I have millions of relatives. Every time we go to his house, people don't look at us. Do you have such relatives?

Problem: I have a relative with a net worth of over 10 million. Every time he goes to his house, people don't look at us directly.

A: When I meet such relatives, I always go to their house to see my face. It's normal for people not to look directly at you.

My hometown is in Fujian, and the clan culture in our village is well inherited. Every village has an ancestral temple. Even if you have money, people in the village will not go back to live in the village like some local villages.

For example, my family, a relative who is close to us, has a net income of several million to tens of millions a year. He also has real estate in the city, but he will definitely go back to his hometown in the countryside every New Year.

He has a fortune. In my uncle's words, nothing is needed. His assets outside are enough for generations (he has a company in a provincial capital city, and his house has even bought land, not to mention the value of the house, and the land is worth hundreds of millions).

My rich relative is usually in my family and the most active one. He forwarded some chicken soup and positive energy all day, and always called on the people to unite and let the family prosper and survive forever.

Judging from his family's every move at home, he attaches great importance to family culture and should also be a very developed person who attaches great importance to family ties.

But in fact, his words and deeds are quite different from the image he usually shows. The two things that impressed me the most can be seen. The first thing: a rich relative of mine started a joint venture with his cousin and brother-in-law. He accounts for 50%, his brother-in-law accounts for 40%, and his cousin accounts for 10% of the investment.

Although his cousin contributed very little, accounting for 10%, he was also a minority shareholder. When his cousin is old, he doesn't want to work in the company. He wants to go back to the village to enjoy his happiness and leave his position in the company to his son.

In fact, it is not an important position, but a company's logistics, responsible for the trivial matters of the whole company. There are 10 people in this logistics.

His nephew worked in this company for several years, but he was never reused. He took the family money and went to the city next to my relatives, and also opened a similar company.

But it is such a move that makes my rich relatives very angry.

Tell his cousin that your son has worked with us illegally for several years and learned a lot. Now that your wings are hard, you want to fly and fight against us. Another major shareholder of your shares said that they would be cancelled (the other major shareholder is his brother-in-law and is the main operator of the company), and now the shares are converted into cash. If you have no objection, the company's annual dividend will be fine.

Every year, his cousin can get at least hundreds of thousands of dividends. His cousin definitely quit, so he took a hoe and went to the brother-in-law's house in the next village to discuss it. Why should he change my shares into cash?

As a result, I went, and people replied: I never said I would recover your shares. I had nothing to do with that. I'm not worried about what effect it will have on me if your son runs away from home and opens a similar company in other cities.

The truth of this matter is actually that his cousin, who is worth more than 10 million yuan, wants to recover his cousin's shares before he fabricates lies.

The second thing: living in the countryside, some rural customs need to be observed by villagers. Even if my relatives are rich and pay attention to the rules of weddings and funerals in the village, I still have to consult the old people in the village.

These people who know the traditional rural customs used to be called prestigious old people. They represent the authority of rural tradition, and my uncle is a prestigious old man in my village and at home. Usually, no matter who is in the village, I will ask my uncle to preside over weddings and funerals.

My rich relative is no exception. When his grandparents died, when his parents celebrated their birthdays, and when his children got married, the first thought was to let my uncle come forward and let him take charge of the overall situation.

When my uncle helps other families in the village, he will charge some service fees appropriately, but he will accept nothing when he meets relatives.

Not only does he accept nothing, but sometimes he acts as an experienced person to enlighten the younger generation, so that they can let go of their prejudices and contradictions and abide by the traditional customs and rules in rural areas.

For example, one year one of my rich relatives, his son, was getting married. In our village, the rule is that he is a direct relative and has to bear the responsibility of serving tea and water to the guests.

But my rich relative tried to take back his cousin's shares before, but his immediate family was chilling. On that day, many of his immediate family members didn't want to help him and didn't do their job well.

My relatives are also very helpless about this. He is responsible for receiving business partners. He is too busy and has many relatives in the countryside. He can't cope with it on his own. The descendants of his immediate family are unwilling to take the initiative to help, and those who neglect him will make others laugh. He is rich and doesn't even know the most basic manners.

In desperation, he had to ask my uncle for help and let him arrange it. My uncle is also duty-bound, severely criticizing the descendants of immediate family members and asking them to do what they should be responsible for and not to make emotional negative blows.

Under the instruction of my uncle, they will do their job well and avoid making people laugh.

Afterwards, my rich relatives gave me two packs of soft Chinese, thanking my uncle. My uncle didn't care either. They all come from the same family. If they can help, they will help, but what happened next made my uncle complain.

My uncle's eldest son is also doing business outside, which used to be smooth, but it is inevitable that he will encounter difficulties in doing business and his money will not turn around. He has borrowed all the channels he can borrow, and he is still short of 100 thousand, so he thought that with my uncle's position in the village, he could borrow the money

Although my uncle has a high prestige in the village and has helped many villagers with their weddings, funerals and weddings, there are charges, and no one owes anyone. Therefore, my uncle targeted the first target of borrowing money at rich relatives and ethnic groups.

I want to help myself, with little housework and so high annual income. It should be natural for him to pull his face down and borrow 100 thousand yuan. I didn't expect him to be rejected. The reason why he refused was that he had no cash.

After my uncle was rejected, he was really angry with this behavior of employing people first and not using them. He has always been difficult to gossip, so he told the rest of our family about it.

The rich relatives knew that many people were worried about him, and this story spread to his father's ears. His father came to my uncle with 50 thousand yuan. On the one hand, he apologized to my uncle; on the other hand, he also mentioned his son's difficulties.

According to his father, he was afraid that once the money was lent out, he was worried that all his relatives would be the first to ask him for money if they met anything related to money.

It's not like the wind blew his money. There are so many relatives at home. It is a question who borrows money and does not borrow it. He simply decided not to borrow it, no matter who the newcomer was, as long as it was not too expensive.

Then he kept praising his son, saying that his son is not a disloyal person. He always drives home from other provinces to celebrate his mother's birthday. One year, he even took his mother to the provincial capital to package a hotel to celebrate. Give your parents 10 thousand yuan of pocket money every month and cook every time you go home.

What his father said is half true and half false.

Speaking of filial piety, my rich relative is a dutiful son, although he is stingy and serious about money. This can be seen from his daily life and attitude towards his parents.

The fake is that he never borrows money. In fact, he just doesn't want to lend money to his family, his wife and some business partners.

How to communicate with rich relatives to get to know this rich relative, know that he values money very much and doesn't want to have financial entanglements with his relatives at home, so that you can know how to get along with this rich relative.

As far as I know, when other people in the family are free, they don't go to rich relatives' houses to talk about family affairs. Most people who go to his home are his business partners, including his parents and his children, and rarely take the initiative to visit relatives.

Although there is no contact in daily life, we still invite each other and participate in each other when it comes to weddings, funerals and weddings.

That is to say, for this rich relative, it is only nominal, and it has been related for several generations, although it is still a relative. It's just that people don't like to get involved in money with relatives. He is so rich. If you have nothing to do, people will think that you want to borrow money again.

Conclusion: The relationship between relatives should be mutual. Only when they move around more, the affection between relatives will be deeper. However, if they meet rich relatives at home, they are afraid of other relatives coming to the door. Even if you don't have the idea of borrowing money, people are afraid that you will ask him if he will lend it.

At this time, don't embarrass rich relatives. Since every time we go to his house, he doesn't look good, so let's go less often in the future. There is no need to stand on your own subjective consciousness and feel that you should walk around with your relatives more and keep in touch with their feelings.