What does the mother-in-law mean when she tells her pregnant daughter-in-law that she can't cook?

I wonder what my daughter-in-law thinks when she asks this question. Personally, I don't think it is necessary to think too much. My mother-in-law said this sentence will not have any special meaning, just stating the facts.

First of all, we must accept the fact that not every woman can cook, and not every woman is good at cooking and can cook delicious meals. I have several sisters around me who never go into the kitchen or cook. However, this is the way of the world. Blessed people can meet complementary lovers, and it is normal for husbands to cook at home and bear three meals a day.

Mother-in-law can't say that she can't cook, she can only eat, especially cooking. It's really not delicious, and she loses her appetite. She is well aware of this. When she lives in my house, she won't take the initiative to cook unless she has to, but when I get home from work, she will wash and cut the dishes and fry them. When my sister-in-law was one month old, her mother-in-law was always there to help take care of her. It was really unfair to eat. Only on weekends do I cook for her illness.

There is nothing I can do about it. It's not that my mother-in-law doesn't want to cook well. She is just not good at it, but she also has her own strengths. She can keep the house clean and tidy, and she is also very capable of working. Being a doctor, she is still working in her seventies. Everyone has his own strengths. When he sees the strengths and weaknesses of others, he accepts them. He cannot ask others with his own expectations.

Second, it's a good thing that my mother-in-law admits that she can't cook, and that my daughter-in-law can make good food arrangements during confinement in advance, so as not to be in a hurry. No matter how capable a woman is, she still needs someone to take care of her and help her cook for a while after giving birth. If she hopes for her mother-in-law, she is embarrassed to say that she can't cook or cook well, eat badly and maintain badly, and she will suffer. If the mother-in-law explains that she can't cook, she can arrange it in advance, or ask her mother for help, or ask a new moon, a nanny, or order a moon meal separately outside. There is always a way to get ready in advance, and then everything will be in order and she can have a good rest.

As for the mother-in-law, although she can't cook, if she needs help, she can do some other housework, such as cleaning, washing clothes, shopping and taking care of the children.

Third, it seems that the daughter-in-law generally feels that the mother-in-law has the obligation and responsibility to take care of her daughter-in-law's pregnancy and confinement, but I can't accept this idea. I think my parents-in-law, myself and my husband belong to two independent small families, and they are close relatives from the perspective of blood relationship and extended family. It is natural to take care of each other. However, when parents and in-laws are raising children, it should be said that they have fulfilled their basic obligations and responsibilities. As children, they should not make demands on their elders. We should be grateful to our elders for helping us, but if we can't help, we shouldn't have any dissatisfaction and complaints.

When her mother-in-law tells her pregnant daughter-in-law that she can't cook, she must first understand her mother-in-law's thoughts. Most mothers-in-law are very much looking forward to the birth of their grandchildren and are very willing to take care of their daughters-in-law and grandchildren, but they can't cook. During pregnancy, I think my daughter-in-law should be able to cook for herself. If they can't do it, they should be done by their husbands or hire nannies. Just make preparations in advance and arrange their diet during the second month.

Of course, it does not rule out that some mother-in-law just don't want to take care of their daughter-in-law, so there is no need to complain. Of course, mother-in-law can have her own life and choices. If she doesn't want to, it's no use being angry and unhappy, and it's no use pushing her. On the contrary, what's the point if everyone is unhappy?

In short, if you have a calm heart, you can be harmonious and happy with each other when you encounter any problems and solve any problems!