What's it like to remarry?

Bitter, sweet and sour are still in each other. A friend married his wife at the age of 23, and his wife died unexpectedly at the age of 25. The child was only eight months old when his wife died.

Three years later, he got married again. Before he got married again, he was advised that it was the best policy to find someone who had never been married, the middle policy to find someone whose husband died or divorced without children, and the worst policy to find someone who had divorced with children.

His idea is quite right. He has seen other people's reality. He said, find someone who has never been married and has no children, and I will always owe them. We have children, the family relationship of our half-children, and she is not sure about me and my ex-wife's children. Relationships are even more worrying. When I get angry, I say that I lost money by marrying me, and I will always listen to her complaints. They don't want this. You'd better find someone who also takes care of the children. Nobody owes anyone, they are equal to each other. Just treat both children as children.

He did it, but the reality is different from his kindness. The wife divorced and had two boys, one for the man and the other for the woman. His wife is still an only child, and she has to give her parents-in-law living expenses every month. Their respective children are raised by grandparents. The woman's children are three years older than his children, and they are all boys. However, girls' boys didn't study well, so they were bewitched by society to make money before graduating from junior high school, telling them about "jumping prices" and so on, and the money didn't earn puppy love. He is the eldest son of three brothers, and he is still very nice. Before he was thirty, he became the grass-roots leader of the enterprise. The construction industry has worked hard all the year round, but he never imagined that his wife would be unfaithful to a school logistics person. He is a real person, and his wife introduced him that her lover is her hometown and has a little cousin relationship with him. When people go home, he is delicious and entertaining, so he doesn't think about it. Three years later, he found out that he had been smoking on the sofa all night that night.

It's not that he doesn't want a divorce, but that his ex-wife died and now he's divorced. What do outsiders think? In addition, his parents arranged his first marriage. Now his children's parents are with him. The divorce hit his parents hard. After the divorce, his parents will definitely help him find another job. If the younger brothers say nothing, will the sisters-in-law feel that their parents are partial to him, embarrass their parents and weigh him repeatedly?

His wife, father and mother all died. As the only son-in-law, he naturally assumed the responsibility of his son.

His wife's son insisted on getting married because he was too young at the age of 20 to have a job. He repeatedly explained that the child wouldn't listen. He said, "If you get married, I will divorce your mother!" " ! Then he went on business. When he came back, the child didn't mention it, and neither did his wife. He thought the matter was settled in the past. But three days later, the child brought his girlfriend. Without saying a few words, the child knelt down and said, "Dad, I want to get married. Please help me." This sudden situation made him stunned and leaned his head on the sofa for a long time. He thinks that if he is his biological father, he can say everything, but he is his stepfather. If he stubbornly refuses to agree, in case of double suicide, he will skip Mount Tai and Huashan, so there is no explanation. Thinking of this, he said, get up and say when to get married? Wan never expected to give him 16 days, because it was the birthday of Guanyin Bodhisattva, and the Bodhisattva would bless him.

At that time, his wife was laid off, and the monthly living expenses of 130 yuan were abnormal. He borrowed money from abroad and his mother's house, and finally married the child. On his wedding night, he felt relieved and drank some beer in the park, but he lay down for a week from the next day and lost an angry tooth.

At that time, a friend suggested to him to find the father of the child if he had no money, but he stubbornly said: "The father of the child and his mother divorced, and the child belongs to his mother, which is my son. I will do my best. If the child wants to find a biological father, it is a child's business, even his mother can understand, but I will not find it. " As a result, he paid off his child's three-year marriage. This is not the end. After the child got married, he told him not to have children for the time being, but he got pregnant and gave birth to a boy. After a year, he divorced and his grandson was left unattended, so he and his wife had to take care of him. I have taken care of him 19 years now.

But he also has a son who always complains that he is not good to his son and favors his younger brother. After seven years of hard work, his son finally understood his father. After ups and downs, the child has grown up and matured, and it is ok now.

What's it like to remarry? Be rational, be patient, pay a little, shed a little tears, even if your heart is bleeding, you must climb forward!

More than 50 years old, think about the pain of second marriage. Hey! As a person, bitter wisdom slowly devours itself.

