Women need 800 thousand bride price to get married, just to compare with their girlfriends Do you need comparison in marriage?

Nowadays, it seems that few women get married without a bride price, and most women will get some more or less, just like the whole process of talking about marriage without a bride price is not perfect.

However, there are two completely different views on the bride price in life.

One party thinks that asking for a bride price is a remnant of feudal thought, which violates the principle of equality between men and women, and regards marriage as an act of "selling daughters" to collect money. People who have this idea are mostly "victims" of bride price and men who want to pay.

On the other hand, the bride price is not a demand for money, but represents the man's attitude towards women, respect for the family, and the performance of the man's family ability and character.

In life, I have also heard many women say that the reason why they ask for the bride price is not because they are greedy for money and things, but to give themselves a kind of protection. Not wanting a bride price before marriage will be looked down upon, but wanting a bride price will make the man's family feel precious, so that it will not be left out and despised by the man's family in marriage.

In my opinion, the bride price is a meaningful act, which expresses the mutual respect between the two families and the expectation and determination for the future marriage. However, the amount of bride price should not be too much, just a form, which should meet the conditions of both families and be as low as possible.

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In fact, the reason why the bride price will become a problem in life will be criticized by many people, not because of the wedding custom itself, but because of the huge amount of bride price.

In life, some women's families only consider their own face and interests when asking for bride price, regardless of the actual situation or the man's family. They think that as long as the bride price is high enough, it will be glorious, so they charge exorbitant prices.

This kind of prenuptial bride price conflict can easily ruin the marriage. Even if one party finally compromises into marriage, it will continue to have a bad influence on marriage.

Li Di is 3 1 year old and Xiao Xia is 29 years old. They were introduced and met for the first time. They both thought each other was nice, so they started dating. After this communication for about half a year, they started to get married at the urging of their parents.

When it comes to marriage, we have to talk about the topic of bride price. Li Di naturally asked Xiao Xia's opinion and wanted to listen to the woman's specific requirements first. Unexpectedly, however, Xiao Xia asked for 800,000 yuan as soon as he opened his mouth on the issue of bride price, which made Li Di completely incomprehensible.

Families in Li Di and Xiao Xia are not rich, and their jobs are ordinary. The normal level of local bride price is far from so high, with an average of up to 300,000, and it must be a relatively wealthy family.

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At first, Li Di only thought that Xiao Xia was joking, so he asked Xiao Xia what he really thought and why he made such high demands when opening the betrothal ceremony.

Xiao Xia said to Li Di, "You know my best friend Lily. When I got married two years ago, my husband gave a bride price of 800 thousand. She often says it's her husband's attitude towards her and often shows it to us. I have no other requirements, but my girlfriend's wedding gift is 800,000, which can't be less than her. "

My best friend Li Di really knows her, but she hasn't seen her many times. Li Di really doesn't like this best friend Lily, and always thinks that she is an extremely materialistic little sister.

Lily's family is really rich. Her father is in the furniture business and can be said to be a well-known and wealthy family in the local area. Lily is the only precious daughter in the family.

Lily's husband's family is not an ordinary family, but also has its own career, and the two can be described as suitable. Lily's wedding with her husband is even more grand. Li Di didn't know them at first, but he knew about the wedding.

Xiao Xia knows Lily because of another friend. After they met, Lily often took Xiao Xia to shopping, parties and other occasions, which made Xiao Xia feel very proud. Li Di also told Xiao Xia to stay away from them. They are not from the same world at all, but Xiao Xia won't listen.

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What Li Di didn't expect was that this man, who had nothing to do with him, brought such a big obstacle when he talked about marriage with Xiao Xia.

After listening to Xiao Xia, Li Di tried to persuade Xiao Xia to decide the bride price according to the actual situation. But I didn't expect Xiao Xia to recognize this number, and said that if Li Di couldn't go, he would be embarrassed and humiliated in the circle of friends, and would be laughed at by others. If she didn't see these betrothal gifts, she would rather not marry.

When Li Di heard this, she said angrily to Xiao Xia, "Not to mention how rich Lily's husband is. Lily's family has a factory that will be owned by her and her husband in the future, not to mention how well she manages herself and how beautiful people are. Look at you. What do you have? What do you have at home? Don't be shameless, you are not worth the price. "

With these words, Li Di left Xiao Xia and told his parents and Xiao Xia's parents about the annulment of the marriage.

Later, Xiao Xia's parents brought Xiao Xia to apologize and claimed that the family had agreed that the bride price should not be so high, and it was set at 300,000 according to the local average.

Even so, however, Li Di refused the marriage regardless of his parents' persuasion. In his view, the bride price storm made him see Xiao Xia more clearly. He said that he would rather spend more time looking for a good woman than live with such a woman who is materialistic and loves to compare with others.

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The above is the story of Li Di and Xiao Xia about the bride price. The bride price is indeed a test, which not only tests the ability, attitude and character of men and their families, but also tests women and their families. Obviously, Xiao Xia revealed his true nature in this test.

In my opinion, Li Di's final decision is correct. Otherwise, even if two people get married, Xiao Xia will eventually break up the marriage because of his personality defect. With Xiao Xia's nature, after marriage, she will naturally put forward a lot of excessive demands for marriage because of her own heart of comparison, which will eventually make both of them feel unhappy and gain no happiness.

People will have the heart of comparison more or less. Moderate comparison can make people more motivated and know how to struggle and work hard, which is the positive significance brought by comparison. But once the heart of comparison has passed the limit, it will distort personality and make people beyond redemption.

The reason why Xiao Xia asked for a huge bride price of 800,000 yuan is essentially because she is too eager to compare with others and can't see the reality clearly, so she can't proceed from the actual situation of two families. As a result, she finally lost her happiness.