Why do you say that self-mockery is not small?

In negotiation, self-mockery often plays a magical role and is one of the important contents of resourceful language. Self-mockery is self-mockery. But the alcoholic's original intention is not to drink, on the surface, he is mocking himself, but the subtext has another charm. Therefore, self-mockery has special expressive function and use value in negotiation.

When someone asks you something and you want to refuse, it will be embarrassing to say no. Self-deprecating and tactful refusal not only expresses one's refusal intention, but also makes the other party willing to accept it.

In the early 1950s, American President Truman met with the arrogant General MacArthur. During the meeting, MacArthur took out his pipe, put on tobacco, put it in his mouth and took out matches. When he was about to strike a match, he stopped and said to Truman, "Do you mind if I smoke?" Obviously, this is not a sincere request for advice. When he is ready to smoke, it will be rude and overbearing if the other person says he cares.

This rude arrogance embarrassed Truman. However, he glanced at MacArthur and laughed at himself: "General, come on, others have sprayed more smoke on my face than any American."

It can be seen that when embarrassing facts have happened, self-mockery can protect one's self-esteem through self-comfort, and can also reflect the generosity of the speaker.

People sometimes feel annoyed and depressed because some things are not satisfactory. If they say it, it will make people laugh. Using self-mockery can not only comfort yourself, but also avoid jokes from others, killing two birds with one stone.

During the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, Xie Qizhuo, a 98-year-old Guangdong examinee, still took the rural examination. When the examiner called the roll, he was advised to go home and have a grandson. But Xie made up his mind that he must take the exam. After many troubles, he finally won. The old man was sad and happy, and wrote a poem "The Old Woman Marries" to laugh at himself: "At the age of 98, it is shameful to marry; Look at the peanut face in the mirror and hold the mirror with snow. "

When negotiating with others, especially in negotiations, when the other party's demands are too high, expectations are too high, and the negotiations are stranded, using self-mockery can sometimes get the effect of retreating into progress.

The section chief of a vegetable company went to other places to transport vegetables, and the seller wanted to take the opportunity to make a profit, so the price was very high and the two sides were deadlocked. Seeing that the market supply will be out of stock, the anxious section chief put on a helpless look and said wryly, "In fact, you respect me. I'm just a small section chief, deputy. How much power can I have? " Besides, the weather is so hot that I spend a lot of money on business at a loss. Can I take this responsibility? His self-mockery not only discouraged the seller who had high expectations, but also sympathized with his "difficulties". Finally, we compromised and lowered the price.

After experiencing the ups and downs of life, people often sigh deeply about their fate. Lamenting life with self-mockery can often receive profound and touching language effects. Yang Heling, who was regarded as an "enemy" by the Qing government together with Sun Yat-sen, lived in seclusion in Macau after the founding of the Republic of China, calling himself "Siguantang Old Master Q". He once wrote a self-deprecating inscription on the photo given to Qi Mei: "Half a hundred photos, I am lonely. Seven sisters will cherish it, and four brothers will give it. " A few words are sad and heavy.

On some occasions, using self-mockery can add interest and harmony. A husband is going abroad for further study, and his wife said to him half jokingly, "You may see other women when you go to that world of flowers!" " "

The husband smiled and said naughtily, "Look at my face, flat face, round legs, big eyes and big ears. I'm afraid people can't see me standing on the road. " Make his wife laugh. The husband's self-mockery implies comforting his wife. This is more poetic and interesting than solemn oath.

Making good use of self-mockery can add a lot of elegance to conversation and negotiation. If you don't use it well, it will disgust the other party and cause obstacles to conversation. Self-mockery should judge the situation and use a camera, which should not be used everywhere. In addition, self-mockery should avoid taking a cynical attitude. There is positive self-mockery, which contains strong self-esteem and self-love of the self-mocker. Self-mockery is just a seemingly negative but positive means to promote the conversation to change in a good direction.

Colleagues, friends and relatives sometimes joke about your shortcomings, which makes you a little embarrassed. I feel timid if I want to acquiesce, and I feel stuttering if I want to talk back. At this time, how to get rid of the predicament? Use humorous language, funny expressions and jokes to dilute this embarrassing situation and enliven the atmosphere.

This is also one of the contingency skills that a language must have.

When dealing with "exposing weaknesses", we should pay special attention to the following points:

First, try not to think that others have ulterior motives. If we are nervous and ponder the subtext and voice of every word of others, it is asking for trouble. Because on many occasions, the other party often blurts out or makes impromptu jokes, and never thought it would hurt you.

Second, don't talk back. Some people don't listen to half a sentence of "heavy words", and they quickly refute it, which often provokes angry words and breaks up good relations. Generally speaking, people who joke often hang on their faces if they get serious rewards. Therefore, we can't lose a friend because of jokes, or even leave a narrow-minded impression.

Third, when people "expose their weaknesses", if they are shy, can't keep silent normally, can't change their situation tactfully, or even lose their manners, they will appear a little stingy. It is the best policy to stay calm, temporarily put aside "exposing shortcomings" and find other topics, or light a cigarette and serve a cup of tea to distract others.

Of course, the best plan is to use your quick wits and have a sense of humor. A writer has just published a novel, which has been well received. Another writer didn't think so, and ran to ask him, "This book is not bad. Who wrote it for you? " He replied, "Oh, thank you for your compliment, but who finished reading it for you?"

Humorous reply is also a way to deal with those who expose shortcomings.