Doctor joke during pregnancy

This scene, in fact, many treasure mothers have encountered:

The pregnant mother was delivered by caesarean section, holding a urine bag in one hand and struggling to climb onto the delivery bed naked, so she could not control her urination during delivery.

When pregnant mothers are ashamed, many people will advise them: "You are a lump of meat in the eyes of doctors. What are you ashamed of!"

In order to have a baby, for that lovely baby, it is inevitable to go through this situation. Of course there's nothing to say, for the sake of the children.

At this time, the pregnant mother is no longer a person. Her feelings and feelings are not recognized and will be diss. The feeling that her dignity was crushed was too strong.

But at this time, even some pregnant mothers will question themselves: "I am ashamed because I am a doctor, because I am wrong."

Not only in the process of delivery, but also during the whole pregnancy, there are not a few cases in which pregnant mothers encounter "no dignity":

Pregnant mothers must eat nutritious meals arranged by others, although some pregnant mothers can't eat anything during pregnancy;

When a pregnant mother is walking outside, someone will touch her belly without permission;

The behavior and mood of pregnant mothers must be for the children;

Almost everyone around me is telling pregnant mothers what to do and what not to do.

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There are many such situations, and pregnant mothers are deprived of the most basic rights as human beings. These are not as direct as in the production process, but they often make pregnant mothers feel uncomfortable.

When a pregnant mother is pregnant, her mother-in-law and mother always cook some nourishing soup.

No matter what the pregnant mother says to each other: "Eating too much nourishing soup is not good for my health. I really can't eat it."

Mother-in-law and mother are in the same camp: "Don't think for yourself, but also for the children. How can I do without eating? "

When the pregnant mother loses her temper, everyone will come to coax her, but they will not think about why the pregnant mother loses her temper and why she is sad, but "don't be so emotional, be careful with the children."

Not being respected throughout pregnancy.

Many pregnant mothers will also feel: "Others are also good for me. I put up with it for the sake of the children. It is good to have children. "

When people around us are instilling in pregnant mothers that "pregnancy is like this, we should lose our dignity" and "pregnant mothers are great, and greatness should ignore their own feelings", it becomes the beginning of "mothers sacrifice themselves for their children".

Sophia Jared-Wiezell conveyed the idea in TED talk's Lies to Pregnant Women that women, whether pregnant or not, as a whole person, also deserve to be respected by others.

A pregnant mother is a complete person, and will not become "a piece of meat" because she has a child in her stomach, nor will she become shameless because she is "unknown".

Because pregnant mothers are human beings, they have secular desires, and even because of hormones, they are more sensitive than the average person.

I saw some pregnant mothers on the Internet saying that they were ashamed but denied when they were in the hospital because all their emotions were not recognized and respected during pregnancy. Depression accumulated bit by bit from that time and broke out after delivery.

When a normal adult is restricted in freedom, denied by thoughts, and crushed by shame 10 month, who can not be touched at all?

Whether pregnant or a mother, there is no doubt that a woman is an independent person, and she has the right to freedom, whether it is freedom of action or emotional freedom.

The image of a pregnant mother should not be a fixed image: she is dressed loosely, sloppy and has no image, and her mood is changeable.

When the image of a pregnant mother doesn't match this, many people around me will come back and say, "Eat more when you are pregnant, and eat fatter to see if you are thin." "Do you still wear makeup when you are pregnant?" Forget about the baby. "

Many people are complaining that she is an unqualified mother.

Because in the eyes of most people: "It's crazy for a mother to ignore her baby's health for her own benefit."

I thought so at that time, but suddenly I found that I didn't respect each other as an independent person.

We are not in the position of this precious mother, not in what she made this choice for, and what kind of struggle she experienced in making this choice. We don't understand these things, we can not accept them, but as people who are eager to pursue their careers, we should respect each other.

At the beginning of pregnancy, there is a power struggle between pregnant mother and baby: to what extent should mother give in for baby?

Some mothers will give everything for their children, including dignity, freedom and life, so everything is child-centered.

Some mothers hope that after pregnancy and childbirth, they will continue to live the same life as before and go their own way, and will not indulge themselves for the sake of their children.

Of course, these are two extremes, and more treasure moms wander between them: whether to give up on one thing for the sake of children.

In this process of pulling, Ma Bao will weigh whether to give up his rights according to the actual situation.

However, as a woman, a person and a mother, it is normal to have shame and dignity, and her feelings need to be respected.