My ex-wife divorced me more than twenty years ago. One for each of the two boys (I didn't know until twenty years later). At the time of the trial, my only condition was that my two children were raised by me (the eldest son was nine years old and the second son was three years old). There was no verdict in court, and it was decided in about ten days. My parents accepted the verdict and I worked outside.

I met my present wife when I was working outside. I was introduced to her one year after my divorce. The wife is very good, because the ex-husband divorced because of domestic violence, and a daughter was raised by the man. My wife is fine. I work together to earn money, and I keep all my salary. Someone who really followed me through the hard life.

My family gave money to my parents. She never talked about me, because my family is in the countryside and there are still a few acres of land, so I want to give my parents money to harvest wheat and plow the fields to plant autumn. Besides, we have a younger son. My wife does more than her stepmother should.

Now I know that in the ten years after the divorce, my parents have been imagining that my ex-wife will come back to remarry with me, so they have been dissatisfied with us. One year during the Spring Festival, we took our children and bought chicken, duck, fish and fish to go back for the Spring Festival, but our parents actually kept us out of the village. No way, we returned to the rental house 500 miles away in 29 years.

The youngest son followed us to go to school in other places until it was time to go to middle school. Without a local hukou, he was forced to send his youngest son back to his hometown to go to school. My parents still won't let us in.

When the eldest son gets married and has children, we pay for everything, but the eldest son has the biggest contradiction with us. We build a new house at home, and our parents greet us at home. But parents said in front of their children that they built the house! Parents don't want to think: I pay the living expenses of my family every month, and the investment in land is mine. We have a meal at home outside, and the saved vegetables cost more than 20 thousand yuan to build a house, but I personally gave my parents 70 thousand yuan to build a house, which does not include the money for future decoration. Building houses in rural areas is less than100000.

My wife never said anything about me. She regards this home as her own.

We are also in our fifties, still working outside, and my wife is still suffering with me. These years, I still can't go home. The eldest son is old, works in the city and goes back every Spring Festival. There were six Spring Festival, and my eldest son hit me. Now I'm afraid of the Spring Festival.

My father died in 19 18. I personally organized my father's funeral. My father was in the hospital for three days because of cerebral hemorrhage. I went back that night. After seeing off his father, the eldest son paid his grandfather a thousand yuan for hospitalization and asked me to come over.

After my father left, we quit our jobs and went home to take care of our old mother. But my mother scolds me at home all day, scolds me every day, scolds me all the time, and scolds me even when her lips are blue! I still don't like my wife! Still want us out!

Oh, my God, my mother! Your ex-daughter-in-law won't come back, she's married and reorganized her family! What happened to your daughter-in-law? Did she fail to cook for you? Your son is a big official? Is it a rich man? Your daughter-in-law is honest now, don't bully honest people! We worked hard to raise our second son, and only last year did we know that our second son was his mother! Has she seen the child once? Have you ever received a living allowance?

In a situation like this, there are many things, big and small. As a son, I made a mistake. As a daughter-in-law, my wife did a good job! She never cared! But how long have we been wandering outside?

For a second-married family, as long as they fulfill their responsibilities, their wives and parents score 120, and their parents score 80. The same is true for the woman. Treat each other's children equally! The hardest thing is men!

It's just a second marriage or a first marriage. If you manage badly, you will not be in a good mood.

Married for the second time, and now life is very happy. He took a boy, but I didn't. After marriage, we have a son and a daughter together, and the family is very harmonious. My husband has nothing to say to my parents, and he is very filial. I didn't say anything to my in-laws, and I was very filial.

Why did you get divorced the first time you got married? To put it bluntly, two people have different personalities, and they often quarrel, and they quarrel inexplicably. I asked him why he didn't do it before marriage. He said: Daughter-in-law is still married, and she is still carrying it home. Are you tired? After listening to his words, I felt uncomfortable in an instant. I said that even if you can pretend for a lifetime, I will live with you, and he won't do it until you get divorced. Maybe a leopard cannot change his spots.

