Shame! After weaning, the baby loves to touch her breasts crazily. How to break it?

After weaning, I thought that my nursing career, which lasted for more than a year, was finally relieved, but I found that my baby was addicted to touching Mimi and seemed to turn his attention to touching Mimi.

Touch before going to bed, wake up in the middle of the night, and cry when you wake up in the morning, thinking that the dream of a good sleep for liberated working mothers is shattered again.

Tintin's mother is also a professional mother. After her son was weaned at the age of one and a half, she fell madly in love with touching Mimi for about two years. Tintin's mother thinks this is a problem! Must change! Therefore, I know that I am sensible and convincing, and Tinker Bell, who is sensible, slowly stops touching Mimi herself.

But sleeping at night always feels like scratching, so one day he touched a monkey around his mother's neck and he was ecstatic when he discovered the new world. Finally, he found an artifact that made me sleep peacefully. Playing with the brain should be like this, so he must touch the monkey around his mother's neck every night and put his hand on it to fall asleep.

Chuanchuan's mother told her weaning history. At that time, she blindly listened to the opinions of the elderly at home and separated from her children for a few days. The forced separation of mother and son left a certain psychological trauma to her son. After weaning, children sleep with their lower lip every day, and they have to grab a strand of hair from their mother or grandmother to fall asleep. This habit has actually been maintained until junior high school.

Experts say that babies love to touch their boobs, which is actually not a disease and cannot be considered a problem. For a child, his mother's breasts can provide him with warmth and security, which is a comfort to his soul. First of all, the mother should not reprimand the child, but gently tell the child that sleeping without touching the mother's breasts is a sign that the child grows up. Touching a mother's breasts when a child grows up will bring jokes and shame to other children! You can also tell him a story before he goes to bed, or you can give him a plush toy and let him sleep with a toy or pillow. If the child has "body double" in his hand, he will feel more secure.

Children who grow up with breast milk have special feelings for breasts. After weaning, children will not be exposed to familiar things, and they will feel alienated from their mothers. Touching them can ease the mood. Don't stop her from this behavior at first. You can use other ways, such as telling stories and singing children's songs, to divert her attention and satisfy the child's feeling of being needed, so that the child will naturally forget to touch her breasts. Usually you can tell your child that she has grown up and needs to eat rice to be healthy. Breastfeeding can't satisfy her growth.

Dig out the secret that children like to touch their mothers' breasts.

1? Attachment to breast milk

Children like to touch their mothers' breasts because they miss breastfeeding. In a few years, children will not be like this when they grow up. Most children love their mothers before 12 years old. By the age of 13- 14, they will gradually dislike being close to their mothers.

2? A natural instinctive reaction

Many children begin to touch their mothers' breasts as soon as they are born. They have been drinking their mother's breast milk since they were born. Mothers can imagine that their children will be more dependent on their mothers' breasts. For young children, attachment to their mother's body is instinctive. Once their mother prevents their children from touching their bodies, they will not get used to it, and their instinctive desire will become very strong, that is, they must touch their mothers' breasts to be comfortable.

3? Caused by a lack of security

A child is interested in his mother's breasts from birth, because it is the only source for him to live and eat, and it is also the safest place for children. A child's extra attachment to his mother, even after weaning, can't stop him from loving his mother. Once the mother won't let the child touch him, the child will feel lost and insecure.

4? Have an Oedipus tendency

Children's Oedipus complex is innate, but only subconscious. Whether it is really Oedipus or not depends entirely on what mother does in her life the day after tomorrow. For example, when I was young, I slept in separate beds. I was too fond of children to wean them. When my child is very old, he is still nursing or sleeping with his mother. I can't bear it. When they cry, they give in, so that they can't really wean, whether physically or psychologically, especially in single-parent families. In addition, there is another important reason, that is, the role of the child's father is too little involved and there is a lack of male environment.

How to deal with children who love to touch their mothers' breasts?

1? Meet the baby's psychological requirements and divert the child's attention in time.

Baby's love of touching breasts may be a manifestation of emotional dependence or inner tension. After a long time, bad nerve habits will be formed, which will seriously affect children's physical and mental health. Therefore, parents should first not be anxious and do not take any coercive measures. They should pay attention to the baby's psychological needs, whether there is inner anxiety and anxiety. Parents should respond in time according to the situation, let the baby feel warm and safe in the mother's arms, and eliminate its nervous psychology. When the baby is sleepy and ready to sleep or eat, adults should use various methods to divert attention, gradually give up this habit, and often take the baby to nature, enrich the baby's various experiences, cultivate his sentiment, and slowly transfer the baby's nervous bad habit of touching his breasts.

2? Psychological transposition method, let children feel their mother's troubles

Touching a mother's breasts is a child's attachment to her mother. Some children feel insecure and have to touch their loved ones' bodies to sleep peacefully. Children aged 2 to 3 can already understand the language of adults. As long as you make him feel uncomfortable with his mother, you should try to make him feel your feelings. Touch him and ask him if it makes him feel uncomfortable, so that he will understand.

3? Let children find "substitutes" to meet their own needs.

Children's attachment to breasts has not been replaced by new emotional attachment. For weaned children, it will be attached to the breast for a period of time. As children get inner satisfaction through work and increase their activities, their emotions will gradually get rid of spiritual satisfaction from their breasts. For such a child, the mother should check whether the family has prepared rich work materials for the child, which are in line with the child's age, can satisfy the child's interest, and can also guide the child to have fun from work. Also, are there too many restrictions on children's activities and so on.

4? Play the role of father

Father's intervention is the key. If it is not a single-parent family, no matter how busy the father is, he should spend more time with his children. He can't make children feel that their mother is the only one to rely on, as if their father is dispensable. Fathers should take their children to play some risky and relatively masculine games, and only rely on fathers and other men around them to cultivate boys' masculinity. Being a man's father is the simplest, most direct, most effective and key measure to prevent and correct the boy's excessive Oedipus.

It is normal for children to like to touch their mothers' breasts when they are young. Mother should not make a fuss, but she should also take normal measures to treat the child's behavior and divert the child's attention. Don't let children rely on their mother's breasts, don't let them touch things outside, and don't stop their touching by beating and cursing, which will affect their physical and mental development and be very unfavorable to their growth.