and flirt with each other. Meijia and Ziqiao were noisy, and they were obviously in love but stubbornly refused to admit it. In the end, they got married. Comparing their emotional scenes, Guangu and Youyouzhi The relationship seems to be too smooth and smooth, lacking a kind of dramatic tension, but in reality, this is a good relationship. It does not need any test from reality. It is discovered that each other is the person you love most, and then it becomes a positive result.

There is no need to experience separation, loss, regret, and then suddenly realize that the best is always by your side.

There is no need for a third person to join in, provoke or assist before you can gradually see clearly. My own heart has been firm enough from the beginning, and I am sure that the other person is the best and the most loved.

This is an era where everyone is talking about emotional value, but everyone is lacking in emotional value, but in fact, emotional value has always been the core element of love.

Emotional value is a derivative of love.

In the presence of the person who loves you and the person you love, we just can’t help but want to give our best to him, want to provide him with emotional value, and want to see him happy.

No matter what he looks like in the eyes of others, in your heart "he is the best."

If you want to say what the best form of marriage is, I think it is the feeling of "you are the best in my eyes", regardless of the erosion of daily necessities, the passage of time, or the erosion of money, rice, oil and salt. Because the passion fades, it is always there.

But this is actually a difficult thing.

Most lovers only feel that the other person is good in every aspect and cannot find faults in them, and they still love each other even if they can find faults. This is a kind of psychological "fainting". wheel effect".

Most lovers only feel that the other person is good in every aspect, and cannot find faults with them, and they still love each other even if they can find faults. This is a kind of "halo" psychologically. effect".

A feeling dominated by hormones during the passion period. After this period, most people start to find fault with each other and start to quarrel, because after the halo effect, , we began to wake up, began to see each other's shortcomings, and began to consider our own interests. The matter of love was like suddenly withdrawing from each other's relationship.

During the love period, I thought everything was good about you, I loved you, and was willing to ignore your shortcomings and tolerate your shortcomings, but now I care more about my own feelings, so I can’t do anything to you. Turning a blind eye, there is no way to skip your own feelings to provide you with emotional value. I am not saying that this is wrong. On the contrary, this is normal. Human nature is self-interested.

That’s why emotional value is so scarce, and that’s why love has become a luxury product.