Before marriage, I solemnly asked my husband, is it the same after marriage as before marriage? If not, I would have said so long ago, so as not to divorce again in the future. I can't afford to lose it. He said: Don't worry, you before marriage and you after marriage will never change.

That's it. I believe he married him. Unexpectedly, after marriage, he changed, not worse, but better than before. Sometimes I wonder what kind of luck made me meet him

Therefore, it is very important to meet the right person and have a happy marriage. However, a happy marriage also needs two people to run it well together.

Finally, I wish you a happy marriage.

This is our present family of four, very happy.

At present, the divorce rate remains high, especially after the epidemic, there are retaliatory divorces in some places, and more and more people are divorced, and more and more people will get a second marriage.

The difference between second marriage and first marriage.

First, the mentality problem.

No matter men or women, the second marriage is always beautiful, ignorant and yearning, and there is no expectation of the first marriage. Second marriage is more like a sad guest who sees through the world of mortals. The second marriage is more about getting married, instead of falling in love as patiently as the first marriage, finding a suitable person and living a plain life, just like a piece of painted paper. In many cases, it will not be displayed for a long time, unless there is strong courage, but it can be like this.

Second, the stumbling in real life

A strange phenomenon may appear in the second marriage. People who have no children and are eager to catch the last bus and want to have children of their own quickly often make another mistake. If they have children, they begin to think for each other. After all, they are not biological, and many of them are inextricably linked with their ex-wives. In short, things are getting more and more complicated. There seems to be no better life except material connection and emotional turmoil.

Of course, many things have probability problems, just like not every couple will divorce, and the second marriage has always been good.

A sister, at the age of 35, met her 28-year-old husband, always thinking that it would not last long, because her husband was young and rich, and she brought a boy, but she was extremely happy after marriage. The man said, although you are older than me, I like my life now. There is no quarrel, there is delicious food at home, and the home is spotless, which is enough for me.

Many times, people put too much effort into marriage. In fact, marriage is sometimes very simple, with three meals a day for one person. If you want too much in marriage, you will lose it too quickly. Now, marriage is like a moth to a fire. After falling in love, only your body will die. Many people are impetuous and can't accept an ordinary marriage. Many people forget their responsibilities in marriage. Men can't take responsibility, and women can't wash their hands and make soup willingly. How can such a marriage be happy?

In fact, there is no such thing as second marriage and first marriage. Well managed, everyone is happy.

The taste of second marriage is mixed feelings, mixed feelings

As the saying goes, marriage is because of mistakes, and separation is because of understanding. Many people eventually parted ways because of poor marriage management. Most people think they can meet better people after divorce, but they don't know that most people who have been married twice are mostly incomplete. Sometimes, the second marriage is not even as good as the first marriage. After all, marriage is like drinking water. What does it feel like?

First of all, it is reflected in emotions!

First marriage, young, affectionate, affectionate and interested. Most of them combine because of their feelings, put their feelings first, treat each other wholeheartedly, and have many dreams about the beauty of marriage.

Second marriage, experienced a failed marriage, the feelings have been scarred and the age is very mature. I am relatively rational about feelings, no longer believe in pure love, and the conditions for entering marriage are similar. Two people live together.

Because I experienced a failed marriage, I summed up the experience of the last marriage and was afraid of failing again. Therefore, people generally know how to take care of each other's feelings after marriage, unlike the first marriage. There is also more concern for everything. If you understand each other's needs emotionally, you will be more careful to maintain this marriage.

Second, talk about money!

The first marriage, because there is no bad feelings, wholeheartedly for the family, two people think in one place, one place to work hard, just thinking about running a small family well. In order to make the family live a good life, they trust each other in financial management and discuss actions.

Second marriage, after all, experienced a failed marriage, both sides will have some selfish plans, mostly for their own consideration, and calculating each other for their own sense of security, often with their own ulterior motives. Without heart-to-heart, it is difficult to achieve the unity of heart and morality.

Finally, in family relations!

First marriage, simple combination of two people, simple family members, love as a lubricant, roll with the punches, roll with the punches, and soon get together. The child is born by himself, and the old people on both sides try to spoil it. The family atmosphere is harmonious and beautiful.

