What is the correct thing to do if someone else laughs at themselves?

Contemporary society has produced a new social skill, which is self-deprecating social interaction. However, when others laugh at themselves, it doesn't matter if it's self-deprecating or humorous. But once you go along with it, it becomes exposing a shortcoming and losing your grace. In life, we often hear friends around us laugh at themselves. For example, tell your own mistakes or shortcomings as jokes. However, this kind of self-deprecation may be to gain recognition from others in a certain aspect, or to liven up the atmosphere. But no matter what, you must not follow along, otherwise it will easily put others and yourself into an embarrassing situation.

When many people are in a social environment outside their comfort zone, they usually encounter a problem, that is, they are unable to let go of their suppressed thoughts and say what they want to say. For example, when others are joking, I can only sit aside in embarrassment, not knowing how to interrupt; when someone accidentally "offends" me, I just respond with a smile and don't dare to argue; I am often worried that I will say something. Inappropriate words made the atmosphere tense, so he always behaved tremblingly. Although speaking is an "exposed" skill, the improvement of inner psychological quality is also a very important part.

I only agree to compliment the other person. Life is hard enough and it would be too vicious to step on others. Wouldn't it be better to maintain some goodwill toward each other... We have a good relationship with each other and have small shortcomings, such as my best friend mocking herself for being short and having single eyelids, and my high school classmate mocking herself for having a big head, so I would laugh at them by the way. Of course not if you have a normal relationship in public! Self-deprecation is an open-minded act of complaining about oneself and daring to expose one's own shortcomings in a joking way before others do. If you are the kind of person who feels suppressed when speaking, ask yourself, have you never dared to laugh at yourself? I believe you definitely “don’t have the guts”!

In fact, in reality, there are many people who laugh at themselves about their own shortcomings, and they all have the same mentality. Self-deprecation, on the surface, seems to be about laughing at one's own shortcomings. In fact, others just use self-deprecation to cover up their anxiety and uneasiness, so as to get some comfort from others. Rather than really wanting to make others laugh at your shortcomings. Therefore, we must not echo other people’s self-deprecation or deepen the harm to others. Instead, try to comfort the other person and maintain the self-esteem of others. This is what a person with high emotional intelligence would do.