You always meet people, but you are not good enough.

Be the best you can be, and you will meet the best others.

On the Zhihu, I saw someone ask, "What kind of experience is it to meet uncomfortable people often?"

Some netizens replied:

"People in my life, who haven't met a few scum. But you often meet bad people, so you should reflect on yourself.

To a great extent, we have created our own experiences. You will see who you are. "

Wake up the dreamer in one word.

In life, travelers are in a hurry.

Sometimes it's not that we can't meet a better person, but that we can't be that better self.

0 1

When you are weak, you encounter the most "bad guys".

I came home from work two days ago and saw my wife talking on the phone for more than an hour.

From the intermittent sobbing on the mobile phone, I can guess that it is my wife's distant cousin Peach who is complaining to her again.

And there is only one reason: failure in love.

Because the marriageable age has passed, the wedding event has been put on the agenda.

However, regardless of free love or blind date, peaches are very picky and never have a good ending.

This time, I finally met a suitable person, complaining that boys are not considerate enough and angry about boys fooling around.

There is a joke on the Internet:

"Do you want to know what you really look like in this world? Look at the blind date introduced to you by others. "

There are so many excellent people in this world, sometimes it's not that we can't meet them, but that we are not qualified to walk side by side with them.

Because of academic laziness, Taozi failed to enter the university. Her family has found her several jobs, but none of them can persist. The circle of life is only fixed in that small town in her hometown.

She has been fantasizing about the love between the prince and Cinderella.

Unfortunately, she doesn't understand that Cinderella's father is a duke. She is not only beautiful and kind, but also good at singing and dancing.

The premise for Prince Charming to fall in love with Cinderella is that you are good enough.

When "Ode to Joy" was broadcast, Qiu Yingying's boyfriend Qin Ying was once scolded for hot search.

Not only because of his cynicism about Qiu Yingying's "non-virgin", but more importantly, he has a fiancee, and he will continue to entangle with Qiu Yingying.

Before that, Qiu Yingying had just come out of the shadow of her last lying bastard boyfriend.

Unlike Qiu Yingying, who has always attracted love rat, she is also a woman:

Smart Andy, surrounded by countless young talents;

Qu Xiaoyu, who is well-off, alert and brave, is enjoying love happily;

Fan Meisheng, a self-reliant Fung Wong-Nui, has never been rejected by Wang Baichuan;

No man will look down on this sensible girl, even if she looks ordinary. ......

In fact, there is only one source of all Qiu Yingying's misfortunes, and that is her "weakness": she doesn't work hard, she doesn't change, and she just cries.

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. If you work hard, everything will be fine.

I can't find a good partner, a good job and no good friends. Maybe it's just because you're not good enough.

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Mismatch is the worst experience.

There is such a passage in Jane Eyre:

"The relationship between people is a game, and we must always be evenly matched with each other, so that we can rely on each other for a long time."

Whether it is friendship or love, the most important keyword is: matching.

Bi Shumin mentioned such a story in his book Let Beauty Happen Now.

A middle-aged woman experienced three failed marriages while seeking psychological counseling.

When Bi Shumin asked her about the specific situation, she said:

The first husband was a big man, a school grass, and later became the boss's bodyguard and a decent man.

Apart from her looks, she is not bad. "She has no education, no brains and no good job." .

The final outcome is that her husband cheated on her and broke up with her in front of Xiaosan.

The second husband, she found a second married man with a successful career and children, but the good times did not last long. Because of the children's problems, conflicts broke out and ended in divorce.

In the third marriage, she learned the lessons from the previous two times and found a man who was inferior to her no matter what the conditions were, but the final result was to invite a Lafayette to her home. The man is lazy and tired, and has consumed all her savings.

Three mismatched marriages, no matter who doesn't deserve it, are a disaster.

The economist Ariely has a famous saying:

"The relationship between people is a game of precise matching, and the most important thing is to be right."

The surest way to get something is to make yourself worthy of it first.

"Wujiang Yinwenzao, Changle Xie Wanying, must be together forever."

The epitaph of Bing Xin and Wu Wenzao has always touched us.

But few people know that Wu Wenzao, a poor student with a poor family and ordinary looks, fell in love with Bing Xin at first sight, which is not a good match.

When Wu Wenzao and Bing Xin met on a ship studying abroad, Bing Xin had published a collection of poems, Stars. She was a famous female writer.

It is difficult for two people with very different status to get together.

At first, the communication between Bing Xin and Wu Wenzao was superficial, not even friends.

At that time, Wu Wenzao did not flatter deliberately, and he never thought that Bing Xin would be his lifelong companion. The only thing he does is to study hard.

Bing Xin wrote in My Wife Wu Wenzao that she had never even heard the names of some books recommended to her by Wu Wenzao.

Gradually, from two strange passengers on the journey, they gradually became bosom friends on the university campus and finally gradually entered the marriage hall.

Whether it is love or friendship, the best state is evenly matched and attracted to each other.

Only when you are excellent will someone naturally like you and appreciate you.

03

Only by being the best you can you meet the best people.

Douban's 9.3-point Korean drama "Unborn" once burst into a circle of friends.

Zhang Kelai, the leading actor, studied Go from childhood. Before the college entrance examination, his family suddenly changed. He had to give up applying for the University Chess Academy, and joined a trading company through contacts, starting as an intern.

He tried to get on well with everyone, but it backfired.

On one occasion, the company sent all interns to clean up the dirty freight scene.

Halfway through, the superior suddenly called to cancel the work and invited everyone to dinner.

However, Zhang Kelai's colleagues really met with a deliberate failure to inform him.

It was not until everyone left by car that the director who came to lock the door found that Zhang Ke was still cleaning.

After learning the news, Zhang Ke hurried to the place to eat without changing clothes.

Just in the eyes of so-called colleagues and friends, sour Zhang Kelai is just a joke:

"Why don't you wash it? Do you want salted fish? "

These people who laugh at Zhang Kelai are not so outstanding in the company, but find a sense of gap in Zhang Ke.

At this time, you may complain about meeting someone.

But Zhang Ke came to bite the bullet and strive to improve his working ability without a complaint.

People with ability can shine everywhere.

Although he didn't get the chance to become a full member in the end, he was smart and willing to work, and met the noble people in his life.

At the end of this series, he set up a new company with Wu Kechang, who left his job, and began to make great achievements in his career.

San Mao said:

"It is not a bad thing to learn to dominate your own life, even if you are a person. You won't feel sorry for yourself, you won't feel inferior, you won't complain. Come day by day, step by step. The joy and inevitable arrival of a bright future lies in our practice. "

If he doesn't make progress, Zhang Kelai will only be surrounded by friends who make fun of him, and he will never get the friendship of Wu Kechang, who made him leap forward in life.

There is a popular saying in Weibo: "I struggled for eighteen years to sit with you and have coffee."

Only by being the best you can you meet the best people.

Someone asked: Why work hard?

I like this answer very much:

"Everything I like is very expensive, the places I want to go are far away, and the people I love are perfect."

Your good fortune is hidden in your strength, in your unknown efforts.

When you are strong, the whole world will treat you well.