Second marriage, ex-husband's family, ex-husband's children ... the relationship with many people is very complicated. After the divorce, many relatives can't completely cut off contacts. Because of the dissolution of marriage, they can't do it. Now married families and relatives must live in harmony, especially when it comes to children. Second-marriage families face different children. Sometimes when you take your child out, you can't help buying her a lot of things. Some people forget to buy one for their husband's children, although he doesn't say it on the surface, he actually cares. Sometimes on the issue of spending money, it is very clear, as if to prevent thieves, and my heart is very uncomfortable.

Marriage, like drinking water, is self-aware, and only those who have experienced it will understand the ups and downs. From the sweet words in love to the daily necessities after marriage, both of them need to change roles, take corresponding responsibilities and work together to make this family live the life they want. Cherish the present, don't lose it and regret it for a lifetime!

It's my second marriage, too, and only I know the taste. My ex-husband and I divorced because of life conflicts. After the divorce, my son came back to me, and my ex-husband left me and my son a three-bedroom and two-bedroom house that we bought together at that time, and then we didn't have to give the children living expenses every month. My son was only 8 years old at that time. I left in a rage. Ex-husband moved out because of this. However, we still promised to go back to our children's grandmother's house for dinner once a week, so the children didn't find out that we were divorced. It took the children half a year to learn about it. There was something wrong with their study at that time. I said he let slip when he was studying. After the child knew it, he burst into tears and really hurt me. However, our marriage has come to an end and it is impossible to go back to the past.

After two years of divorce, I met my current husband. At that time, I thought others were not bad, and I cared about people very much. I also want to find a father for my child to make up for the lack of fatherly love, so I married him. At first, it was good. Although it is not like a biological father, it is not a big problem for children. But after a long time, there will be more problems. He also has a son, who is six years older than mine. At that time, the child 16 had been living with his grandparents. At that time, I thought the child was older, so I discussed with him and bought him a house for marriage. So I decided to look at the house and choose a house. Pay the down payment, get a loan, and then use my provident fund to fight against it. All this seems natural. After waiting for two years, my son has problems with his studies. I want my children to practice vocal music and see if they like it. If you like, you will take the art student route in the future, and the cultural requirements will be lower. Then find a teacher. One class, 600 yuan, music professor, one class a week, 2400 yuan a month. As a result, he basically ignored the fact that my child was in class, and even went around saying that I was crazy and enrolled my child in such an expensive class. After I know, my heart is half cold. This is the difference between a biological father and a stepfather. Now that I think about it, I was naive. How can a person who is not related by blood treat your child as his own?

Therefore, for remarried couples, you should pay more attention to yourself, don't be too sincere, don't have nothing for a while, people call you a fool, and you naively think that others are with you. Remember, it is the most important thing to live a good life, take care of your children and bring them up. You can never rely on others.

Our village has a daughter-in-law, who was rejected by her husband when she got married for the first time, was forced to divorce, gave birth to a son and left it to the man. In rural areas, the so-called divorce, mostly the woman left home clean.

Later, it was introduced that she married Sanpang in our village. Sanpang is actually not fat, but he was fat when he was a child, ranking third, so he is called Sanpang. The three fat families divorced because of their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the children stayed, but most of them were brought up by their grandmothers. Sanpang works outside all the year round. It's easy to raise children in rural areas, just eat and wear warm clothes.

Then Sanpang remarried and gave birth to a son. The mother-in-law is kind to the daughter-in-law who is three fat and two married. But since Sanpang had a second son, Sanpang's mother has been guarding her daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law was afraid and took all the good things and left them to her son.

Although there is no substantive contradiction. However, from then on, in the heart of Sanpang Ma, this second-married daughter-in-law became the person she had to guard against. One is to stop her from providing assistance to her ex-husband's son. The second is to prevent his eldest grandson from being abused. After all, he is not his own. The third is to prevent the daughter-in-law from being eccentric and only hurting her own son.

In fact, this second-married daughter-in-law has lived a normal life since she got married. Since giving birth to her son, she has been living under the strange supervision of her mother-in-law's house. I have been married for five years, and my son is almost four years old. My husband's family has always regarded her as an outsider. The whole family is on guard against her. I don't know when it will be recognized. It's quite distressing.

