How irrational were the fathers in the Song Dynasty, from "choosing" husbands under the list to "catching" husbands under the list?

It can be said that on the day when Jinshi opened the list, nine of the ten people on the list were "famous flowers taken", and then they would be surrounded by those "old husbands" around them, and the rest either had wives or had already decided. This is song's father-in-law

As Wang Anshi said: "Only I remember my trip to gold, and red clothes compete for green clothes" is a description of this phenomenon. These girls are probably in the red skirt, and Lang in the green skirt is these successful Jinshi.

Because the Song Dynasty broke the previous gate and valve system, it became a road to the success of these people. More than 90% of the officials in the imperial court are from scientific research. This makes these bureaucrats, landlords and tycoons put all this on these nouveau riche in order to maintain the prosperity of their families.

But the problem is that there are not many new scholars, and everyone wants to grab them, but they can't be owned by everyone at all, which leads to the phenomenon of "chasing men" in the Song Dynasty, that is, women chasing men.

In order to get these rich husbands, the old husbands can be said to have tried their best. They don't want any dowry, but they want to give it to these son-in-law, and they are quite generous.

But even so, it is not enough, which makes these people hot. Even later, these crazy grandfathers even used extreme measure to compete for these sons-in-law. At that time, there was a joke:

An "old father-in-law" finally "invited" a new rich man to his home and proposed marriage directly at the same time. However, the new rich man gently replied: it is naturally a good thing to climb high, but I have to go back and ask my wife what she thinks about this matter and see if she agrees or not.