Does the new son-in-law have any New Year red envelopes?

The Chinese New Year is coming soon, and many married male netizens have posted online to "post their bills", estimating how much it will cost to go home to visit their parents-in-law during the Spring Festival this year, and considering what gifts to buy.

No, the new son-in-law of Changle must prepare at least 20,000 yuan in red envelopes to accompany his wife home. According to local customs, this is still a "little thing." Called "too old-fashioned"!

What gifts are you going to give to your parents-in-law when you go home this year? Do these gifts feel too "heavy" for you? Welcome to our community website sq.dnkb.com.cn to express your opinions.

Shocked! The new son-in-law’s New Year greetings are “clearly priced”

The father-in-law and mother-in-law each received a red envelope, worth 5,000 yuan each. My wife’s brother received a 1,000 yuan red envelope.

Uncle, second uncle, cousin, and cousin each receive a red envelope of 500 yuan.

Cousins, uncles, cousins, cousins ??and other relatives should also be given at least 200 yuan each.

Based on this calculation, at least 20,000 yuan in red envelopes should be prepared.

This is a New Year’s account that Changle’s new son-in-law, Mr. Yan, is worrying about. The wife is from Jinfeng Town, Changle. According to local customs, in the first three years of marriage, the husband must accompany his wife to her parents' home to pay New Year greetings, and he must also give his father-in-law and mother-in-law a "not thin" red envelope, which is at least 10,000 yuan if decent.

"There are also relatives from my wife's mother's family. When I go to pay New Year's greetings, I have to give them red envelopes. I don't have much money and I have to pay off the mortgage every month. It's really too much!" She posted on the Internet to express her depression. The husband said that he had a headache just thinking about it.

In Mr. Yan’s hometown, Longyan, there is no custom of a son-in-law giving red envelopes to his father-in-law and mother-in-law during New Year greetings. Therefore, Mr. Yan was shocked to learn that this kind of "custom" existed in his wife's natal family.

Mr. Yan believes that it is a son-in-law's filial piety to go home to visit his parents-in-law during the Chinese New Year and to give him some gifts. It is also appropriate to spend a little money, but what makes him puzzled is how such a thing can happen. A "clearly marked" New Year red envelope, and it would cost him ten or twenty thousand yuan at a time? This made Mr. Yan, a working-class man, feel that the burden was too heavy.

The reporter learned that in the Jinfeng area of ??Changle, it is indeed common for newlywed sons-in-law to give huge red envelopes to their father-in-law and mother-in-law in the first three years.

Because Changle is a hometown of overseas Chinese and has a relatively developed economy, some wealthy people often give out tens of thousands of yuan in red envelopes when paying New Year greetings. As Mr. Yan said, sending 10,000 yuan in red envelopes to father-in-law and mother-in-law is considered " It’s a trivial matter”. Moreover, influenced by this custom, some sons-in-law who are not originally wealthy also have to pretend to be fat and give big red envelopes to their father-in-law and mother-in-law, so as not to be looked down upon by the wife's family members or cause conflicts between the couple.

What gifts should I prepare? Fuzhou son-in-law is very confused

So, what is the situation like in Fuzhou urban area? Mr. Lin, who lives in Furui Community, Fuzhou, is married to an authentic "Fuzhou girl." The second day of the first lunar month of the Spring Festival last year was the first time Mr. Lin and his wife went to pay New Year greetings to his father-in-law and mother-in-law. He heard that his son-in-law seemed to be bringing some gifts such as noodles and pig's feet when he came to his father-in-law's house, but he thought these things were heavy and unsightly, so he simply bought a box of milk and gave a red envelope to his father-in-law and mother-in-law. The amount of the red envelope was chosen as an auspicious number according to my wife's instructions - 800 yuan.

“Later, when I was chatting with my colleagues, they laughed at me for saying it was too old-fashioned to give 800 yuan in red envelopes to my father-in-law and mother-in-law, because some people directly gave thousands of yuan in health care products, and some people It is said that the more expensive the ginseng, the better.” Mr. Lin said, “I will reconsider the gift this year.”

It is understood that the original custom in Fuzhou was the “Wei Ya Festival” in the twelfth lunar month. Afterwards, the married daughter will bring gifts such as rice cakes, pig's trotters, a pair of freshwater fish, lucky oranges, etc., and the son-in-law will carry the burden back to her parents' home. This is called "giving off the New Year", so that the son-in-law will give gifts to his father-in-law on the second or third day of the first lunar month. You can also stop bringing gifts to your mother-in-law when visiting her for the New Year. However, now some young Fuzhou sons-in-law only remember to give big gifts to their father-in-law and mother-in-law during the New Year's greetings in the first month, and the traditional custom of "giving off New Year's greetings" has gradually been forgotten.

Folklore expert Fang Binggui said that a son-in-law should give gifts to his father-in-law and mother-in-law according to his ability. He should not give gifts that exceed his financial income just to "speak face" or show off his generosity. It is not necessary to give red envelopes. You can give some gifts that are more beneficial to the health of the elderly, such as recharged physical examination cards, travel cards, or subscriptions to newspapers and magazines.