One of the secrets to the pursuit of happiness: Lower expectations

We are always troubled by all kinds of trivial matters in life. There are always waves of troubles coming one after another. It seems to be getting more and more difficult to enjoy life. In fact, many things are just a troubling thing. The root cause of trouble is that our expectations for some things are too high. When we lower our expectations, we increase our happiness index.

He replied: It is those who have too high expectations.

They always thought that Christmas could be released, but it didn’t happen.

So I thought it could be released on Easter, but it still didn’t happen.

I thought about Thanksgiving again, and finally waited until Christmas.

Repeatedly, they were disappointed again and again in their expectations, and finally their inner strength was gradually defeated. Coupled with the harsh environment, they eventually led to the end of their lives.

When expectations are too high and difficult to achieve compared with reality, why not lower your expectations and accept reality, so that you can face life better and deal with it calmly.

To lower your expectations, don’t overestimate your relationship with your friends.

We always like to call our friends brothers, thinking that when we encounter difficulties, our friends will help us like brothers. In fact, it's more about friends giving you a stab in the arm when you're down.

There is such a group of knives in the entertainment industry, who have staged a very real friendship that adds insult to injury.

When his career was at its peak, actor Yin Xiaotian was framed by an actress, saying that he was acting like a big star on the set and beating up actresses. In fact, Yin Xiaotian didn't hit the actress at all, he kept reasoning with her.

Because it was the woman who struck first, and because she was a woman, public opinion was on the woman’s side.

His friends unknowingly pointed the finger of blame at him, accused him one after another, and asked him to apologize, especially those who were once his best friends, Du Chun, Jia Nailiang, Li Chen, etc. people.

Sometimes, friendship is so vulnerable in the face of interests.

Your actual position in other people's hearts is much lower than what you think you are in others' hearts.

At the same time, we have also seen many incidents where close friends of people stole their boyfriends.

Many people help their friends when they are in trouble, but their friends turn a blind eye to them after they become prosperous.

Some people confide their feelings to their friends, but the next second their friends treat their pain as a joke and spread it to others.

Even brothers and sisters who are sympathetic to each other may be indifferent to you, so how can you expect the friends you have made to help you when you are down.

The world is a hot and cold world, and human relationships are fickle and warm. Never overestimate your position in the hearts of others.

Lowering expectations means not expecting perfect love.

Some people always like to compare their partners with others, hoping that their partners can achieve what they want.

The best love is not that you hope that the other person will become better and better, but that you can accept the other person's shortcomings even though you know them.

My husband is an honest and honest man. I chose him as my lifelong partner because he is generous and kind-hearted.

But after getting along with him for a while, I gradually felt that he was very uninteresting and often couldn't catch the jokes I threw out.

Therefore, I always scolded him and even treated him coldly, which made him even more afraid to express himself, which always resulted in a lose-lose situation for both sides.

Later, after reflection, I realized that my expectations for him were too high. He was originally a straight man, with no interest in words and no rhetoric. But he always shows his kindness to me with practical actions.

It is human nature to have expectations for your significant other, but the premise is that we should not hurt the other person.

The greatest self-discipline for adults is not to have unrealistic expectations of others.

Lowering expectations means reducing demands on others and improving self-worth

We often give orders to the people around us, trying to make them more in line with our inner self, but rarely do we Look at yourself.

It is easier and more important to work hard to improve yourself than to rely on others.

Gu Jia, who is only 30 years old in the TV series, has always wanted to squeeze into the rich lady's social circle in order to help improve her husband's career.

When she attended the party for the first time, she dressed up carefully and chose a Chanel worth 50,000 yuan.

When I arrived at the scene, I found that the rich ladies all had Hermès.

After the party, she took a group photo with the rich ladies, but only at the very edge.

In the end, she discovered that the photos in the WeChat Moments posted by Mrs. Fu had actually been cut off.

Once, Mrs. Li said that the tea factory was profitable. When selling, she fell into this trap and lost 3 million directly.

It was such a blow that made her understand that she cannot be opportunistic and rely on others. If she wants a better life, she must ultimately rely on her own efforts to obtain it.

Later, she also heard that some of those wives who looked glamorous on the surface had been cheated on, some had failed in their careers, and some had their lies exposed.

The beauty they maintain on the surface is just the vanity they want to create.

Later, through his own efforts, Gu Jia managed the tea factory to great success. Although during this period, a wife wanted to lend a helping hand, she refused without hesitation.

We can’t control others, but we can change our own destiny. Don’t place your hope on anyone. Being your own master and controlling your own destiny is the coolest thing.

Therefore, the pursuit of a happy life is simply to lower your expectations.

Whether it is something or someone, we should not have too many extravagant expectations.

Only by facing life pragmatically and walking step by step can you better appreciate the scenery along the way.