Yu Yuexian's sadness: The neighbors looked down on her, and the whole family prevented her from going to school, saving her brother's life.

On August 9, 20021year, a news began to spread rapidly on the internet.

Yu Yuexian, the actor who plays Xie Dajiao in "Country Love", unfortunately collided with two camels during filming in Inner Mongolia and died after being rescued.

Now that the Sri Lankan people have gone, it turns out that taking stock of Yu Yuexian's life is a sad account, which makes people sigh.

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More people's impression of Yu Yuexian is still stuck in the role of "Xie Dajiao". Xie Dajiao is a sincere, enthusiastic, provocative and capable role created by Yu Yuexian in real life.

But no one knows that the reason for developing this character is her childhood as crazy as grass.

Every girl comes into this world to be her father's little cotton-padded jacket, but in Yu Yuexian's world, she will always be the grass in her father's heart, or a squeezed but growing weed.

Yu Yuexian talked about her miserable childhood on TV talk shows more than once. Speaking of her father's supercilious look and her mother's forbearance, she always burst into tears.

The birth of all children should be welcomed and blessed, but Yu Yuexian, the first child in this family, did not enjoy the welcome and care that the first child in an ordinary family should receive.

From the beginning of being sensible, Yu Yuexian got the most information from his father's supercilious look and abuse, and his neighbors' ridicule and neglect, all because he was a girl.

She likes dancing and singing since she was a child, but every time her father sees her singing and dancing, he rolls his eyes at her, scolds her and even beats her.

At this time, my mother will quietly shrink aside, afraid to speak for her, or even dare to stop my father, otherwise, even my mother will be scolded.

Especially when the mother gave birth to three daughters in succession, the father was more cruel to them, and his attitude towards them, together with some people in the village, began to bully them.

Yu Yuexian said that she and her sister were often poked on their foreheads by their leaders, and at the same time, they said bitterly, "Let you be a girl" and poked her and her sisters back to an angle that they could not rely on. This phenomenon didn't improve slightly until their younger brother was born.

As the eldest in the family, the following two are sisters, and the only boy and brother in the family are young, so the family has always regarded her as a son.

School ends at 6 o'clock every day, and my father stipulates that I must get home at 6: 30. If I exceed this time, I will be scolded by my father.

After returning home, the main tasks are to do housework: chop chicken food, dig chicken manure, pick up eggs and cook. Besides, Yu Yuexian has been able to share some needlework at home, such as sewing quilts and cotton-padded jackets.

In fact, it's not that the family wants to treat her as a son, but that Yu Yuexian has always had a knot in his heart.

The idea that parents, family and neighbors prefer sons to daughters made her determined to prove that a daughter is not worse than her son, so she regarded herself as her parents' son in her heart.

This knot accompanied Yu Yuexian all her life until her father died. Even after his death, she tried to prove the equality between men and women.

The humiliation and contempt of childhood made Yu Yuexian precocious and became the head of the family at an early age, responsible for cooking for a large family. /kloc-started to earn money to support his family at the age of 0/7.

These childhood experiences made Yu Yuexian strong, independent and indomitable.

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At that time, Yu Yuexian admired her cousin Ma Lijuan most. She could play the piano, sing and dance according to her wishes and dreams.

Yu Yuexian, who likes singing and dancing, also wanted to enter an art school, but she finally obeyed her father's wishes and became an iron rice bowl teacher after graduating from a vocational school, but she never gave up her dream.

1992, Yu Yuexian decided to enter the Central Academy of Drama.

Unexpectedly, the biggest resistance came from home, and the whole family opposed her taking the college entrance examination again.

My family thinks that I have been a teacher for five years, which is not only stable, but also has two holidays every year.

It's incredible that a girl shows her face in literature and art, and then gives up her teacher's stable job for this dream of four or five years old.

The key is to be admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, which can be admitted by ordinary people like Yu Yuexian. Stop daydreaming and embarrass the whole family.

To this end, the family also held a special family meeting. At the meeting, grandpa actually said that if so, she would take back her surname and let her get out of the house.

What's even more incredible is that when my father came home from a family meeting at grandpa's house, he slapped Yu Yuexian in the face, which made Yu Yuexian see stars dizzy and tinnitus.

It's not over yet. My father then kicked Yu Yuexian out, and Yu Yuexian was kicked to the ground, unable to breathe for a long time.

When she finally got up from the ground, she didn't shed a tear in front of her father, but ran out of the house quickly.

It was already late at night, and Yu Yuexian was riding a bicycle and speeding aimlessly in the boundless darkness of the city.

She didn't know where she was going, and there was no one behind her to comfort her.

In the dark city streets in the middle of the night, lonely Yu Yuexian finally couldn't help crying by bike.

When the stunned host asked her, did you hate your father so much that you even played and kicked?

Yu Yuexian's answer is sad: I'm used to it!

In the end, Yu Yuexian stubbornly took the exam, which surprised everyone.

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When Yu Yuexian heard from her mother that she was not only admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, but also the director of the Academic Affairs Office and the director of the Admissions Office of the Central Academy of Drama actually took the train, not far from Wan Li, and personally came to the northeast to pick her up and go to Beijing to go to school.

It is estimated that many people will wonder: Why did the Central Academy of Drama send such two heavyweights not far from Wan Li to personally pick up Yu Yuexian for school?

