Why do I not want to communicate with others and just want to close myself off?

You are very introverted! Introversion Chinese philosophy since ancient times believes that human nature is quiet. The Chinese admire nature and emphasize the integration with nature. This is the so-called "unity of man and nature".

We stand in the boundless When you are in the wilderness, when you stand in front of the winding stream, when you stand on the high mountain with clouds, you look at the peaceful sky and listen to the various sounds of nature.

What a feeling it will be. Quiet, so comfortable. Come to think of it, if there is a rock song at this time, it will be so disappointing! There will be no meaning at all!

Nature is speechless, and people who respect nature, it does not matter if they are speechless. ?

There is nothing wrong with introversion. If possible, we hope that the other half of the world can understand it.

Introversion is a legitimate and reasonable personality. There are two legitimate personalities in this world: extroversion and introversion.

Introversion is not a neurosis.

Introverts are no more likely to be mentally ill than other people.

Introversion is not antisocial.

Introverts don’t have nothing to say.

Introverts are better at listening.

No need to apologize to others for being alone.

Introverts are not losers.

Justice for children who are misunderstood because of their introversion.

Don’t let a chatty extrovert interrupt you while you’re reading a good book.

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Introversion and extroversion are dimensions of personality, and there is no distinction between good and bad. Introversion and extroversion are on a continuum, and introversion and extroversion are at opposite ends of this continuum. In real life, we use both sides of this continuum. Just like some netizens asked: "Why do I sometimes be cheerful and talkative, but sometimes I don't like to talk?" In fact, this means that one thing is used in one situation, and another thing is used in another situation. side things. We all have an innate preference for one side or another. If we lean more toward the extroverted side, we are extroverts, and if we lean toward the introverted side, we are introverts. If someone is more extroverted, then his extroversion will be more obvious; if someone is more introverted, then his introversion will be more obvious. Similarly, there will also be people who are right in the middle of this continuum, that is, their biases account for 50% of each. It does not mean that an introvert is introverted at all times and on all occasions. He can also be extroverted at certain times and on certain occasions. It is just that he is introverted most of the time and on occasions. To use another analogy, introversion and extroversion are actually like our left hand and right hand. Both our left hand and right hand must be used in life, it's just which hand we are more accustomed to using. If you are an extrovert, then extroversion is like your right hand and introversion is like your left hand. Just like you have to use your left hand sometimes, you are also introverted sometimes. Likewise, if you are an introvert, then introversion is like your right hand and extroversion is like your left hand, and just as you have to use your left hand sometimes, you are also extrovert sometimes. (The above example assumes that we are all right-handed)

Although there is ongoing debate about whether there are more extroverts or introverts in the world, recent research shows that among Americans , there are equal numbers of introverts and extroverts.

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Most extroverts don’t understand introverts, because extroverts always hope that the world is open and people can communicate and communicate. When faced with people they cannot understand or who require more cost to understand, they often choose to give up.

As a social animal, introverts often want to integrate into society, but they lack the means or are unable to overcome some of their own shortcomings.

Extroverts can obtain more resources and recognition, and are often more likely to be in a higher status, while introverts often have difficulty obtaining group recognition, resulting in frustration.

An interesting phenomenon occurs at this time. Introverts are often labeled as "losers". As a group, just like disabled people, they are discriminated against due to certain defects of their own. The difference is that disability is often considered unchangeable, while introversion is considered self-inflicted. This kind of discrimination is most obvious when women choose men (or men choose women) (this is another big topic and will not be described here).

The reasons for the formation of introverted personality are very complicated and cannot be explained by the sentence "it is formed after many wrong solutions to things". The most direct way to put it is that introversion and extroversion are relative. There are always half of the people who are "less extroverted" than the other half. They are often called introverts (of course, I admit that this is not a good way to say it. There are other argument, but I think that is not the essence of the problem, so I won’t mention it).

I am an introvert, but this does not prevent me from expressing my opinions. I guess in a way I understand people's thoughts better than extroverts do. I think people are kind in nature, and I can clearly understand my own strengths and weaknesses, but I prefer to express myself modestly, which may be considered insufficiently confident. I don’t feel like others are deliberately snubbing me. Although I am often snubbed, I always think it’s because I don’t perform well enough. Indeed, I prefer to bear the pressure myself rather than tell others, but this is only in the private realm.

There has been a big misunderstanding. I remember someone once asked me, if a few of you introverted friends sat together, wouldn't you stare at each other and not say a word for a long time? To be honest, in my impression, when we are with them, we should not only talk eloquently, but also be hearty. It’s not that introverts don’t have opinions in their hearts, and it’s not that introverts don’t have the talent to talk. Introverts may lack humor, and introverts may lack courage, but they are always rich inside.

If you refuse to be introverted, you may not become a better person! But there will definitely be more people who think you are great!

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The reasons for the formation of introversion are various. It can be said that it is the result of the simultaneous effects of psychology, environment, genetics, etc. Regardless of the reasons for the formation of introverted personality, we can divide it into two types, as the title says, true introversion and false introversion.

