Teacher's words 20. Students are in love. How can a class teacher speak without backfiring?

? First of all, before I confronted these two children, I set the golden rule of communication: never judge the value of children's feelings, such as puppy love is harmful, which is purely animal instinct. Children's behavior should never be defined by morality, such as moral corruption and immorality.

? Secondly, when I formally communicated with these two children, I sincerely told them that the teacher respected your feelings and envied you for having the courage to ignore other people's criticisms.

? Why am I talking like this? Is it to please the students? Is it to make peace? Of course not! I do this out of respect for life, because every life, regardless of age, has the right to pursue love. There is also understanding for children who have entered adolescence. Every child who has entered adolescence has been unable to meet the needs of his emotional world. They need an emotion called "love" to fill their emotional world.

? Having said that, some people may refute me and say, do these two children respect other people's feelings? Do you understand other people's situations? The classroom is a public place and a place to study. They ignore the existence of classmates and teachers and do things that violate public order and good customs. You'd better be nice to them and coax them. Excuse me, where do you put other students?

? I can accept this rebuttal, and that's what I think in my heart. However, students with a little sense of privacy and public morality will not do such behavior in class. The point is that these two children don't have these consciousness. In their eyes and hearts, there is no one else and no public morality. All they have is their own emotional needs and release. Telling them about morality and harm is like telling a chicken about a duck. Scolding them from the moral high ground will only arouse their rebellious heart, and finally hide all their shame and moral sense, leaving only their blood against the teacher.

? For this kind of "falling in love first" and at the peak of love, I won't hit Yuanyang. The point is, it's no use fighting! The more I hit them, the tighter I screwed them, and finally turned them into my enemies alive. So, what can I say that won't backfire?

? 1. Express envy first, then respect, and finally understand.

? I found a quiet corner in the school before inviting Hua Gua. Find Huahua and Guagua, hug them, and sincerely and eagerly tell them that I am really touched and envious when I see that you like each other unscrupulously. Only young people will like a person unscrupulously, which has nothing to do with money, property and social status. Only this person is in their eyes. At my age, it's harder to like someone without scruple than to ascend to heaven. I don't know how many calculations are behind this.

? When I was in "Seeds of Love", I longed for someone I liked and liked to appear in front of me, take classes with me, brush the questions together and play together. I think that's the best thing in the world, so I will definitely respect your feelings. I will do my best to protect you, and I will never let you get any harm, and I will not allow anyone to hurt you!

? At present, you are in love, and you can't wait to stay together. I understand that you are deeply in love and make some intimate moves, so I will never scold you in public. I invited you to this secluded place because I didn't want to bring you negative influence.

? This sentence is sincere and reasonable. Huahua and Guagua, who were nervous about coming to fight with me, suddenly relaxed, shy and at a loss, and answered me with a "gnome male-"smile.

? No matter how out of line the students are, the ultimate goal of the class teacher's conversation with the students is to solve the problem, not to create new problems. Therefore, the head teacher should strive to win over the students and let them stand with themselves, rather than win over the students and let them stand on their opposite sides.

? My words won the hearts of Huahua and Guagua. They are no longer wary of me, but are willing to listen to me. Huahua Guagua and I are in the same field of life, and now we need to fulfill each other.

? 2. Introduce stories, analyze advantages and disadvantages, avoid troubles and maximize the benefits of love.

? I told Huahua and Guagua a story about my former students falling in love. Everyone knows that they like each other, and nobody blames them. Because they are very restrained when they are in love, they have never done anything that makes everyone uncomfortable in public, nor have they done anything that should not have happened in private. They admire and encourage each other and become an enviable couple. Even I, the head teacher, sincerely bless them. Their feelings have become a beautiful landscape in the class and a positive teaching material for "puppy love" students.

? This shows that love is not forbidden, but forbidden. It is wrong to harm one's own interests and the future of others. All the feelings that cause discomfort to others in public are despised by others. I don't want my students' pure feelings to be labeled with all kinds of ugly names, and I don't want my students to be looked down upon by others because they are in love. I hope you have a dignified and generous relationship.

So how can we fall in love with dignity?

First of all, the most important thing for men and women is one-on-one loyalty. Therefore, during the relationship between two people, no third person can intervene.

? Secondly, the relationship between men and women pays special attention to privacy. Therefore, even if two people are very close, don't cuddle, kiss or sit on your thighs in public.

? Secondly, the relationship between men and women should also abide by the principle of no harm. You just can't hurt each other, and you can't hurt people around you.

? Finally, if there is true love between men and women, we should think of each other when speaking and doing things, and don't put each other at a disadvantage.

? I didn't deny the feelings of Huahua and Guagua, nor did I judge their feelings. Not only did they not resist my words, but they also promised them that they would not make excessive moves in the classroom in the future. I not only asked for their behavior, but also gave advice on their feelings, and they all accepted it completely.

? I am satisfied with their response and full of trust and expectation for their assurance. The dialogue between teachers and students ended here, and they happily returned to the classroom under my calm gaze.

? Is this the end of things? Of course it's not that simple. After all, underage children are immature, and they are not rational enough and restrained enough when dealing with physical reactions. If you are not careful, you will instinctively show it. Especially Huahua and Guagua are still in love, and their bodies are still secreting a large amount of a chemical called phenylethylamine. This chemical will make men and women who fall in love crazy, and let them have the peak experience of love, and they will never meet like Sanqiu. At the same time, this chemical has a strong side effect, which will make the IQ of men and women in love drop and lose their basic judgment. Will infinitely enlarge the advantages of the other party, turn a blind eye to the shortcomings, and will also interpret the goodwill of others as malicious obstruction or jealousy.

? Men and women in this state, no matter how reasonable the teacher said, turned a deaf ear. No matter how others stop it, it won't help. If teachers curse or are kidnapped by morality, they are shameless! Will they regret it one day? Of course I will regret it! Because the secretion of phenylethylamine has a valid period. Once the validity period ends, the secretion of phenylethylamine will gradually decrease, and the goodwill between men and women will gradually decrease, and eventually there will be no feeling.

? Teachers need to know the truth of love, have a waiting heart, and need a compassion. It is to protect children from physical and mental harm when they are in love. Give warm comfort and relief when the relationship is over.

? While waiting for Huahua and Guagua to release phenylethylamine, I interviewed Huahua and Guagua respectively.

? I taught Guagua to take good care of Huahua, which is a boy's responsibility! A boy who gives girls trouble is not qualified to have love. Guagua agreed with me, so I made a request to Guagua: You can't fiddle with flowers in the classroom, and you can't hold flowers and kiss them. It must be done in private! The first kind of relationship in class is that of classmates rather than lovers. Of course, I also told Guagua not to ask Huahua for sex. After all, both of them are minors, and once they exceed the bottom line, they are likely to get out of control. At that time, no one can please!

? I told Huahua to protect herself. Girls are always at a disadvantage in the emotional game between men and women. First, girls' physique is not as good as boys'; Second, girls will get pregnant. Huahua may not do anything out of line, but the teacher must think of the worst result, so he should preset it in advance. Besides teaching girls self-esteem, they should also be taught protective measures.

? Did my conversation strategy work? It has a significant effect on melon. Since then, their behavior has been restrained and their learning has stabilized in the original state.

? Afterwards, I also reflected and combed my conversation with Huahua Guagua many times. I'm glad I didn't say myth. It's all true nonsense. I am also glad that I didn't talk nonsense. If I don't agree, I will deny students' feelings and character. I am glad that I have spoken human words, stood in the position of people, understood people's needs and given students respect and support. Of course, I didn't give up the principle and let the students go with the flow.

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