She is also very embarrassed. Why should a divorced woman divorce and find a new one? Of course it's not easy. So she kept putting up with it. For the son born to her husband's ex-wife, she just deliberately flatters and never dares to say no more. Because grandparents protect this from talking. Grandparents are not satisfied with their son. May be influenced by her second marriage mother, but also rejected.

Marriage and divorce are no joke, if possible, it is best to match the original. At least there is no barrier in my heart, I don't need to guard against anyone, and I don't need to be guarded. For divorced people, second marriage should be cautious. After all, the cost of marriage and divorce is quite high. The second wedding day is a kind of make-do and suffering for both men and women. It's a pity not to have it, but it's not much better to have it. Difficult!

Tell me about myself. My husband and I are both married for the second time. He is 13 years older than me. At that time, I took a fancy to his honesty and reality, and wanted to find a mature one, so we got together!

Now that we are together, my husband's sister doesn't agree, and his whole family agrees. His sister said I was young and wanted my husband's money. After marriage, I want to prove myself. I didn't care about the money at home, so I gave it to my husband. We got married and had children, but my mother-in-law basically ignored us and kept helping his daughter. At that time, I wanted to work harder, overcome difficulties, take care of my children, and live slowly by myself, only to find out later.

My husband belongs to the kind of real person that everyone talks about. Something happened at home, such as my mother-in-law didn't like anything, and my husband quarreled with me and said I was wrong, which caused so many contradictions in the future.

His sister began to regularly say that I was not good here or there, which made my husband and I often quarrel. I have been forbearing, looking after the children, and my business has just started, so I didn't say anything, thinking that as long as I am sincere to you, you will be good to me in the future. Alas, I was wrong. 14 years ago, no matter what I did, I left home clean last year! I advise all women not to divorce once they get married. If they are divorced, it will be too difficult to get married again.

Second marriage is a boring taste because it is a partnership. Second marriage is a kind of courage and a choice. Perhaps everyone will be more or less worried before entering this second marriage. With the same divorce, men may become more and more valuable, and after divorce, if women want to remarry, it will often become particularly difficult because of age, children and various social concepts. Many women are unhappy in marriage and will choose divorce in the future, but most will choose a man to get married again, not only for themselves, but even for their families.

Second Marriage Because two people have been divorced once, both of them will be on guard, more like sharing partners. To tell the truth, don't divorce unless you have to. There are too many things for a remarried couple. Second-married couples have to face emotional problems and trust problems first, but these two most important things are mutual and can't be decided by you alone. At first, I thought the second marriage was too beautiful. After I really remarried, I experienced all kinds of helpless and endless trivial things every day, which bored me to death.

Therefore, we should try to cherish our other half, understand and tolerate each other, because after divorce, no one can predict what will happen next time we get married.

My parents got married for the second time. As children, let's talk about what it's like to get married from the perspective of children.

I remember when I was very young, my biological grandmother liked to come to my stepfather's house every birthday, but my stepfather was a very narrow-minded person. He has always regarded me as his own daughter, so my grandmother's kind expression actually made me lose more love.

My father is impatient with me occasionally, because my grandmother's family always pesters me and breaks my quiet life in my stepfather's house.

My stepfather is a Buddhist and a very decent person, but since I was repeatedly disturbed by my grandmother's family, my stepfather began to treat me as a very ordinary child, just like his students, very strict and without a smile. Usually, I only care about my grades. If I get good grades, I will win honor for him. If my grades drop, he will think I'm giving him a hard time.

Actually, I feel lucky to be a stepfather's daughter. Compared with the frequent sexual assaults in many families, I am really a child blessed by God. Maybe my grandfather gave my mother a man's eye, so I could grow up safely.

Let's talk about my mother's views on second marriage. She usually likes to chat with me.

She said she wouldn't regret the second marriage because the man he found provided me with a college education. She also said that my stepfather was stingy and never offered to give her money. I've always laughed at my mother. "Children who can't cry have no sugar to eat." When I was a child, I had a lot of money to spend, but I felt my mother was very stingy. Every time my stepfather gave me money, she confiscated it. How angry!