What is true introversion? A mother came to me with her son and was very anxious when talking about her child. His son is about to enter junior high school now. He has not been very lively since he was a child. At the time, he thought it was nothing and he would get better when he grows up. But as the child grows older, his condition has not changed at all, but his condition has become more and more serious. At school, teachers reported that he was timid and introverted, never spoke in class, rarely spent time with other students, and kept to himself. Parents and teachers have discussed this issue several times, but nothing can be done. Get to know the situation by talking to the child. It turns out that this child's parents divorced and lived in a single-parent family since he was a child. He has a sense of inferiority deep in his heart and is very confused about his current and future life. He rarely communicates with his mother. In such an environment, he developed a withdrawn personality. character. When asked why he didn't talk to other students, he replied, "I don't like to communicate with others. I like to be alone and don't want to have contact with the outside world." Parents are worried about what they will do if this continues and they will enter the society in the future. No matter how highly educated you are, what if you don’t have contact with the outside world? In the end, the child's mother wants to keep her son and participate in the "Psychological Quality" course training, hoping to change her son's situation.

Seeing the child's unwilling expression, we politely rejected him...

From this case, we seem to have seen a true introvert, which has the following characteristics: 1. Does not take the initiative to contact the outside world. If you are passive, you may just cope with it; 2. You don’t want to contact others and lack the interest in interacting with others; 3. You have no urgent desire to change yourself.

What is false introversion? It can be said that false introversion has a relatively high proportion among introverts and is also relatively common. We may have encountered such people in our lives. They are eloquent and eloquent in front of people close to them, but when they come into strange situations and come into contact with strangers, they become speechless. During the reception consultation call, a student asked us for help: She is a college student who doesn't talk much, is introverted, and has had few friends in the past few years. She really hopes to be like other classmates, talking and laughing, and making friends in groups. But I feel uncomfortable, nervous and blushing in front of my classmates. She also said that she wanted to communicate with others and make friends, but she never had the courage to say anything, what topics to talk about, or to ask for help.

First of all, from the consultation call we received from him, we can determine that her situation is false introversion, because his most typical characteristic is that he is eager to change himself. Secondly, she is eager to contact and communicate with others; her psychological quality is poor, accompanied by shyness, nervousness, etc., which prevents her from contacting the outside world.

From the above two examples, we can easily see that the difference between true introversion and false introversion lies in the desire to change oneself urgently. Among the many introverted students who come to the center for training, most are also fake introverts. Whether you want to change or not means that during the training process, one is trying to cope with it with all his strength, and the other is trying his best to cooperate with the teaching, and the results will naturally be different. Therefore, before we accept students, there is a clear condition: urgently change yourself! This is a responsibility to the students, and it is also a safeguard for the long-term reputation of the center.

Therefore, if you are still struggling on the cliff of pain... then, while someone can help you, you also need to lend a hand and grab the reins of fate. Only then can we reach the other side of victory!

As an introvert, it may be really difficult for me to change, because for us introverts, the biggest enemy is ourselves! Rather than always being viewed as “losers,” why don’t we work hard to give introverts like us a breath of fresh air?

I often remind myself to work hard and come on, even if we can have nothing, at least we must have a goal. Maybe we have lost our way, but we can tell ourselves "No one in the world can predict "Future!", so we should learn to be brave. Perhaps tears have become a habit for most people with this personality, including me, but instead of wasting time, don't work hard! Maybe we can't change anything, but at least we can grow in pain! Maybe in our hearts we feel that our shortcomings outweigh our advantages, but we can think of something happy, such as jokes, etc. At least loneliness is not as good as emptiness! Emptiness is the pinnacle of human beings...

Believe that "there will always be a rainbow after the storm" and "you don't know what will happen tomorrow". If you want others to know how to cherish you, If I trust you, then you must cherish and believe in yourself first! I hope people of our kind can work together! Come on together!

As an introvert, it may be easier to feel distressed and embarrassed, and more eager to change oneself; we believe that introverts are extremely in need of help, but in fact, another situation is emerging in society, such as banks They will lend large amounts of money to companies with good performance to make them stronger, but on the contrary, they will give away a dime to companies with declining performance and let them fend for themselves. In today's society and schools, part-time jobs or clubs will arrange interviews to sweep away introverts. Go out and leave training positions for extroverts. In this way, we find that it is actually difficult for introverts to change, because the competition between the weak and the strong is cruel. Therefore, introverted friends should actually organize themselves voluntarily and organize their own clubs, where everyone can get exercise. Clubs should pay more attention to the development of extremely introverted friends, so that everyone can feel the connection between people here. love and warmth.

It is difficult to lose weight, and it is also difficult to change an introverted personality. Forced weight loss will be very effective, and introversion also needs forced change--but it must be based on love--because I love you, so I want you to change. Introverts should also strengthen their moral and intellectual cultivation. When a person achieves moral and intellectual achievements, he will naturally have the confidence to speak out, and he will naturally stand in the hearts of others - in fact, the most important element of success is What matters is not character, but quality.

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Interpretation

1. Domestic-oriented

Example: introverted economy

2. (Character, thoughts and feelings, etc.) deep and not exposed

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Example: Xiao Li is introverted. | He is an introvert and does not express his opinions easily.