What are the social phobias?

Social phobia is a common psychological disorder, especially among young people. Social phobia can make people avoid social occasions and affect their personal life and career development. Here are some ways to help young people overcome social phobia:

First of all, actively face social occasions. Although you may feel uncomfortable, face it bravely and try to participate in some social activities. You can start with simple things, such as chatting with strangers, and gradually take part in more complicated activities, such as parties and social activities. Accustoming to social occasions helps to gradually overcome social phobia.

Secondly, practice relaxation techniques. Social phobia is often accompanied by anxiety and tension. You can try to learn some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, and gradual muscle relaxation. These skills help to relieve tension and make it easier for people to face social situations.

In addition, seeking professional help is also an effective method. You can consult a psychologist or psychotherapist and receive professional social phobia treatment. Professional treatment programs usually include cognitive behavioral therapy, exposure therapy and drug therapy. With the help of professionals, you can overcome social phobia more quickly.

Finally, we should have a positive attitude and attitude. We should firmly believe that we can overcome social phobia and we can perform well in social situations. We should bravely face our own shortcomings and challenges and constantly improve our ability and self-confidence.

In short, it takes time and effort to overcome social phobia, but as long as we keep a positive attitude and take appropriate measures, we will definitely overcome this obstacle.

First, the root of inferiority and sensitivity is that there is a seed of "I am not good enough" in my heart, and I am afraid that others will think you are not good. If others think you are good, you think you are good; If others think you are not good, you will feel that you are not good, so you will be afraid of other people's negative reactions and comments.

In this way, the choice of whether you are happy or not is given to others. I became passive.

However, even if others say you are not good, are you not good? Does it mean that a fish laughs at a bird that can't swim?

Is it true that you are not good enough?

Whether you are good or not is determined by your own thoughts! Every seed has its own infinite vitality, every life has its own life characteristics, and everyone is a unique and good enough self!

Second, the pain of breaking the misconception that people need to be recognized by others lies in persistent persistence, and they want to maintain their happy feelings by getting love (like, accept and identify with others).

The growth of people is to face the reality and puncture the beautiful and colorful soap bubbles of childhood. Mr. Lu Xun said that a true warrior dares to face the dripping blood and the bleak life. The truth is, you can catch it without other people's approval. The love and recognition of others, I mistakenly thought I could seize it and will never change. It's just a beautiful soap bubble game for children, which will break with a poke and a scratch. So this is just our illusion.

Many of us mistakenly think that as long as I become good enough, more people will like myself. However, this is also a beautiful soap bubble, an illusion. Many people constantly want to climb up, thinking that if they climb up, they will have great achievements, and if they behave well, others will like themselves. However, even if you become the head of the company, even if you become the president and prime minister of the country, you will be told what you have not done well enough.

Who in this world has ever been liked by everyone without being scolded? Has the good man Lei Feng been scolded? Break the illusion that I will be recognized if I do my job well. A great man has made outstanding contributions to the country and mankind, and some people say that he is not good. Even Confucius, Buddha, and Jesus, compassionate beings, all pretend to be good saints, and some people speak ill of them. We believe that if we become better, people will like us and desperately want to be more beautiful, more knowledgeable, earn more money and have more rights and status. However, even if the status is respected as the king, no matter what the king does, he will be scolded by a group of people. As long as you cling to other people's opinions and grasp their approval, you will suffer because of your own ideas.

So, who is responsible for loving and understanding yourself? Example: Carpenter, the queen of American country songs, suffered from anorexia and died of malnutrition because she wanted to lose weight and win the love of fans. Even singers and movie stars have become heartthrobs. However, as long as they don't know that it is their responsibility to love themselves, they insist that they will feel good enough if they grasp the idea that others love themselves. Who can guarantee that others like themselves, and they won't change their minds and like others?

Third, don't care about other people's comments, care about other people's opinions, be afraid of being laughed at by others, and avoid communication nervously. Can you really be free?

You can't sing well ","You don't look good in this color ","You are so stupid, why do you study math ",and so on. Everyone has heard such comments countless times.

While you are sad, have you ever wondered why you should listen to their comments?

We are all pursuing freedom, but are we really free?

When you see the babies playing, most of them are actually free.