Yu Yuexian, who dared to venture and fight, missed the preliminary examination of the Central Academy of Drama because he was late for the exam. In desperation, she broke into the second examination room directly.

At that time, the examiner asked Yu Yuexian why she broke into the examination room, and she directly told the examiner all the difficulties she faced at that time.

Later, it was not known how the examiner operated, but Yu Yuexian, who didn't take the usual route, was granted special permission to continue taking the exam, which made it possible for him to be admitted to the Central Academy of Drama that year.

Yu Yuexian's parents took out a paper bag containing a pile of money.

Parents told Yu Yuexian that this is her tuition for the next six months, which is partly saved by her parents and partly borrowed. In the future, she will have to earn all her tuition and living expenses.

With half a year's tuition, Yu Yuexian finally got his wish, entered the coveted Central Academy of Drama and started his new life.

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Walking into the campus, Yu Yuexian gained his love and his ideal. Here, she met her later husband, Zhang Xuesong.

At this time, her parents' attitude towards her changed. Even once, when my father heard that his daughter was unwell on the phone, he immediately set out and rushed to Beijing from Inner Mongolia to see her.

Everything is developing in a good direction, and Yu Yuexian thinks that life is full of flowers and sweetness from now on.

Who knows, when my brother was 8 years old, he suddenly got a very rare disease, scoliosis. In order to treat the disease, his family's economy soon got into trouble.

Yu Yuexian's family condition is very poor, which is the worst among all relatives.

Yu Yuexian clearly remembers that when he was not admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, his father took his younger brother to see a doctor and took all the money in the family, leaving his penniless mother and three daughters.

In order to make a living, my mother had to sell a leather coat with missing sleeves and get 30 yuan money.

So, mother and daughter have a radish meal, a radish slice and even radish soup every day.

Although Yu Yuexian of the Rotary Army tried to make various patterns on radishes, after a long time, he cooked radishes on the kitchen table every day. When the meal is ready, Yu Yuexian has had enough smell and lost his appetite.

But she was afraid to let her mother see it, so she had to find an excuse to avoid the table.

Many years later, Yu Yuexian said in a talk show that when he saw radish, he would start to feel queasy.

With the growth of age, my brother's condition developed rapidly, and his spine soon reached the level of 174 degree lateral curvature, constantly bearing the squeezed internal organs, which was in danger of rupture at any time, endangering his life.

This killed Yu Yuexian's whole family. When my younger brother was born, my father named this long-awaited son Tiger Mouth Ben. The meaning goes without saying that the son is the lifeblood of the whole family.

Every time Yu Yuexian hears his father's words when he is exhausted: Oh, if you can't do it, you will die. She will feel infinite sadness in her heart.

Facing his father's sigh and even giving up, Yu Yuexian, who is 12 years older than his younger brother, once again shouldered all the burdens. With the support of her husband, she began to seek medical advice for her brother everywhere.

Many things happen. When the younger brother 18 years old, the couple finally found a doctor in Nanjing, and let the younger brother see the hope of living.

But the doctor's words made her fall into despair again: now it is 174 degrees, and our biggest is 128 degrees. This is too difficult, and the patient has to bear the risk that he may not be able to get off the operating table.

But if we don't operate now, the patient will be paraplegic in two years until he loses his life.

Faced with the choice between life and death, the brother and sister decided to flip a coin to decide whether to have an operation.

Yu Yuexian said to his younger brother, I bet you, you bet your life, and I bet your life. If the operation is successful, even if you are disabled, my sister will support you and take care of you for life.

While gambling on fate and life, Yu Yuexian and her husband made another important decision in their lives: instead of having their own children, they raised their younger brother as their own son.

My brother had three operations, and Yu Yuexian went all out, from the expense to the care. Finally, he pulled his brother back from death.

Now my younger brother Yu Yingjie is a member of Benshan Media, and has got married and started a family.

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In 2008, my father was diagnosed with a disease called pulmonary fibrosis while my brother's condition was still unknown. Yu Yuexian left no stone unturned. Although the doctor claimed that his father with only three years' life had persisted for 10 years, he still failed to save his father.

My father's only wish before his death was to return to his native land. At that time, my brother was ill and kept it from his mother. When the three sisters sent their father back to their hometown, many people in the village looked at their sisters with a patriarchal attitude.

At the scene of "Look Who's Coming" on Tianjin Satellite TV, Yu Yuexian proudly said that she handled her father's funeral properly. She just wants to let those relatives and neighbors who prefer sons to daughters know that daughters can carry things at critical moments, and it is also useful for fathers to have daughters.

This year, there is a tearful movie "My Sister", in which Zhu Yuanyuan plays her sister, which is impressive.

Like Zhu Yuanyuan's sister, Yu Yuexian, the protagonist of this article, interprets the ethical family relationship that blood is thicker than water with her constant efforts regardless of return.

Until a few decades later, the idea that parents and neighbors prefer sons to daughters still deeply stimulated Yu Yuexian's sensitive nerves.

That I always want to use my own competitiveness to break this old concept, instead of fighting like a new generation of sisters and going to live high.

It's just embarrassing that when life just started to smile at her, she left the world where she just enjoyed a good life forever because of an unexpected car accident.

Playing the oldest rural love, but helplessly bearing the most fashionable Dink marriage, the real version of her sister Ding Yuexian shuttles between heaven and hell every day, recording her own sad account.