Why can't teachers educate children well?

When I saw this topic, my heart was filled with endless sadness and helplessness. I am also an educator. It has been my wish for many years to expect children to learn something and achieve something. I am willing to exchange my happiness and happiness for the realization of this long-cherished wish. I also believe that every peer in education has such a strong desire than anyone else. Perhaps this desire is too strong, which has caused the current situation of extremes meet. In fact, when writing this passage, I can feel that our teacher's children are not excellent, and there are many excellent ones in their careers. However, the reality has to tell dear teachers that the teachers' children let us down everywhere. I remember a long time ago, I read an elder brother's diary "Why excellent teachers can't educate excellent children". Every word is a wise saying, which thoroughly analyzes the current situation of teachers' education for children, so I can't bear to read it again. Teachers, preachers, lecturers, the most glorious career under the sun, have worked hard to train groups of outstanding talents, and they talk endlessly about educating children. As long as we can work hard in the front line of teaching for a few years, educators will naturally sum up many educational tricks and naturally classify students: how to educate naughty and smart children; How to educate stubborn and willful children; How to educate introverted children who don't talk; How to educate extroverted and talkative children; In the face of ... Under normal circumstances, such a scheme is really effective for educating different children. Parents will admire teachers more when they see their children's progress, and they can't wait to be teachers when they are exhausted in the next life, so as to get more tips on educating their children. After leaving school and returning to China, the teacher changed from an educator to a truly ambitious parent. In the face of children's problems, she is very headache and helpless. The only thing she can do is to find the child's teacher and discuss effective ways to educate the child. In the process of discussing with the children's class teacher, I always find that the children of the class teacher and their own children also have some unspeakable sexual problems, so I can't help but sigh: Hey! Today's children, though not born to a mother, have the same shortcomings. Children nowadays are really difficult to educate. You see * * * In our school, parents are too busy to care about their children, but he is omnipotent in all aspects and can hardly find any shortcomings. You said that our child has worked so hard for him, how can he not understand our good intentions! Hey! ..... The discussion process turned into a complaint meeting and a criticism meeting. However, after discussion, there are still gains: the biggest feature of teachers is that they can accept other people's suggestions and constantly revise their own educational methods. But this is also the problem. Before long, dear teachers and mothers will find that the newly revised method is getting worse and worse for children, and then anxiety will follow, and the pictures of good students will pass by one by one in their minds. No, not for a long time. Go to my colleagues for consultation tomorrow, and be sure to get rid of this bad habit of my child. Then, teachers and mothers ask questions while learning, and practice while learning ... Finally, we will be sad to persuade ourselves: Hey! That's it! Maybe my own children don't worry, don't care, and don't like learning ... I have tried my best. If he really can't learn, I really can't help it. We will have a kind of: "full of absurd words, a bitter tear;" Tears flow first when the child is helpless and moved by unsuccessful rest. At this moment, a life joke told by a teacher and a good friend suddenly popped up in my mind: facing her son who just went to kindergarten, she also had a lot of educational confusion. One day, she asked a distant friend for advice. The distant friend told her a lot, which benefited my friend a lot. Before ending the conversation, my friend suddenly realized, "I understand a lot after hearing what you said." Let me ask you the last sentence. Tomorrow is the weekend, so I will. " A friend from afar said something particularly instructive, shocking and useful, "You are a mother. Don't think about how to educate him with your son on weekends, just want to have fun with him! " Yes! The teacher's sorrow is nothing more than this. There are too many examples of excellent children around him. Watching each child succeed, he treated his children with this pair of colored glasses. Many advantages of the child are taken for granted by his mother. The colored glasses of education filter out the advantages, but magnify the children's shortcomings, and seize the children's shortcomings all day to find corrective methods, which strengthens the children's bad behavior and makes them lose confidence, courage and hope. Actually, think about it. From the moment the child was born, we pinned our infinite hopes and longings on this pink baby with the eyes of educators, and involuntarily pinned our unfinished long-cherished wish on the child, hoping that our child must be better than ourselves. Looking at the cuteness of children's babbling, I can't help but sigh the cruelty and irrationality of the education mechanism, and secretly tell myself: when children grow up, they must not live as tired as themselves, they must not read books with textbooks, and they must grow up happily. Shortly after the oath was issued, the children walked into the kindergarten with small schoolbags on their backs, and played, basked in the sun and played games with them every day. It didn't take long for a good day to appear: my friend's doll piano began to go up in grade; Colleagues' children won prizes in the dance performance on Children's Day. Children in the same class can sing and dance ... The sworn heart begins to loosen and shake. After the child became a primary school student, his shaken heart completely collapsed: "It is better to learn more specialties when the child is young and does not have much learning burden. There is no need for a child to learn well, as long as he grows up. " After giving yourself a reasonable and appropriate explanation, the child becomes a learning machine. Every weekend, just like a star rushing to the scene, they accept art classes in English class and eloquence classes in dance class ... all this is caused by comparison: other children know that their children should know something, others are proficient, and their children are as backward as possible ... Subconscious comparisons among teachers abound: I am an excellent teacher and I teach. I am an excellent teacher, and the quality of teaching is only a handful every year. How can I allow my children to behave mediocre at school? I have no other promise in my life. I work as a tired teacher with little bonus. I can't let my children suffer any more, at least better than I am now, right? I have corrected the shortcomings of countless children with my own educational methods, and I will correct the shortcomings of children anyway! I have met many outstanding and conscious children, and I want to train my children as well as them! I saved many children who went astray and won the praise of many children and parents. My children should pay more attention to education! Educating other people's children is not a teacher's real skill, but educating your own children is the last word! ..... all kinds of ideas and ideas make the teacher breathless, and go to see his children with this breathless mentality. There are fewer and fewer advantages and more and more disadvantages, and he can't help worrying. Therefore, he eagerly encouraged, sincerely told, reprimanded, praised modestly and hypocritically, and beat and scolded bitterly ... What he gained was that all the 18 martial arts in teaching were used. What I said may be a little exaggerated to the teacher, but some questions are true to me. Growing up with children, I was also confused. How to communicate with children correctly is also a puzzle for many teachers and mothers. After work, I constantly reflect and comfort myself: I am an ordinary person and my child is an ordinary child; My occupation is a teacher, which has nothing to do with my children; I love my daughter only because she is my child and has nothing to do with her performance; In this life, I want to grow up with her with appreciation; Although my life is full of tension, I must allow my daughter to grow up leisurely; I look serious in the pulpit, because I am a teacher and I want to be a loving and considerate mother at home. Whether my life is excellent or not has nothing to do with my children. I want to allow her to exist in her own state; I am a mother, I am a teacher, I am an excellent teacher, but I am not necessarily right in front of children. I can't force her to obey me in everything. Teachers repeat their work year after year, and the process of growing up with children is gone forever. My daughter is my loveliest, best and dearest baby ... I have a lot to say in my heart. I'll do it slowly by myself first. I hope I can walk all the way to Brother Lu! I sincerely hope to educate my colleagues not to make themselves too tired, not to bear unnecessary burdens, and not to make their tired hearts suffer more pain. Let go, don't worry, and let go of your child! "Sow an act and reap a habit; Sow a habit and reap a character; Sow a character and reap a life. " We are engineers of the human soul, and we are engaged in the most glorious cause under the sun. These good deeds we do will surely plant seeds of love and kindness in children's hearts, give them a kind and caring character and give them a happy life.