On the birthday of my daughter-in-law, my mother-in-law was sarcastically given a gift: my daughter is divorced and still knows how to please me. Did her daughter-in-law do it right

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is just like getting along with others. It needs to be kind to others from beginning to end in order to be harmonious and beautiful.

However, it must be said that because of the particularity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sometimes it seems that there are natural differences, and many people themselves are biased.

Because in the inherent concept of most people, it is impossible for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have no bad feelings, or even regard each other as imaginary enemies from the beginning.

In this case, it is naturally impossible to handle all these things well.

Qin Ping's mother-in-law is a woman who prefers boys to girls. She has a son and a daughter, with a difference of 10 years. Since the birth of her daughter, she has been inclined to serious experience.

The reason is probably that the daughter's grades are better and her mouth is sweeter, which can make her parents happy.

Qin Ping's husband and her sister-in-law are completely opposite personalities. Her husband is clumsy, taciturn and only knows how to do things.

So when the matchmaker comes home to introduce her, she always praises her husband for his honesty, saying that such a person must be reliable.

As a matter of fact, Qin Ping doesn't like honest people. She agreed to this marriage only because she found the other party white and delicate at the first meeting, which made people feel good.

She said that her husband and sister-in-law look like mother-in-law, with white skin and tall figure, which stands out at first sight. Coupled with the good eloquence of my sister-in-law, my mother-in-law firmly believes that her daughter will be more promising than her son in the future.

Besides, her sister-in-law reads much more than her husband. Her husband didn't go to school after primary school, and her sister-in-law went to college.

At that time, after they got married, they lived with their mother-in-law, whose sister-in-law had just entered middle school. Every time I go home, my mother-in-law will take out all the delicious food like Chinese New Year.

This made her a little uncomfortable, because she said that she didn't eat well when she was confined.

On the first day of giving birth to her eldest daughter, her mother-in-law said that she would work in the fields, so she cooked her a big bowl of white water. She doesn't even want to put an egg, and there is no salt. She said she couldn't eat, and her mother-in-law said she was really difficult to raise.

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When my sister-in-law comes home, no matter how busy her mother-in-law is, she will get up and fry two dishes in the morning, which is in sharp contrast to usual, and even she will follow.

Qin Ping still likes her sister-in-law, because she is really sensible and respects her. Every time I come back, I will buy her something specially, not to mention whether it is expensive or not. This kind of intention is rare.

Because of this, Qin Ping helped her mother-in-law, although she had a problem with her divorce. Of course, this is another story.

Qin Ping and her mother-in-law didn't live together for a long time. When the child was 4 years old, she and her husband went out to work and her mother-in-law was at home.

Because I only went back to see her once during the Chinese New Year, she had a good relationship with her mother-in-law. Both sides are more polite, that is, after going home for the New Year every year, others will bring a lot of food to the elderly at home, which is nothing more than their own bacon and sausages.

Qin Ping said that her mother-in-law was very picky on this point. Everyone else should put half a bag, and the mother-in-law should pick some bones from a piece of meat.

As for the reason, I'm sure I'm afraid I'll bring too much, and my sister-in-law won't have enough to eat when she goes home.

She usually doesn't get angry, but it's just that indifferent attitude, because her mother-in-law has always been like this, and she doesn't expect her mother-in-law to change. A long time ago, my mother-in-law said that her future pension must depend on her daughter, not them.

Therefore, if you can stay, you will naturally try to leave it to your daughter.

Later, they worked outside and saved some money. They are going to buy a house in the county, which is also convenient for children to go to school in the city. She remembers very clearly that she still lacks 7000 yuan and wants to borrow it from her mother-in-law.

Because my father-in-law works outside all the year round, there must be savings at home. Mother-in-law disagreed, saying that her daughter was going to school, and there would be a dowry in the future, and she didn't lend them 5 yuan.

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Later, she had no choice but to borrow money from her eldest sister at home. Finally, she bought a house and continued to go out to earn money to decorate it.

Qin Ping said that others can rely on the two old people in the family, only she and her husband, both of whom earn a stitch and a thread by themselves, but at least their lives are not worse than others.

Even after they finished decorating the house, they found a new quilt in the closet. She liked the color and pattern very much, and wanted to put it in the new house, so she let her mother-in-law come over.

Her mother-in-law said something she still remembers: "How can I give you this quilt? It is very expensive. It's for my daughter's future dowry. "

Her husband was more angry than her and said directly, "whoever wants it, we won't give it to us." Qin Ping's husband has a bigger view of his mother, saying that her mother has always been partial to her sister, and her experience of partiality is almost endless.

Her mother-in-law was not angry at all, saying that it was not for you anyway. If you want, just buy it again yourself. Since then, Qin Ping has never asked her mother-in-law for anything.

But my sister-in-law's life did not follow her mother-in-law's expectation.

After her sister-in-law graduated from college, she met a boy by chance. She is nearly three years old, but she didn't say anything. She has no education and no regular job. She also has a younger brother, whose parents are lazy and her family is in a mess.

But the other party just used some sweet words to let her sister-in-law marry him. When we got married, everyone was full of anger, especially Qin Ping, who thought the other party was totally unworthy. She tried to persuade her many times, but her sister-in-law wouldn't listen.

Sure enough, less than a year after marriage, her sister-in-law was beaten by the other party, followed by a long quarrel and fight. Later, after her sister-in-law gave birth to a daughter, she chose to divorce and the child was not taken away.

After the divorce, my sister-in-law lived in her house for half a year, and later said that she would go to work with a friend from other places before leaving. After the divorce, my mother-in-law began to change.

First of all, I sent them food, which flattered Qin Ping. I wonder which play her mother-in-law sang? Then it was her birthday, and her mother-in-law came to buy her a suit as a gift.

The gap between before and after this made Qin Ping unable to help but be sarcastic: "My daughter is divorced, and it is too late to please me." Her mother-in-law was not angry, so she put it on.

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Yan Ping said that she and her husband have been married for 22 years, and her mother-in-law has always regarded her as an outsider. After her sister-in-law's divorce, this sudden courtship made her feel very uncomfortable. She always felt that there was a knife hidden in her mother-in-law's smile.

She is a person with clear grievances, which can be seen from her not prejudicing her sister-in-law because of her mother-in-law's attitude. Outsiders say that if her mother-in-law is kind to her at first, Qin Ping's daughter-in-law will at least be filial to her in her later years.

However, due to her mother-in-law's partiality for many years, Qin Ping gradually cooled her heart, so her mother-in-law's ingratiation now seems a bit like a joke to her.

It's easy for anyone to add icing on the cake, but it's the hardest to give charcoal in the snow. When she needed her mother-in-law's help most, her mother-in-law refused again and again and ignored it again and again, which made her no longer expect her mother-in-law's affection.

Now that people are old, it's flattering, and Qin Ping is not stupid. How could she be moved?

In fact, I have seen many such mother-in-law relationships in my life, because my mother-in-law was not good to her daughter-in-law when she was young, and she remembered to make up for it when she was old, but it was always in vain.

The word "mother in law" means "mother in law" and "daughter-in-law". If you want to live in harmony, you should first show due sincerity, don't treat her as a daughter, but at least be a close relative, don't deliberately embarrass her, and help her when she is in trouble.

No one's heart is made of stone. If the mother-in-law is kind to herself and the daughter-in-law naturally understands, then it is natural for the daughter-in-law to be filial when the mother-in-law is old and needs help.