They are not afraid of being laughed at, they are not afraid of failure or rejection, they express their feelings most sincerely, they are not afraid to love, and when they see love, they will melt with it.

Other people's interpretation of your motivation is through the filtration of everyone's own values.

So the next time someone tells you that you are good at talking or that you are not good at talking, you can thank them for their feedback.

But remember, whether you are good at speaking has nothing to do with them, because you are fluid, developing and changing, so being good at speaking is not the ultimate you. In the end, you choose to listen to your inner voice, grow in the direction you want, and accept all the places where you have not grown enough for a while.

Never care about anyone's evaluation of us, so you won't unconsciously plant your own beliefs and values. The fluidity, complexity and richness of your life depend on yourself. Dear friends, this is true freedom!

Fourth, transcending inferiority complex is actually a messenger of life and a gift to improve psychological quality. You are not afraid of communication problems to be solved, but you have an inner exploration journey to open your inner potential and miracles through inferiority complex. Awaken our potential and wisdom from the depths of our hearts.

Generally speaking, there are two kinds of life: problem life and intelligent life. Taking the problem as a problem creates a negative side for yourself and falls into the trap of the so-called problem. And even if there is no so-called "problem", if a person does not have the courage to face life, there will be one kind of worry and another kind of worry. Therefore, the so-called "problems" and "dilemmas" in front of us are the gifts to achieve yourself, to achieve the pattern and wisdom in your heart, and to open the wisdom of life. The more you treat the people and things you meet as misfortune, the more you create your own unfortunate life. Because of inertia, psychology and behavior need systematic psychological training and adjustment, and limit their psychological reaction habits layer by layer. Penetrating the current obstacles and entanglements. Experience the freedom and freedom of life. Through layers of mental models. Nothing is a problem. The pain now is actually a step for you to regain your confidence. Everyone is unique. Everything is for us. It is a gift of life to practice our hearts through things. Through this process, we live a comfortable and happy life. If a person is not confident, he can't display his ambition. He is stuck in his own restrictive beliefs, solves his inferiority complex through psychological counseling, and sorts out his detailed life goals, so that he can find his real life motivation. Find the flash in the psychological mode of seeing others are not good at seeing their own things, and you can see that everything is good for you, beneficial to you, a gift of your life and nourishing you. In this way, you will feel happy and become stronger.

Fifth, the road of soul remodeling. When I was young, I was also a serious mental disorder patient. Experienced obsessive-compulsive disorder (repeated examination, repeated worries about various dangers), social phobia (including sight phobia, corner phobia, blush phobia, avoiding meeting people, nervousness, shaking hands, stuttering, sweating, unnatural urination), anxiety disorder and its physical reactions (migraine, dizziness, insomnia, etc.). Think back to an experience I had in high school more than 20 years ago: I felt inferior and became extremely sensitive. It was the ten-minute recess in high school. When several students were talking and chatting in a circle, I thought they were speaking ill of me. When several students were telling jokes together, I thought they were laughing at me. I feel cold in class, because I feel someone poking me in the back and saying that I can't study well, I can't play and I can't do anything. If anyone makes a noise, they think it's intentional and have a problem with me. Now I understand that I am actually too sensitive because of my inferiority complex. I thought my sensitive schizophrenia was the same at that time. I'm afraid I can't pass the college entrance examination. As a result, I was dizzy in the examination room and my mind was blank. I want to go to three high schools and take the college entrance examination three times. When I was in college, I was afraid to say the wrong thing to anyone. I am afraid of being laughed at. I blush, sweat, tremble and stutter when I speak. In order to save myself, after ten years of uninterrupted self-analysis and experience, I studied psychotherapy deeply, cleaned up my mental trauma bit by bit and repaired my personality defects. There are disappointments, repetitions and abandonment in this process. Fortunately, I have always insisted on saving myself in despair. After years of self-repair, I finally changed my face, smoothed my past complex and defined my life orientation. Now I am comfortable and serene, and I have completely recovered. If you want to integrate into the vast sea of people, you must learn to adjust your mentality. No matter how impetuous the world is, as long as you love yourself unconditionally and accept yourself, you will not be blind and arrogant, nor will you feel inferior.