What makes a long-married woman sad to see the video of "a woman driving to her parents' house to wash clothes"?

Because I choose to marry far away, I have little time to take care of my parents, plus I am a little busy at work, or I need to take care of my husband's family. Sometimes I don't call my parents for half a year. Your position or influence in this family will become more and more marginalized with your long marriage.

Then if you want to go back to your mother's house safely, you must have money, drive a luxury car back to your mother's house, and don't be stingy with your nieces and nephews. Buy toys if you want them, and give them red envelopes if you want them. Also, be sure to give parents or brothers and sisters-in-law red envelopes. This is what makes you confident.

You can go back to your parents' house if you want.

Settle down at home, arrange the time, and go back with the plane ticket or plane ticket.

If you need confidence to go back to your mother's house, what does that mean? I dare not tell my in-laws or husband that I want to go back. I am afraid to leave because I am short of money and have no travel expenses. What else does it mean? I don't know if my family welcomes me, and I don't know if it is necessary to go home.

People with low self-esteem, people who are not self-reliant, people who rely on their in-laws, and people who can't get enough love from their parents and families will always say that marriage is long. The most essential thing is that you are not independent enough and have insufficient knowledge of yourself. This question is not so much about the confidence to return to my parents' home, but actually about the confidence to do what I want to do.

You must have a goal, you must achieve something, your back is hard, and you have the confidence to do everything well. It's a piece of cake to marry far away and marry near, and it's natural to go wherever you want.

A woman's confidence in returning to her family after marrying someone else comes from the following aspects: First, a woman who is not married at home is a good girl that everyone likes. Make good relations with parents, brothers, sisters and aunts, leave a good impression on neighbors and villagers, and make people reluctant to leave you; Then you have a good man. This man is a man who loves you and loves you, a man who can make you happy, and a man who can entrust your life to your hard work and ability. There is also that I am a capable and financially independent person; Another is to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and family and the world. Regardless of adults and children, they treat each other with courtesy, do not please others, do not play tricks on others, are not stingy, are charitable, do things in advance, and benefit others for their own benefit.

When you return to your parents' home after a long marriage, you must have an economic foundation. Every time I go back to my parents' house, I must give them money, buy them clothes, buy some supplements and give them gifts ... I must also give my parents' uncles some red envelopes, cigarettes and alcohol, as well as young people's red envelopes and snacks. It doesn't matter if the conditions are good, but when I am old and young, I really dare not go back, for fear that others will laugh. Of course, parents always welcome you back, and parents are always the people who care about us the most.

As the saying goes, prostitutes are relatives. Having said that, if you marry someone far away, it's not easy to go back to your mother's house. Whether you have confidence or not, relatives will always be relatives. Parents always want their daughters to visit them often.

Speaking of going home, people in modern society are influenced by utilitarianism, so it is unnecessary to go home in fear. Family is always more precious than money. No matter where you get married, it is a gift for your daughter to visit her family. If you can, you can buy more gifts for your parents. If not, you can buy less, and your parents will not care. As for the eyes, opinions and even gossip of other people in the village, there is absolutely no need to care. After all, I went back to my parents' house to see my parents, not my neighbors. Being yourself is fundamental and has nothing to do with others. Don't live in other people's eyes and language, family happiness is true.