Why do many young people reject blind date?

First of all, it is introduced by parents and elders. Staring at it is really stressful.

Mainly because the acquaintances introduced by the elders are also acquaintances, and the objects introduced by themselves have at least a basic understanding, and then you and the blind date are still in a blind date state, and parents hope that you two will come naturally. This kind of pressure is unbearable for most people, so it often leads to the opposite effect.

Secondly, parents and elders have completely different views on young people.

What parents see is that it is best to have a stable job, a car and a house, and even different aesthetic standards. Young people hope to get to know each other gradually in the process of getting along, and it is very important to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents can't participate in, so the success rate of blind date is lower.

Third, stage fright may also be embarrassing.

Everyone's personality is different. Not everyone can talk about Kan Kan in front of strangers. He is as calm as an innocent man and an old friend for many years. Just like some people, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable and don't like strangers since childhood, so contact with strangers is a real resistance.

Just like a person who is afraid of heights, it is the same to look at heights; Just like people with dense phobia, it is the same to hide dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of my heart, uncontrolled and changed. However, many parents don't quite understand. They think blind date is just a trivial matter. Is it necessary to be so exclusive?

And some people who are not good at words. Although I am usually careless, when I see a stranger, I immediately fear my hands and feet and feel unnatural all over. They don't know what to say or talk about. So the atmosphere is very embarrassing, and I always want to find an excuse to escape. I have experienced it once, and I don't want to experience it again.

As the saying goes, people are different. What you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

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Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel ashamed.

Whether men or women, sometimes vanity is at work. In the face of blind date, many people will have this kind of psychology: "I am not unwanted, why do I have to go on a blind date?"

As a result, many people think that only those who can't find a date will go on blind dates. Why can't I find the object? Explain that you are not good enough, so people will think that going on a blind date proves that you are not good enough. Then I am worried that my relatives and friends around me will know and I will laugh at myself. After being spread out, I feel very embarrassed. Even if blind date is common, even if many people can accept it, there will still be such scruples and worries in the deepest part of their hearts.

Especially for young people, vanity and comparison are more intense. Everyone is so proud, and no one wants to lose face.

Fifth, I feel that blind date is not reliable.

There is a kind of person who is full of expectations and fantasies about love from an early age. The love and marriage in their hearts should be as beautiful and romantic as in fairy tales. Therefore, when it comes to blind date, I am very reluctant. I feel that my marriage should not be so casual and realistic.

In their deepest heart, they feel that blind date is just to find someone to live with, and it has nothing to do with love and romance.

There is another kind of person who may have left a shadow in his heart because of the misfortune around him. For example, some couples finally get married through blind date, and they are not happy after marriage; For example, a couple walked together through a blind date, and finally their feelings were played. Because of these examples, they directly think that all blind dates are unreliable.

It is said that once bitten, twice shy. Although you may not have experienced it yourself, you will subconsciously regard it as your own alarm because of the experience of people around you. Everyone is serious about feelings, and no one wants their true feelings to be wasted and played with, so we all become cautious.

As the saying goes, there is a saying on the Internet. People nowadays get nothing because they live too clearly. We avoid the possibility of being hurt, but at the same time we may miss the right person.

To put it another way, blind date is actually very similar to looking for a job. Impossible means that you will be satisfied as soon as you find your first job. You should constantly coordinate, explore and talk. For example, if a man is a candidate, you have the ability to compete with major companies. There is no probation period and no rounds of interviews. It's already done for you, just waiting for your door. On the other hand, if you can't do it, you can stay where you are, and indifference is commonplace.

Women are poor, old and ugly, just like a company is so poor that no one wants to recruit people? Some people dare to apply, and they are also old, weak and sick.

Society is such a reality, and reality is society.